Strain on relationship

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Is lo puttig a strain on your relationship? I am actually wondering if I can put up with him all weekend he is annoying me that much . I hope this is just stress of having 7 week old baby xxxx
 
Oh yes. Me and oh are constantly arguing and him being a smoker doesn't help. He doesn't smoke in the house It's just the smell and him being around baby. It's causing So many problems. And now I'm so used to the arguments I'm finding If we don't argue I find something to argue about And I'm Hating it because i don't want to push him away x
 
At first yes. My OH could not cope with the baby and I thought he might leave and never come back but he's got better and better. We do argue more than we used to but I think that's sleeplessness etc


 
It's starting to, but it's mainly because my OH started off as Superdad and has steadily declined lol.
 
Can I also say I find it all a lot easier when he's not at home!


 
My hubby has really stepped up to the plate since the baby came.

I'm astounded to be honest.

He does snap at me a bit more but he has taken to doing a lot of the chores etc in the house and running me baths and taking the baby out for walks. It's quite amazing how he has changed.
 
We're not arguing, but seeing him sit there while I'm trying to cook dinner and care for a screaming baby at the same time pisses me off immensely. I think it's normal when you've got a young baby so don't worry it all gets easier when you're not so tied to the baby.
 
I think mine has got better my OH has been great with the LO. We still have our arguments but who doesn't argue xxx
 
Don't get me wrong he is a brilliant dad ... But , he's really bugging me just now and I'm sure he thinks I'm super woman and don't need a break . Aghh everything he is doing is annoying me even the way he talks to me ! I have just got which I'm assuming is my first period after being pregnant so that might have something to do with it ... Uch !! Thanks for all your replys I needed a right moan about him . Xxx
 
I was going to post exactly the same thing today!! I'm loads less stressed when he's at work! I stayed with my mum this week & it was lovely as she was so helpful & knew exactly what to do with Isaac but OH just doesnt. He overstimulates him & keeps him awake when he clearly needs to sleep & can't cope when he cries. He totally buggers up our routines & he's noisy when Isaac is sleeping. I change all the nappies as he's so bloody slow he leaves Isaac to wee & poo everywhere while he faffs about & then we have to change his clothes & OH gets all stressy, much easier to just do it myself! And now he's just had the nerve to have a moan at me for leaving the sponge in the sink when I washed up! I find we're constantly bickering now & I feel stressed when he's around. Good to know it's not just us, hope it gets better, men eh?!
 
Don't get me wrong he is a brilliant dad ... But , he's really bugging me just now and I'm sure he thinks I'm super woman and don't need a break . Aghh everything he is doing is annoying me even the way he talks to me ! I have just got which I'm assuming is my first period after being pregnant so that might have something to do with it ... Uch !! Thanks for all your replys I needed a right moan about him . Xxx

I had the worst PMT with my first period, sooooooooo angry!!
 
its because they arent part of the routines and dont know the things you do. also they dont do things the same way with lo which can be annoying but at the end of the day you have to try and let it slide if its not that important. baby will learn the difference between mummy and daddy and if you want them to do something with lo or some chores then just tell them. it works for me lol
 
Not really a strain, just that I'm grumpier than usual - which he already knows how to deal with, LOL! He's very hard to pick a fight with.
 
Oh yes. I was having another row with the OH at 3am last night. I am so stressed with a new baby, reflux, colic and I am not in good health at all and he is being a lazy git. He won't wake up at night to do any feeds and I have had 11hours sleep in 96 hours!!!!!! I actually said to him I feel like a single parent so may as well be!!!!! think it shocked him a little. lol. x
 
We have been the same. We hardly ever argued and have done nothing but bicker since LO was about 4 weeks old.

We had a big blow out recently and both agreed we need to try harder and so far so good.


 
With OH being a student he has had the last 3 weeks off and going back Monday and I can't wait I think I might do a little dance. Not to be rude he has been a great help but he is doing my head in. Keeps telling me how to look after our baby. Driving me mad.
 
With OH being a student he has had the last 3 weeks off and going back Monday and I can't wait I think I might do a little dance. Not to be rude he has been a great help but he is doing my head in. Keeps telling me how to look after our baby. Driving me mad.

I sent my OH back to work after a week. He only lasted that long because I had a section!


 
We each of us threaten divorce every other day right now.

Shouting and swearing at each other in loud whispers so as not to upset the baby. He ruines the routine and thinks i'm ridgid and colding him out, I think he's selfish and noisy.

He goes to work and then the gym, I just want an half an hour off a night to have some food or a bath, my demands are fairly basic but you would think i was asking for time to do something outrageous, as soon as my meal or my bath last more than 10 minutes he starts snapping at me to hurry up.

He says that i nag and tell him off constantly when he is trying really hard (to be fair he does do all the cooking and the cleaning) and that neither of us has been out for weeks with friends and it shouldnt be so miserable.

Sigh......... I dont know, I'm trying to see his side too, its true he doesnt go out but instead stays up til 3 playing GTA then wakes the baby coming upstairs drunk, then starts snoring and i have to resettle the baby for an hour or two! I could just punch his lights out!
 
I've told DH to leave on more than one occasion recently. Thankfully he realises I don't really mean it - well most of the time.

I guess men just don't get what we deal with all day, then we're prob guilty of getting annoyed that they don't do things our way. Lol

I assume it gets better when your both more used to LOs

Xxx
 

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