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Secrets and lies

PotatoHead

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Yesterday someone asked me if we were planning to start a family and I had to lie and be vague and say... 'oh yes, one day but not yet'. I hate having to lie to people. We only decided to start TTC a few weeks ago and already I'm struggling with not talking about babies!

Ideally I'd like to keep it a secret until the 3 week scan (looking ahead a little I know!) but if I'm already finding it hard to keep my mouth shut I fear there is no hope for me:)
 
I can't keep my gob shut either when it comes to plans and things because i just get so excited... so i just blab to everyone who'll listen.

Saying that, if someone starts to get on my nerves or say something insensitive i'm quite comfortable pointing out i'd prefer for them to stfu in the nicest possible way ofc :blush:

I haven't told everyone about IVF but that is because of hubby... oh actually i have told a few people, but no one that hubby knows lol
 
I find this really hard as well. Its fine if you can be a bit vaugue or not mention it but when someone asks you a question outright its horrible having to lie. I've just got back from a workmate's hen night and I had to appear to be drinking without actually drinking which wasn't nearly as hard as I thought it would be (as everyone else was drunk so no one was keeping track) but I feel really dishonest. I almost let slip to a friend a couple of weeks ago (I wrote about it in a thread called how do I get out of this). It is difficult but I still know that I want to keep it to myself for now.
 
I did tell a few choice people which was a godsend as they could fob off the people who are always "so when are you having a baby". I decided that I wasnt going to outright lie as I am a rubbish lier so just said we would love one at some point and then changed the subject!!!
Good luck and hope you will be telling them all your good news soon!!
xxxxx
 
Sometimes I found it hard to lie, like the other week or so a patient punched me in my tummy. It wasn't very hard but hard enough that it hurt, I was thinking what if I was pregnant, so I said to a staff thats not good when I'm trying for a baby. I just pray she kept it to her self as I asked her to. Anyway about a week after I think I had a chemical pregnancy as had BFP for few days in a row but then AF appeared fews days later and got BNP. Not that it would of been of fault of the patient, well at least I don't think!!


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This girlies.., is not good. I am constantly lying to my friends fobbing them off with such lies as 'oh I'm not ready yet' and 'I've got lots to do first'!! Argggh! I really don't like doinnit! I had to look away from ny friends eye line because she knows me so well. Even if I do catch, I've gotta wait another 3 months before I tell anyone!! I can't risk it. :( so many ppl must go through this though, if u think about it?! I think ur best bet is to change the subject to bout something you kno your friend loves like... The new twilight film!! Xx
 
my family know as do some of my friends about what we are going through but when other people ask
me i just respond with im always trying lol implying i have the best sex life ever (possibly not true) lmao
and then that shuts them up due to by dirty laugh and sense of humour lol xxx
 

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