Still sad :o( scan Wednesday

[lmarszall]

Hi All,

Thanks for the advice the other day. Unfortunately i still feel terrible. I have a scan wednesday and don't want to go. I just feel like i don't want to see anything.

When he kicks i hate it and all the baby stuff in the house like moses basket and clothes make me want to cry and i just want to throw them out of the window.

And everytime someone asks me something about the baby i want to cry.

Whats wrong with me

Lau
x

 

[x-kirsty-x]

Have you read about antenatal depression?

I dont know much about it but I know its a recognised medical condition and it sounds as though you're really not happy.

Sorry I cant be much help

 

[Sammystar]

aww you poor thing
you need to speak to your doc about this. Sounds like you're depressed. It's common during pregnancy so don't feel alone......there's help available. The fact that you can say how you're feeling is a really good sign. Try to think positive, you are not alone....

 

[Sabrina]

Aww hugs Laura.

Have a word with your GP or MW this week I'm sure they'll be able to help.

Being worried and down isn't unusual in pregnancy but if it carries on for a long time you should try to speak to someone (a professional) about it.

 

[lmarszall]

I have my midwife friday but i don't know how i can talk to her.

She has never been a very caring person. Very quick and uninterested.

I wouldn't even know how to go about talking to anyone 'real' in person about any of this.

I can't even talk to DP. I'm scared he'll hate me....

 

[Emmylou]

Have a look at this site hun..........has some useful contact info......you can email them too so you don't need to feel quite so worried about opening up.

I hope you manage to find the right support, we are obviously all here for you....but these guys have better knowledge of antenatal depression.

http://www.forparentsbyparents.co.uk/pr ... ssion.html

 

[*saulino*]

Hi

Hun if you dont want to talk to your MW talk to your doctor he will understand it happens to some people and its not yoru fault
It is best to get help before LO arrives as it might trigger even worse PND
Katrina

 

[xNataliex]

Hi Laura

I agree with the others. You need to talk about it with someone, your GP is probably best. If you can't take your partner, take a friend or someone you feel close to. No one will judge you at all. It's perfectly normal.

Hope you feel better soon, you can always talk to us xxxxxxx

 

[neeko_1]

anything that we are going to say is going to make you feel better...

when you go for you scan i think you should really go and speak to your midwife.. before it gets any worse... if not then make an app with you doc.. just try and seek advice

hun please try and get some help

thinking of you

 

[lmarszall]

If it's normal why does no one else feel like this.

I should be so happy being blessed with a baby, especially after losing one last July.

But i'm not, and DP won't understand. I just text him and he said oh your just stressed you'll be fine when the baby gets here, blah blah blah...

x

 

[MissGobby]

ohh hunni sit down with your DP and tell him how your feeling!!!

im sorry i dont have any advice just wanted to give you these

 

[trixipaws]

i'm so sorry u feel down u must get help b4 LO arrives, dont just hope it will go away

 

[neeko_1]

If it's normal why does no one else feel like this.

I should be so happy being blessed with a baby, especially after losing one last July.

But i'm not, and DP won't understand. I just text him and he said oh your just stressed you'll be fine when the baby gets here, blah blah blah...

x

did you try resreaching on the net for anything?? maybe find some stuff and show OH about it??

hun where all here for you if your OH has no understanding a tall

 

[Red_Fairy]

ive suffered from bouts of depression my whole life - you really need to speak to somone. Maybe your mum?
Its almost expected in pregnancy, what with all the changes and hornmoans going on in your body. It can be fixed - your NOT at fault.

you'll feel so much better if you talk to somone. Please do so.

 

[Marymary]

Is it pre-pregnancy life u miss and want back? Because it may help for u to think about what it is exactly u miss from then, normally ull find that actually u dont want that after all but with our rose tinted glasses weve made our "old" life into something it wasnt.

I think about myself as being such a party animal back then but actually while i was doing that all the time i was always talkin with my OH about kids, how we'd bring them up, where we'd go with them and how we'd be. And felt like we were just killing time before the big thing.

What did u want before pregnancy? If it was pregnancy then maybe it is a bout of depression therefore nothing to feel blame or guilt about as its something that takes over but u can get help for

 

[enn]

sounds like post natal depression but i thought u got that after pregnancy or do u get it during?

http://www.rcpsych.ac.uk/mentalhealthin ... ssion.aspx

 

[*glow*]

Hey honey

I had a TERRIBLE phase of crying which I mentioned to my MW. Thought I was going mental. I went to see a Midwife who deals with ante and post natal DP. As it turns out it was just a phase of hormones and I feel ok now. (not nice at the time though). Never seen that midwife again but believe me it helped LOADS at the time.

Whatever is going on, dont feel ashamed, the worst thing you can do is bottle it all up! I felt like they would label me if I admitted it but I honestly felt 150% better when I went to see that MW - she told me its really common. Just to put this on your mind - she said it happens all the time and some people are cured by just having a 'stranger' to cry to.

(that was actually me, I was just ridiculously hormonal, thank god its passed)

One final thing - are you sleeping ok? Seems thats one of the symptoms of ante natal DP and yes, it does exist and can go away the min the baby is born. So please please dont worry or feel ashamed. Speak to someone, Gp or midwife or even Cow and Gate advisors (log on to their website they have advisors that are trained to deal with it).

Of course we are all here for you, but others are trained.

Let us know how you go honey xxx

Big xxx

 

[Tangerinedream]

Hun, sorry you feel like this please go to your gp, im sure they will be able to put you in touch with the right people to help

 

[lmarszall]

hi,

Thanks for the advice.

No i'm not sleeping at all. I am usually awake till 7 am when DP goes to work.

And i'm not eating much either, now, i'm just not hungry anymore

Lau
x

 

[trixipaws]

hey hope ur ok keep us updated let us kno how ur getting on x