should i give in

[Gruntie2]

Before we found out i was pregnant.... we had our car up for sale (as DH has now received a company car)... and we decided we would get a porsche for weekend driving (fun car for DH)... when our car sold....
well... he sold our car yesterday for £1850.... and is now still expecting to buy a porsche.. i have told him a price that we could afford after LO is born... but he seems to want to spend more on it... if we do this it may mean i have to work more than i want to once little one is born.. should i allow him to spend more.. or put my foot down... i mean a porsche is a luxury... we won't be able to take LO in it... extra money saved means i could be a full time mum and be with my LO until he/she goes to school???

 

[cleocat]

if I were in your shoes, I'd put my foot down definately, pardon the pun, it wont be just the car but also the insurance to think about also and that will be costly, its awful if you have a dream you want to follow and its almost in reach, but a lil one changes your life so much and you never know what the future might hold, you may find you dont want to work extra or you may suffer PN depression (which i sincerely hope isnt the case) but you would be in a position where you would have to go to work and if your not happy with that, you'd still be stuck with the fact

go with your first gut instinct its usually the right one

 

[Squiglet]

No....I'd put my foot down.. This was something agreed before the pg or the baby...you're situation has changed now... You won't be able to use the car all the time because of the baby and you can't leave the baby on its own.. Plus it will be you and the baby suffering as you put in longer hours to pay for a car, you or the baby really cannot enjoy.

There are loads of really nice cars out there that he could have but would include your new family status....why not one of them?...

No, if you ask me, it seems a rather selfish investment and waste of money, especially if there is a baby on the way... at the end of the day you both agreed to have the baby, so you both need to make sacrifices, but not the baby and it seems to me if you buy this car, it will be the baby that suffers in the end.

 

[pilkers]

I'm selling my 2-seater sports car because of LO..

My OH has really put his foot down about this and after trying to campaign to keep it I've now given up because all the points he makes are valid and I can't find a suitable counter argument!!!

It would be nice to have a porsche for weekend driving but how much weekend driving are you gonna do with a new baby? Only one of you will be able to enjoy the car at a time because the other will be at home with the baby...these are just some of the points my OH brought up...Plus at the weekends you're likely to be spending time together as a family or travelling to visit family so you'll be in the bigger car

This probably doesn't help you at all, sorry!!!

 

[Pregnopaws]

I agee. There is no comparison between a flashy piece of metal and the precious extra time you will want to spend with the 'most' important thing in your life. Your baby! That time doesn't come back again!

 

[mum2be?]

Sorry but my foot would be put frim to the ground

No way, im sure you coudl use that money for something much more inportant

 

[jenna]

Id put my foot down

 

[Gruntie2]

i really dont want him to get a porsche.. but i know what we can afford.. but like i say.. he is not compromising and wants a more expensive one....... (double what we can afford).. he says he will sell it in 6 months... but i can see us not being able to sell it and being stuck with it.... we just refinanced our house to clear off all our credit card debts ready for the LO's arrival so we are not financially in a mes.. and he wants to take us back there.... A porsche has been his dream for many years... i just can't see why he doesn't see that in this life we have to make compromises.... I fell bad as he will be the money earner when i leave work... but i feel he should feel that the LO is as much a dream to him as it is to me.... He acts like he is so excited about LO arrival but it seems as though a porsche is more important.. theres nothing stopping him getting one when the LO starts school... the company car he got is more than we need for the LO.. its and Audi...

 

[purple13]

i think you need to put your foot down too... it might be his dream to have a porsche (ps what type does he want?? my OH's uncle test drives them and says that boxters are crap and the only ones to have are 911's - might be a counter argument if your OH wants a boxter???!!! ) but your lives are about to change completely and his dreams need to change accordingly.

 

[Squiglet]

i think you need to put your foot down too... it might be his dream to have a porsche (ps what type does he want?? my OH's uncle test drives them and says that boxters are crap and the only ones to have are 911's - might be a counter argument if your OH wants a boxter???!!! ) but your lives are about to change completely and his dreams need to change accordingly.

I wanted to go and take my masters degree after I finished my bachelors, but it was nearly 3000 quid, and I just couldn't afford it not with having a baby... But it was my dream to go and get that... I still can't afford it and now I'm having a second child, that dream goes on the back burner again... many people sacrifice their dreams for their children, its part of having kids.

 

[Gruntie2]

he wants a boxster LOL..... we defo could not afford a 911.... he knows alot about cars due to working in a big supercar garage in manchester... i may suggest.. hiring one for a week... may cost £1000 but might get it out of his system.... LOL.. i gave up my dream of becoming a Physio therapist when i met him and moved back here to the UK.... i was in college and had to quit.... i just didn't know if i was being selfish due to him going to be working and me being an at home mum...

 

[fifi211]

I would definitely put my foot down and say NO! There is no point in a car like that when you have a LO and is it worth it for you to have to work full time when baby is born just for a ride out in the country in a flashy car without baby? Point him in the direction of nice family cars and assure him when LO is older then he can have his sports car.

 

[lisa&alex]

i think u should say.. heres the budget.. and thats that...

 

[Josephine_Beth]

Put foot down, the money you could spend on a new car would come very handy for your baby.

Now, if he wants to be selfish, then let him use his own money, if he can not see that your LO is ALOT MORE IMPORTANT then is he really a good man for the job? No offense but he is a man and not a little kid and I think you should remind him of this!

A porsche would eat up so much money and is not practical. If he really wants one, he can wait a year, out of respect for you and his new family, he should reconsider!

 

[fothers]

I would need to put my foot down too

 

[leckershell]

we've had similar discussions lol.

give him the budget and then say well if you want to pay the extra, find it from your own money ie cut down on nights out/booze/takeaways and put the money you would have spent into a car fund or something. gives him a target and he gets to keep the dream... means he has to work for it though.

we have our own separate social funds that comes out of the household budget, and OH wanted a new set of drums for his drumkit, so instead of just buying it even though he is by far the major earner of the 2 of us, he's saving £50 a month towards them. he bought some new cymbals too as a treat, I put in £50 towards them, he got the rest by selling off old cymbals he no longer needs.

there's ways and means. OH is desperate for a new car and bike as is fed up with the big family sized passat we sold his civic coupe for. but he knows it will be something to save for, and at the moment, ryan is our biggest priority anyway, when would he have time to go out driving in a shiny car if he works all week and will only see you and the baby in evenings and weekends? believe me, he'll wish he had more time for you and the baby rather than a car to drive, and if he would still rather be out driving a fast car than spending time with you both, then what sort of man would he be..

x

 

[emma28]

I would just laugh at my DH!

He's always harping on about this car or that car, I tell him to wait til he's about 40 and going through either his mid life crisis or manopause!!

Get him sorted!!

 

[Babylicious]

Defo put my foot down