Sleeping Routine

[Jade89]

Because my partner works from early in the morning til late at night it's hard to put Aaliyah into a propper sleeping routine where she goes to bed at roughly some certain time. He goes out of the house sometimes before she's awake because it takes him an hour and a half to get to work, same coming home and doesnt get home til 9 some nights so I have to keep her up (not keep her awake if she even goes asleep) just so he can see her.

Some nights she will fall asleep around 5 ish and not wake up til maybe 7-8 then I have to give her tea that late which I dont like doing but if she's missed it shes sure gonna be hungry...and it makes me think how do some parents get their children in bed by 7? I don't think id ever put Aaliyah bed that early, nothing against people who do it's your routine and your lifes but I think 8-8.30 would be ideal for her right now. Do you think i'd be doing the right thing if I put her bed that early even if it's before her Dad comes home? I think id feel rather guilty but she needs a routine.

 

[Nicky_Jones]

We are in a similar situation Daddy, has approx 1hr+ commute to work so her leaves at 6:50am and gets home on a good day at 6:30pm. We have set Ellies morning at 7:30am and bedtime at 7:30pm. Daddy knows that if he is late he won't get to see Ellie. We felt this was fairest on her. She does miss Daddy when he can't get home before she goes to bed or if he is having to stay away on work trips aboard but she doesn't get unduly upset, I just stick to the same routine every night. It also gives Daddy an insentive to leave work promptly and not give them too much free overtime (he doesn't get paid for overtime).

 

[Becky&Willow]

willow goes to bed at 6:30 everynight. my OH doesent get in tul 8:30 every other week but i will not change willows rounteine as it has been this way for about 2 months now.

 

[Jen79]

Kate is 8 months now and since she was about 8 weeks she has gone to bed between 6 and 7 ish. If I were you I would just put her to bed between 7 and 8, apparently routine is really good for them, they like to know where they stand! I sometimes find the early bedtime a pain in the arse as it means I cant keep Kate out late anywhere, also she sometimes wakes quite early too but I just think that she is happy with it so I dont mess about with it!

 

[Jade89]

It's also worse beause we live with my parents and we have to go visiting everybody else and some nights were out late because its the only chance we get to go out all 3 of us, at night. I really would like her to have a routine i feel like i'm sometimes though. My partner isnt happy about the hours he works either so he might ask to change them. I suppose it would be better once he starts to drive it wont take aslong to get there and back.

Becky where did you get willows hooded jacket from? It's lovely...I want one

 

[Urchin]

hiya I'm just gonna move this to the Routines section of The First Year Section. Hope thats OK, Ask A Mum is for pregnant members questions

 

[Jade89]

Sorry. I always thought it was for Mum's to ask other Mum's questions...diddn't even know there was a routine section lol.

 

[Tina & Gabs]

Gabriella goes to bed at 7-7.30pm. My DH works shifts and some days doesn't see her at all but the majority of time he does see something of her. I prefer to keep her routine the same so she knows where she stands!

It must be really hard for your partner

 

[Jade89]

Well ive just had a word with him and he thinks it's for her benefit to put her into a routine because he says most fridays he is home early anyway and will have a long weekend with her and he also said he doesnt want her going bed late as it will affect her when shes older and going to school...pretty proud of him thinking like that really So i'm thinking about 8-half past for her bedtime which will give me time after her tea to give her a bath and bottle to wind her down.

Thats another thing...is it true babies... or people in general to not have a bath before 1 hr after eating?

 

[Nicky_Jones]

I asked my HV about this as Ellie used to cluster feed in evenings and didn't have a 1 hour gap between finishing the feed and starting the next one at one point, she said not to worry too much just don't do it immediately after feeding. We settled on bathing her just before her last feed at 7:30.