Post partum hemorrhage and retained placenta 2nd baby

[diane]

Hi ladies. I know it's early but I'm getting very down thinking about this and wondered if anyone had any advice. I would love to have another baby eventually if my body let's me, but I had a horrific birth and dont know how to deal with it!

I had a difficult forceps delivery and my placenta was "ragged". I ended up hemorrhaging, lost 4 litres of blood, was rushed to surgery to remove massive amounts of retained placenta and had to have a double blood transfusion. I feel robbed of my birth, I enjoyed labour but feel that because of everything that happened, I never got that rush of love for my daughter straight away. I wanted to push her out, skin to skin asap, to breastfeed etc and I feel everything was snatched from me.

Immediately after all this happened I said I would never have another child but I feel so depressed at the thought of not being able to "properly" experience labour ... Has anybody else had a horrific birth and gone on to have more children? How was your subsequent birth? How did you overcome the fear of it happening again?

Thanks xxx

 

[Mrs N]

I had a massive heamorage with h, I remember feeling exactly the same as you. I think the key is to research your options, I was told that they wouldn't let it happen again to me and I know that things will be more closely monitored this time round. This baby was unplanned but I'm not worried about it tbh.
Xxx

 

[HeppiBean]

I wouldn't say I had a horrific birth but I did heamorrhage. My birth itself was pretty straightforward although DD was back-to-back so pretty painful. 3rd stage appeared to have gone smoothly but about 10 minutes later, during the midwifes examination of my 2nd degree starburst tear (ouch). A massive bleed started. I was rushed straight to theatre where they spent 40 minutes attempting to give me a spinal block whilst I was still bleeding out. Eventually I passed out from blood loss and they put me under general for repairs. I lost 1400ml in delivery suite, but theatre blood loss is unknown. Had a transfusion, and was supposed to have a 2nd but due to how I had been treated refused and went home.

I was terrified at the prospect of a 2nd child, but it's happening. I've been told that certain things will be in place to stop this happening again and my MW. Has gone through an in depth birth plan with me so that the doctors don't ignore me again. (I tried to tell them something was wrong before I heamorrhaged but they didn't believe me, I also said NO to a spinal which was also ignored).

Give yourself time to recover, physically and mentally, and you should be ok. xx

Mummy to Francesca. Born 10/08/2011. Expecting my baby boy, Benjamin. Due 07/03/2013.
Induction booked for 25/02/2013, then 28/02/2013 if it fails.
Hospital bag ready!
On TapaTalk! Excuse any typos

 

[giz]

I had a pph 20 minutes after giving birth and I fainted. It was all very scary at the time. Then for 3 weeks I complained and complained about pain in my side, how tired I was, how I didn't feel right...nobody listened. Then one night I had a heavy bleed, ambulance to hospital and found out I had retained bit of placenta! My body had been fighting infection for three weeks.

None of this has put me off labour/giving birth though.

I'm told by the midwife that the odds of it happening again are slim...like being struck by lightning twice. And I assume this time they will scrutinize the placenta.

I have a consultant appt in a week to discuss the pph/retained products.

Have you been told the odds of what happened to you happening again?

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baby giz born 6th Feb 2011
next one due 12th Aug 2013

 

[giz]

I meant to add that although I was fortunate to have 10 minutes cuddles with my newborn, it was about 4 hours before I saw her again maybe that 10 minutes was enough to stop me feeling robbed the way you do.

Big hugs to you...

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baby giz born 6th Feb 2011
next one due 12th Aug 2013

 

[diane]

Thanks ladies I have an appointment with the consultant who delivered me to discuss why this happened and the chances of it happening again, so fingers crossed that will help x

 

[Libbygrace]

I also haemorrhaged after having first daughter and had a double blood transfusion but I went on to have a second daughter with a normal delivery and no complications after, I was also worried but be reassured that just because it happened once doesn't mean it will happen again. I'm now on my third baby xx