Struggling and feeling alone!

[Charliebump3]

Hi ladies I apologise now for my whinge but I just need to vent.

I am 8 weeks now and the morning sickness is horrendous, my pelvis is agony and im so tired. I feel like I'm drowning. The washing is over flowing the ironing pile is huge. I'm struggling to keep on top of the house work and I am sick to death of falling over junk!

I don't really have much in the way of support. I have my husband and a few friends but no one to talk to. I tell my hubby that I am struggling and he just says we will get through this together yet he still leaves dirty pots and clothes around for me to clean! He doesn't help much im lucky if he does the dish washer every so often. I get really cross because he tells me to rest but he refuses to help. Now he is expecting me to return to work next month when I feel this rubbish. I actually don't know how I can. I'm a staff nurse and I can't stand for more than 20 a mins before my pelvis gives in and causes huge amounts of pain. (Half my pelvis keeps rotating out of place).

I don't know what to do I am struggling and I really can't cope! I'm going to the doctors tomorrow to see if I can go back on anti depressants. I have PTSD from my last birth and I am full of anxiety at the moment. Even if I can't have anything they can refer me for counselling again.

Sorry for my ranting

 

[Unicorn]

I'm so sorry to hear that you're having such a rough time Charliebump3, is it possible for you to get someone in to help with the housework? We have a cleaner who comes every other week just to keep on top of things and it's a real help, we'll definitely continue with it when we have a little one xx

 

[Blueclass]

Morning, Firstly you are not alone and i'm sure lots of woman go through this. I'm sure your doctor will reassure you of that. Secondly your 8 weeks so you shouldn't have to long left of the sickness. Could you not take anti sickness? Thirdly your husband sounds a bit of an arse, sorry! Sounds like your really struggling and his not doing an awful lot to help you. Have you tried writing an letter to him explaining everything? It's easy for is to hear someone talk but not completely take it in. Maybe write your feelings down and leave it for him to find. Reading it will help him process it. If your still feeling rubbish and can't go back to work then you can't, there's not much you can do about it. I'd be worried about your pelvis though that does not sound good. I really hope you get some support and advice from doctors. Good luck hun.
It will get better!!
Xx

 

[umbongo]

What a nightmare. I feel a little like this and although my husband will help he doesn't clean much and never tidies unless I nag.
I don't think they realise how debilitating feeling sick all the time is! Your pelvis sounds awful too,I had that last time do half expecting it to restart any day now. You should get a physio referral and a support belt which might help?
I don't think you sound ready to go back to work, your husband will have to realise you and your baby come first. The first trimester tends to be the hardest, not least because you don't tell people and the nausea is not noticeable.
Big hugs,I hope that the Dr is helpful. Xxx

 

[Charliebump3]

No appointments left by the time I got through, it's so hard to get an appointment. I see the midwife tomorrow for the first time so I will tell her how I feel.
Umbongo have a physio and a support belt. I have been seeing her since I was 32 weeks with my youngest. She has just refered me on to have an MRI and possibly surgery if needed but this will have to wait now. My job has compulsory long days (13.5 hours) the ward is manic and there is alot of bed transfers and running about. My physio said no to going back to work but we can't get a mortgage unless I go to work! We can't afford to rent a 4 bed house but we can afford the mortgage repayments, it's like a £250 difference. Its about £850 upwards for renting but mortgage is less than £600! Xx its all so messed up.

Id love a cleaner unicorn but its not something I can afford plus I'm so embarrassed about the mess I didn't wont anyone to come in. I don't even invite friends around. Hubby says I an over reacting and the house is fine then mocks me for having OCD

Blue class I really hope the sickness goes because last time it stuck around to the end! I did have cyclizine last time because I ended up losing a stone in a month because I couldn't eat. I tried to talk to him again last night but just doesn't understand or listen. I thought about writing a letter but he would probably just mock spelling or grammar mistakes!

 

[Blueclass]

It's not really the sickness, it's the head aches that's the worst. I only get a wave of sickness when I'm hungry. Lots of heaving but nothing comes up. Anyway how you feeling today x

 

[MelC2011]

Aww you're not on your own hun, we're all here to support each other.

Sending huge hugs your way xx

 

[Charliebump3]

Thanks everyone it's nice to know im not alone! I just had another melt down god im sick of these hormones x

 

[MelC2011]

I too had a melt down earlier ... at Hubby of all people.
Threw a complete wobbler as he was upstairs and didn't hear me calling him that dinner was ready.
I was so angry my heart was pounding... then got upset as I stressed myself out and was worried for baby xx

Hormones indeed !!!