such a bad mood atm and consultant whinge

[valleygirl24]

in the past few days Ive been feeling really emotional, hormonal and touchy. The least little thing has had me on the verge of tears. Just want to be left alone I think.
Im also getting very uncomfortable, and all yesterday late afternoon and evening my lower back was killing me.

Didnt help that I went to the consultant yesterday for my appointment, requested to see the consultant himself instead of a registrar but was warned we would be there for hours as he had loads before us and he would probably give our folder to the registrar anyway, they explained that the registrar yesterday was a senior one so would be pretty good. We decided to see him, but he was useless, I honestly dont know why I had the appointment.
It was supposed to be to discuss the growth scan etc but we went in, he asked how far gone I was, had me to lay down, poked about to feel where the baby was, put the doppler in a completely different area so couldnt find the heartbeat until he started pushing the baby around from the outside, he felt for the head and measured my bump and told me to go back in 3 weeks if I havent had the baby by then. I told him on the way out that I had a growth scan on friday which said the baby was big, he took my notes back off me, looked at the report and told me it was fine and sent me on my way.
WTF was the point in that appointment? All he done was what the midwife had done on tuesday, he didnt look at the notes written by everyone else, not even the midwife who took my bp before I went in his room as she found glucose in my waters AGAIN.
Dont know what I can do about it but Im really not happy with the appointment I had, any suggestions????

 

[hellie123]

I would contact them and say you are not satisfied with the outcome of your appointment. I work as a secretary within a department at the hospital and if our patients aren't satisfied they ring and then they request to see the Consultant again.

Sorry so hear that you are feeling emotional, I am just the same, doesn't take much to set me off into floods of tears - Have lots of these

 

[EllieBelle]

Its such an emotional time............

Im presuming you went to the hospital to see the consultant because you had to have a growth scan? If so then the fact they said everything was fine must be a good thing

If you are really that unhappy I would suggest calling the hospital and trying to get some answers to your concerns!

Hope you feel better soon, its a horrid time at the moment - I know as Im going through it myself

 

[valleygirl24]

While he said everything was fine he had only glanced at my scan report. what bothered me was the fact I had to tell him I had a scan done as he couldnt be bothered to read the notes, and it was very much like a conveyer belt. Personally I dont think everything was fine with the results, while the baby is still growing along the line of the graph it has been on the 97% for a while which is why they have been repeating the scans to keep an eye on it.
Think I may ring them this afternoon and see if I can go and see someone else on Monday as I dont feel like cared. On friday after I had the scan the midwife suggested I have a think about the options for birth as he would probably want to discuss them

 

[EllieBelle]

Do they think you bubs is too big??

What does the MW measure bubs at??

Definitely call them if you are concerned!!

Good luck hun

 

[valleygirl24]

Yeah they said the baby was 6lb 8oz on friday so Im looking at a good 9lb full term. When my fundal height is measured it tends to be either correct or 1cm bigger, yet the measurements from the scan say baby was measuring a good 3 weeks ahead

 

[Mik]

Aw hun I agree give them a ring and say you want to talk to someone about your scan. They can be out by as much as 20% on their estimates (though of course that goes both 20% lower and higher). Hope you are feeling better soon

Edited cos I put the laughing smiley instead of the hug one sorry hun I wasn't laughing at you

 

[valleygirl24]

I rang them and they cant book me in next week to see anyone but apologised for the bloke I seen yesterday, said he can have an unfortunate dismissive tone but he wouldnt have left anything thats wrong unmentioned. They did however offer to bring the following appointment forward by a week and have said it will be with a consultant. Apparently they wouldnt consider delivering before then anyway so hopefully I can go up there and will discuss a plan of action.
Its made me feel slightly better but Im still not happy with yesterday, if they know the bloke has a dismissive tone then theres obviously been other complaints, so why do they still have him there????

 

[Mik]

I suppose it could be that he isn't a great people person but a fantastic obstetrician alot of people who are really good in their field of work find it hard to talk to people. Maybe they shouldn't have him doing the ante-natal clinic and let him stick to the delivering bit.

 

[valleygirl24]

thats what I thought, keep him in an office. Why use him to talk to a bunch of hormonal, emotional wrecks (or is that just me atm?), majority of who are having issues with their pregnancy.

 

[EllieBelle]

Unfortunately hun a lot of consultants dont have a good "bedside manner" but are the best in their field at what they do!

I guess I would rather have someone looking after me who was well known for their superior medical skills, rather than personality, but I know its difficult when you have to deal with these people!

9lbs at term doesnt sound too bad (I thought 8lbs ish was the average now).........a friend of mine had her son naturally this morning and he weighed in at 10lbs 2oz - A big ouch - her text started with "god that hurt" !

I hope they give you your options soon though.......do you know whats likely to happen??

 

[valleygirl24]

the bloke i seen wasnt the actual consultant apparently, he was a senior registrar. The one I'll be seeing in 2 weeks is the consultant and tbh hes fantastic, good in his field but a lovely person as well (he removed abnormal cells from my cervix a year or so ago)

The midwife told me to have a think about the options available but agreed that she cant see why I wouldnt be able to go naturally. Im hoping they will let me try and then have c section as backup if it doesnt work out