Postponing TTC for years now

[Flutterby84]

This is going to be a long story, but I'll try and keep it short. I've been wanting a third (fourth) baby, since the youngest was born. He was and is sooo gorgeous, his brother is as well, but they are a handful. Lot's of medical and behavioural issues (autism, ADHD, my eldest had surgery and was in the hospital a few times for immunity disorder) and I've rheumatism. On top of all of this, we lost our first baby when i was almost 4 months pregnant. We had to terminate the pregnancy as she was suffering and incompatible with life. All of this has been extremely hard on us both. Yet I feel incomplete!

So I've been dreaming and postponing, dreaming and postponing. I just want this over with! But I'm so scared! My husband works fulltime, I own my own company and work from home while the kids are at school or sleeping. Basically do everything now and once I'm pregnant I won't be that supermom anymore (not that I am now ) I would have to give up a lot and can't give my kids the attention they need. So yeah, I've waited for them, because I feel they deserve my love and devotion 100%. How do other moms do this? I feel like there never will be a right time.

 

[KatD]

You are right when you say it will never be the right time, ever. The beauty of us humans are that we are very versatile and somehow we make things work. Looking back I think the you 'before kids and a husband' would drop her jaw at everything you have accomplished and do on a day to day business, asking her now she would too say 'no way, not possible', but yet you made it possible. That's what will happen when you have another one, you and your family will adapt and your kids will get to help you raise the little one, so you won't have to do everything on your own while daddy works. xxxxx