Sad news

[jacy90]

Hi all,

Felling really down at the moment. Received some bad news yesterday. My uncle, who is like a father to me, is very poorly in hospital with cancer and we've now been told they're stopping treatment and that he's got weeks left.

I feel devastated. I was there when my auntie received the news on the phone, and i watched someone I consider to be a rock just fall apart in front of me. He was a carer for her too as she has her own health needs.

I just dont know what to think or do. I couldnt sleep last night even though I was exhausted. Amongst millions of other things, im also scared how this is going to affect baby. I know its silly, but ive been getting pains and all sorts of things are going through my head.

I've also got a 4.5 year old who idolises my uncle. Hes constantly asking about him as he hasn't seen him in a while and I just don't know what to say to him. I'd love to take him to see him, but my uncle doesn't look like my uncle anymore and hes not making a lot of sense as he's very confused.

I'm sorry for the sad post, but I just feel all over the place. Having to keep it together for my family and for work, but just feel like im falling apart inside.. Xx

 

[redbear]

Firstly so sorry to hear this, i lost my Auntie to cancer (a close Auntie) when i was 7 month pregnant and it wasnt nice.

for your son I would look for books about loosing a loved one, they have some at libarys or on Amazon, i know its not much help but it may expain things a bit better than we can.

I know with my Aunt she was a different person towards the end and honestly im glad i got to see her the day before she passed but its hard because she wasnt herself, it wasnt really her.

I have no advice really because its all down to you, maybe speak to your Aunt and see what she thinks.

Take it easy love, i know thats hard right now but just try to rest. xxx

 

[jacy90]

Thank you for your reply. Im sorry to hear about your loss too. It just seems everyone's affected by it in one way or another at some point, its just horrible.

The books are a good idea. Will have a look and see what I can find. Its just so hard to know what to say. My son's really engaged with books at the moment and learning to read, so itll probably be a good way to introduce him to what's going on.

I do need to rest, but I'm scared if I sit down I won't get back up again if that makes sense? Feel exhausted today, its all so draining..

 

[redbear]

Yes i understand how you are feeling. Its such a sad time im really sorry ot happening to you. I know you feel you wont get back up but you are going through so much emotionally that you need your rest.

take one step at a time, please try to relax. Even if its just reading a book or playing a sily game to take your mind of whats happening. I find that i felt better when i had somethign to occupy yourself. obviously its harder with a child to look after but maybe when they are in bed?

Im not much use sorry love. sending my best wishes.
I lost my Aunt 5 years ago now, it does get easier one day at a time xxx