She keeps hitting me :0(

[Rubys mummy]

Ruby went through a stage of smacking me a while ago but stopped when I said "No!"

This weekend its got worse, she is constantly hitting me in the face, slapping me, biting me and pinching me (she pinched me so hard yesterday its bruised me )

I grab her hand, say "No" once and if she carries on I have been trying the naughty step!!! I know she is too young to understand but I figured by putting her away from me out of the room for one minute will show her its naughty...

The weekend was exhausting, she was naughty all weekend, and as well as hitting me, she hit both her nannys which is so unlike her

I missed her so much in work tonight, got to my mums and the firdt thing she did was smack me hard in the face!! 2 mins later she did it again!!! I was in tears

Is it a phase ? Am I doing the right thing putting her in the hall away from me??

 

[DebbieM]

My friends daughter is about the same age as Ruby and she is EXACTLY the same. She has recently taken to smacking, biting and pinching my friend and in this past week she has even taken to biting her own hand when she gets told "No".

I'm no expert but I think it is a phase as my nephew of the same age is similar too. xxx

 

[Lola's Mummy]

I know Lola is a bit younger than Ruby but ever since i've been back at work she has been really naughty. She will hit, bite and nip me for no reason. It only normally for the night after i've been at work until she goes to sleep then she usually ok the next day
I think it's because she's missed me while i've been at work and she's trying to get my attention by being naughty but OH think i'm mad
All i'm doing ATM is telling her no and moving her away from me, to her toys etc. I'm not really sure what else i can do as i don't think she really understands right from wrong yet.

 

[clarey]

Sorry I dont have any suggestions but it must make you feel horrible, have a few hope its just a phase

 

[jayla's mummy]

jayla has become like that too. hitting me,biting and having a propper tantrum( that a 2 year old has) when she cant have wot she wants. it all started when OH was off work for like a week and a half. when she is just with me she is fine. sometimes i really think she doesnt like me but she wud come and give me a kiss.

 

[fran_23]

Hayden does this aswell, to me his dad, my mum and my sister!!
when he does it to me i used to say NO. and hold his hands away firmly.he would then say "sorry mama" and then stroke my face
and then i'd feel like "ah bless him" its quite normal i guess..my mum said i had her in tears a few times
doing it to her at this age! its not very nice but what i do now is put him straight down and ignore him..not in a nasty way but so he knows it is not nice and doesn't get a big fuss...he does it much less since i started doing this and told everyone else to do the same!!

 

[SarahH]

Arianna did this for a while, it is a phase and does pass.

I used to put her down say "No" in a stern voice and walk away, she would come running after me crying but I wouldnt pick her up and she soon learned that hitting meant to cuddles from Mammy

 

[babsi]

and then it gets worse when they are 2

Joking aside, Kai pinches and he laughs when he does it and he is 2 and a half. We have tried everything but nothing works with him, taking toys away doesn't work, time-outs don't....hopefully it will go soon.

 

[Tara & Liam]

With Liam we put him on the naughty step, or corner, whatever you use.

and when he is good we praise him and he gets treats. that is the trick, make a fuss when good and basically give them no reaction when they are naughty.

good luck and you are not alone.

 

[Misslarue]

and when he is good we praise him and he gets treats. that is the trick, make a fuss when good and basically give them no reaction when they are naughty.

We do that and it really works. Whenever Dan does something 'good' i.e stops doing something naughty when I tell him to, I really praise him. It's finally starting to work. Dan went through a phase of hitting me in the face. I would tell him no, put him down and walk away.
I read the trick is to praise good and ignore bad. Its taken a while but its starting to pay off!

Good luck hun And you're def not alone!

 

[rusks]

lukes doing it too although he doesn't hit us so much he hits other kids very embarrasing!

its like they are frustrated because we don't fully understand them at the moment but it does make me very sad. i don't want my child to be a bully - sounds like we are all going through the same and hopefully it will pass very soon x

 

[Becky]

Arianna did this for a while, it is a phase and does pass.

I used to put her down say "No" in a stern voice and walk away, she would come running after me crying but I wouldnt pick her up and she soon learned that hitting meant to cuddles from Mammy

This is the same thing I did with Lucy when she was this age, it takes a few times of you being consistant before they realise you mean business but it did work.

We find that every so often Lucy will have a naughty phase where she starts trying it on and pushing the boundaries. It catches us out to start with before we click on that we're allowing her behaviour to continue because we're being too soft/not consistent enough but then we change our behaviour and stick to our guns (we have to support each other and make sure we're both sticking to it) but a few days later we start to see an improvement and she usually ends up happier for it.

 

[Rubys mummy]

Thanks you guy,you trully are wonderful and its good to see I am not alone!!!! It really breaks my heart, I feel like she doesnt like me anymore

She is still doing it sporidically (sp?) but I am getting better at coping with it, I put her down and walk away. Its worse when she is tired and excited..I read on internet its because she cant talk properly yet so its her way of communicating she needs/wants something. So I tried by asking her what it was she wanted, and she wanted "juice", so that was her way of telling me

On a lighter note,she hit my mums arms this morning and I said "No, Ruby, naughty!!", and she said "Step", climber off mums knee, opened the living room door and put herself on the naughty step, sat with her arms crossed and tapping her foot Dad and I had to run to kitchen as we were crying wth laughter!!! The kid is too smart for her own flippin good

 

[rusks]

i can see her doing that lol!!!!!

 

[Becky]

Its great when they do that - how are you supposed to keep a straight face and tell them off when they're doing that!!!