Sleeping with LO ggrrrrrrrrrrrr at some people!!

[Redshoes]

I don't know if anyone else sleeps with their LO's and has had this but it's got me all annoyed today, it shouldn't have but it has
Why do people say if you sleep with your LO they'll be a clingy baby it makes me so mad, cots, cribs and the like are all new 21st century ideas, Mummyss and Babies have slept together since caveman days, why do people make it out to be a 'bad' thing?!?!
Thanks for listening, needed to get it out ggrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr, better now I think

 

[mamichuli]

Dont let anyone bug you on the subject - it is yet another case where whatever you choose to do is definitely best. I wouldnt sleep with the baby, but that is just my choice, neither better nor worse than yours. I dont think that how"clingy" a baby is, is anything to
do with whether you sleep with him/her. In fact, my second was more clingy than either of the girls. I think it has a lot do with personality and environment. A happy home with lots of love and cuddles is my recipe - works for me and my kids!
Have a hug, and dont let them get to you!
Lisa

 

[suzy100]

i think (and i may be wrong) that the main reason you are told not to sleep with baby in your bed is because it heightens the risk of cot death.
your baby cant regulate its own temperature and so when snuggled up to mum under a nice comfy duvet, the warmth from that and your own body heat can make baby too hot.
hope this helps........

 

[beanie]

i think (and i may be wrong) that the main reason you are told not to sleep with baby in your bed is because it heightens the risk of cot death.
your baby cant regulate its own temperature and so when snuggled up to mum under a nice comfy duvet, the warmth from that and your own body heat can make baby too hot.
hope this helps........

if you co-sleep safely then there are no heightened risks. In fact in Eastern countries where co-sllepoing is the nrom SIDs is virtually unheard of. Research has shown that sleeping with your baby can help them to regulate their breathing, and that mum can help regulate baby's temp, recognising when they are too hot. Breastfeeding mums especially are very aware of their babies, and it can be very beneficial in terms of establishing breastfeeding. Of course there are certain safety guidelines, never co-sleep if you have drank, smoked or consumed medication that makes you drowsy, do not cover baby with duvet and keep pillows out of the way.

As for creating a clingy baby, well there are always people who will tell you about their freinds child who is 8 and still shares their bed, and for some people that can be a reality. However in general co-sleeping creates a sleep confident child., I co-slept with Seren and sheis one of the most independant children ever, she now sleeps in her own bed and is happy to do so. I never had a problem with the transition from our bed to her own. She occasionally comes into our bed, when she is poorlyor teething and can't settle but the next night she wants to go into her bed.

Enjoy sleeping with your baby, I miss slepping with Seren, and can't wait to do the same with this baby

 

[trixipaws]

i would love to sleep with my baby, but im frightened to death of her wriggling down under the cofers and suffocating or getting squished by myself or my boyf. im a bit of a worrier!

 

[trixipaws]

i would love to sleep with my baby, but im frightened to death of her wriggling down under the cofers and suffocating or getting squished by myself or my boyf. im a bit of a worrier!

 

[trixipaws]

i would love to sleep with my baby, but im frightened to death of her wriggling down under the cofers and suffocating or getting squished by myself or my boyf. im a bit of a worrier!

 

[*saulino*]

Hi

aww hun dont worry about it i did it with Kiara shes fine and with Kadyn i start out with himinhis crib then his first wake of the night hes with me and i get hours more sleep, and if anything i was told it helps with cot death as they feel and hear you breathe which helps them .?
each to their own though we all do what is best for us
Katrina

 

[Minxy]

I had so many people tell me I ran the risk of rolling onto Stanley and squashing him

I don't think as a mum you ever sleep deep, I LOVED co-sleeping and still do it when I can.

Each to their own but I'm baffled when I hear of mums sleeping in a different room to a few weeks old baby. Stanley went into his own room at 6 months and I missed him for ages.

You're doing a grand job RS

 

[little*red]

I dont co-sleep with my LO as she sleeps in her crib at the end of our bed at night. however when she wakes up in the morning or naps in the afternoon either Brian or I sleep with her on the sofa (with her on top of us or at the side with no back) and i love it, it makes me feels so close to her. Unfortunatly it wont last much longer once i get a bump again . Evie isnt a clingy baby either, she is very independent. As beanie said closeness often means independence due to the fact that it gives babies the confidence to know that you will be there if and when they need you.
Just you do what you feel most comfotable with hun, look at all the stuff Beanie has said and its all true. The most imporatnt thing to remember is that Issac is YOUR baby and you can bring him up however you want to as at the end of the day its you who will look after him until he is old enough to do do himself.

 

[Redshoes]

Thankyou so very much for the replies, and the differing opinions, they are great to hear, we're all different, but right

When I first brought Isaac home he was in his moses basket, and I must admit I just didn't sleep well, and I worried so much about him, and he didn;t really like his basket Once he moved into our bed I slept just fine, and so did he, and when he goes down in his cot of a night, I again find it hard to really sleep so after his 3am'ish feed he comes in with us. He's always been fine at the end of the bed or between us, I sometimes get numb arms and a bad neck in the morning but they're worth it sleeping with him

When he's not in bed with us I often wake with a fright and start feeling my OH looking for him scary at first but funny afterwards hehe I had read a lot about co-sleeping before doing it at home, and do know its proven that Mummys will cool down or heat up according to what their baby needs, and LO also stays in tune with Mummys heartbeat. And Mummys have been doing it since time began which is proof enough its fine

Thanks so much for the support, it really doesn't matter what people say I know, but its nice to be with people who respect every Mummy, and LO, is different, and what works for them is right I'll sshhhh now

 

[Red_Fairy]

Each to thier own.

I moved Hannah into her room at about 3 plus months - for the reason that we were deffinatly keeping eachother a wake of a night. (she was in her mosses basket, got too big for it) and every time she moved i seemed to wake up. As soon as she was in her own room she started to sleep right through (instead of waking 2-3 times a night)
She now goes to bed for 8pm, wakes at 6am for bottle - after this feed i put her in bed with me and my partner to get another couple of hours. She loves it and falls asleep instantly - plus i love the snuggles and 'family' feel of it.


So ive got best of both worlds

 

[Urchin]

I slept with Brody most of the night until he moved out of our room at about 9 months

 

[Sammystar]

Sam spends the first half of the night on his own and the second half with me.

I get very tired because I spend so much time just lying staring at him and gushing with love! but he's worth it!

 

[Sabrina]

Thanks for posting this Redshoes. I also get fed up with the negative comments from people about LO sleeping with us. I definitely sleep better when he's in the bed and I'm breastfeeding him. When he's in the cot I wake at his every turn or snuffle.

 

[budge]

I don't know if anyone else sleeps with their LO's and has had this but it's got me all annoyed today, it shouldn't have but it has
Why do people say if you sleep with your LO they'll be a clingy baby it makes me so mad, cots, cribs and the like are all new 21st century ideas, Mummyss and Babies have slept together since caveman days, why do people make it out to be a 'bad' thing?!?!
Thanks for listening, needed to get it out ggrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr, better now I think

it can make them clingy. But whats wrong with that?
too many people are so stressed out making their kids independant etc.
Theres nothing wrong with babies sleeping with you. They like company and take comfort and reassurance that they are near you. We are after all social creatures