Still hurts

[MrsDraven]

I've taken to not going to our local too often now because the questions still pop up. I went on bonfire night and when going to the toilet overheard one of the locals saying 'isn't she pregnant?' to a harsh shush from his wife. I know he didn't mean any harm, no-one had told him that we lost it, but it smarted quite a bit. Had another woman after that, lovely lady and again meaning well asking how I was doing after it all. I know they all mean well and none of it was done to be nasty but it still hurts, I don't like going there so much now because it gets brought up and I can't explain it to a whole club/pub.
The hospital said my due date would have been February 10th so I'm not looking forward to that either. I want to avoid people on that day as much as possible but then it'll be questions galore as to why I'm upset all day.
I miss my Angel Baby

 

[netty]

i'm so sorry hun, i have had a few moments like that a guy at work who i hadnt seen since i was pregnant came up to me and said'' ooo your not showing are you'' i was devasted but its not his fault.

I have been crying this morning listening to ed sheerans song little bump about a MC his mate had, i proper bawled my eyes out plus the witch came yesterday so i think i needed it!

Big huns hun, let it out if you need to xxxx

 

[kedi376]

Sorry to hear it still hurts hun, this time will pass and soon everyone will know and hopefully not talk to you about it.

It's like you want to put a sign around your neck, so people will read it then not ask the questions. Something like "had MC, I'm fine, I'm coping but please don't talk to me about it"

 

[MrsDraven]

It really is tempting to walk around with a sign. I figured they may have gotten that I didn't want to talk about it due to the fact I stopped going there for so long just to avoid the questioning but I guess not.

 

[CARNAT22]

Luckily very few people know about our losses. Well number one all of our families knew about but number 2 and 3 we had kept very quiet.

I am glad we did, it at least take off the pressure of wondering what 'other people think'

It will always hurt a little bit Mrs Draven, the only upsdie is that int ime it starts to hurt a little less.

Had I not miscarried back in May I would have been due on 4th Jan. I am going to get pi55ed on that day

This part of the forum is fab - and we all understand each other - so yell if you need anything

xxxxxxxxxx

 

[kedi376]

Had I not miscarried back in May I would have been due on 4th Jan. I am going to get pi55ed on that day

Yep I'm the same, I would have been due 27th January for the first one, I know I will be drinking that day lol

 

[CARNAT22]

Had I not miscarried back in May I would have been due on 4th Jan. I am going to get pi55ed on that day

Yep I'm the same, I would have been due 27th January for the first one, I know I will be drinking that day lol

It doesn't help that I have one friend due a little boy on 28th Dec and another friend due a gender unknown on 31st Dec.

Talk about rubbing my face in it. I so hope neither of them have their baby on 4th Jan

 

[MrsDraven]

It sucks, it's getting a little easier but not quite yet. I would have been due on 10th of February, I don't drink but I did intend celebrating my LO's 'birthday' on that day somehow.

 

[dyscochick]

I'd be due jan 30th, 2 people at work due that day, wine will be had! Quite a few friends know about the mc, I've been quite open about it but I will keep it all much quieter if I get pregnant again. mrs draven xx

 

[Dragonfly Fi]

this is exactly why next time, i wont be telling anyone until i am 25 weeks x