Seriously... How does this make sense!

[HeppiBean]

Ok... So I'm due to have my little girl in under 5 weeks... I'll be a mum, holding my baby and all that, in 5 weeks (so long as I don't go over lol) but.... I'm terrified at the prospect of holding a baby!! I'm meeting a friend for lunch today with her little girl who's about 10 weeks old now but was a preemie... And I kept waking up in cold sweats during the night really scared in case she asks if I want a cuddle!? I mean... I'd love a cuddle and would love to say yes, but I don't think I can! I don't know what it is just even now, thinking about it, I'm shaking like a leaf!! Which leaves me in the awkward position of saying no and then she'll wonder why! OMG! Am I actually going crazy?!?

I think... 5 weeks before my daughter arrives... I have developed a phobia of babies

ARGHHH



xx

 

[Hope81]

I think you will be just fine when you will see your LO for first time everything will be different have faith

 

[Xcitedmum]

lol heppi this has made me smile because I think we all go through it. You prob will feel very cautious of your friends baby but it will be different when you see Francesca cos she is alllllll yours!

Try not to worry, even tell your friend that you are all of a sudden worried about mastering the art of taking care of your own baby - she will be able to calm you - just have fun today! x

 

[Merfairy]

Hey, I have had moments; sometimes I see people with there kids running around I I am thinking 'bugger, am I doing the right thing'..

It is normal to have moments I think.. lol.. x

 

[HannahsBaby]

It does sound strange but I fellt exactly the same when I met my friend with her newborn!! For me, I think it was a case of I felt I didn't want to hold her incase the 'mummy feeling' I felt was too overwhelming, what if I loved the feeling sso much and then something terrible happened to my LO... And all those silly thoughts! But I did end up holding her and it was very sweet feeling my bump kick her baby in my arms, but I wwas quite emotional when I got home.

I wonder if your with your friend now...? Eeeekkk!

 

[littlemiss83]

I still get nervous holding other ppl's babies. It just comes so naturally though.

How did it go at lunch?

 

[HeppiBean]

Just got in Went really well, Ella slept through most of it but I got a quick cuddle in She's so gorgeous!! My phone epically failed on me and died when I tried to take a picture She's 12 weeks old and weighs 7Ilb 2 bless her So a week after her actual due date she's kinda newborn size Even OH went all googley eyes he he xx

 

[BabysMomma]

You're not alone hunni. I wouldn't hold any of my OH's families babies until they at least started looking like wee bruisers and like they wouldn't break

I didn't even want to visit them in hospital in case I got asked if I wanted a cuddle! Everytime I was asked though, I did decline by saying that I was too scared in case I hurt/dropped them and then they'd back off. And that's even after I'd already had my own baby (my DS is 14yrs old)!

Its different when you have your own baby. You just get on with it, but when its someone elses and they're watching, its awkward cos you don't know if you're holding the baby the way they'd want you to, or what if it cries cos you don't know what way the mum wants you to deal with it etc.

Don't worry hunni. Just explain how you feel to your friend and I'm sure she'll understand. x

 

[BabysMomma]

Oh flip, sorry hunni...I read your 1st post and responded before I read that you'd already sneaked a wee cuddle Good on you and I'm glad it went well. x

 

[Dani2810]

I felt the same yesterday I was with my friend & her 4 wk old I felt really wierd he was asleep in his car seat whilst we went for coffee so didn't have a hold but I felt scared and I'm used to loads of babies it's only recently I'm scared o holding them, but I just can't wait for my little man now x

 

[Tracey M]

My next door neighbour had her wee boy 6 weeks ago and I sneak cuddles all the time - I'll even look after him for half hour or so, so his mum can go to shops etc. Still nowhere near the same as holding your own - they always seem to cry and just dont feel as confident... Its amazing the difference when you have your own....I promise!!

 

[nadine]

I've never held Any one baby other then my own, I just don't feel comfortable, not even help my sisters two as babys I start with sweaty hands n then start to panic hahaha

But yet I've got two babys, both born small 6lb n I bathed them dress them do it all on my own, just personal preference I always think about my self n when others hold my babys I'm the ott mother, n I hate the fact if I was to hold some one elses baby they would think I was holding em wrong or worrie n then u feel like u being watched haha x x

It's totally normal for some people but u will be fine with ur own x

 

[Taassh_0x]

Im like that. When i held my friends baby i was so scared but when its ur own baby ul b fine cuz no1 is watchin ova u n u make all the rules of how u want people to be around ur lo. So dont worry, and when shes here ull bond n learn at the same time x