Possibly stupid question about birth..

[Momma`Kat]

IM still not happy about having this baby in the hospital. But I wanted to ask, Who is around in the labuor room / delivery room or wherever they stick you?

Are you allowed guests in? If so how many and how long can they stay?

Staff wise who would normally be around? And would it be one of -my- midwifes, or a random one at the hospital?

Final question.. Do I have the right to refuse aspects of "care" that they wish to provide, without them saying "Well fine, leave the hospital if you dont want it" (COntinual monitering, Put into bed on back, stirrups, episiotomy, canula, epidural, the injetion to speed up the placenta, and theres something they give the baby that i cant remember the name of but i dont want it) and if anything else comes up that i dont like.. ?

 

[bearsmummy]

In the hospital I was in you could have your birth partner in all the time, most of the time I was on my own with my mom and the midwife popped in and out, constant monitoring can sometimes be essential so I would never of said no as anything could of happened to liv and I wouldn't of known and the staff wouldn't of been able to react as quickly as they did.

The canula can again be essential, I lost a lot of blood and was really dehydrated so I needed it without of it I'd of been ill.

And the vitamin k they give baby is good for them so again I wouldn't of said no but you can as it's your choice x

 

[AugustMum]

I had the midwife in the room pretty much the whole time I think...although I had pethadine and time seemed to just fly by lol. If I hadnt had the midwife coming in and monitoring me so often they wouldnt of picked up her distress and I hate to think what would of happened if I had refused monitoring.

Yeah like meeah said, the vitamin k is good for them, but you can pick how they have it. If you dont want them to have an injection they can have it orally as well, you just have to let the midwives know

After what happened with my birth (and from what Ive read about other peoples) deffinatly dont rule anything out or say you dont want things until youre there. Things can change so quickly that sometimes it wont go to plan. My gas and air water birth plan was out the window within minutes lol!

 

[Me, My Girls & I]

have you thought about home birth? at hospital you can normally have 2 birthing partners who can stay the whole time you are in established labour and for a bit afterwards, dependant on the time!

the things you've mentioned will only be performed if the medical professionals see it entirely necessary for the health of baby and yourself. continual monitoring will be used if they're worried the baby may be in distress, stirups and episiotomy if you're having difficulty delivering or again if baby's in distress and they need to get him/her out quickly! canulas, i cant see why if you need one you would say no, they're only going to put one in if you need fluids replacing or need medicine of some kind. they're not just going to stick one in your hand for the hell of it! epidurals, they would only suggest it if it were entirely necessary, ocasionally they suggest it to give both you and baby a break if you're struggling! can i ask why you dont want baby to have vitamin K? they wouldnt give it unless it was good for them!

at the end of the day they cant MAKE you do anything, but will only suggest things that will be beneficial for you and baby! for example, i had both my babies naturally, i didnt have an epifural with either, however during delivery i got 3rd degree tears, meaning i had to go into theatre to be stitched up, i had this done with a spinal block,w hich is basically an epidural without the needley bit left in! i know someone that has had this done and turned down the spinal block, but the thought of having them repair a tear which basically left me millimetres away from only having one hole with no pain relief makes my blood run cold! i also ended up having the placenta injection, which i initially didnt want, but part of my placenta was retained and i was losing a LOT of blood! just think things thru a bit before saying, no i dont want anything like that

 

[Me, My Girls & I]

oh and you usually have 2 midwives, one will either stay in ine room with you or potter about depending on what else theyve got to do! the 2nd comes in shortly before you're ready to deliver! obv if theres any problems there will be more people there! and as for who the midwife is, its pot luck, you cant guarantee your community midwife will be on shift and at the hospital when you deliver!

 

[Momma`Kat]

I appreciate what both of you have said, And I wouldnt object to intermittent monitering, But I dont wanna be stuck in bed with a freakin elastic band round my tummy!

Im trying to simulate a home birth plan as much as possible, And just like if I was having it at home, If there was a problem, I wouldnt put baby at risk for my comfort.

Canula.. yeah if there was a problem and I needed a drip or something, Then id let them put it in, But RIE is apparently very prone to putting them in for the sake of it. Even I have had them put in and then never used, once i had one in each hand over night and they were never touched.

I dont think its the vit k that im thinking about. theres drops they put in babys eyes .. thats the thing i dont want.

 

[Momma`Kat]

The epidural thing..

I would ask for pethidine or diamorphine if i felt i was struggling. But side affects of an epidural just arent worth that extra comfort in my eyes.

If i was sent for an emergency c section, can I ask for a general instead of an epidural? Aint no way i wanna be awake for that.

 

[Momma`Kat]

MMG&I

I have thought about home birth, But I live a good 40 minute ambulance ride from the hospital should something go wrong, And my floor cant support a birth pool. Also I dont like the idea of people in my house at the best of times, even with family. So Having midwives pottering around is just no lol

And yes, If I retained part of the placenta, I would have the injection. Like I said, I just dont want things to be done for the ease of the midwife/doctor.

 

[Me, My Girls & I]

their job isnt to make their lives easy, its to make your labour and delivery safe and as comfortable as possible whilst respecting your wishes

 

[Momma`Kat]

their job isnt to make their lives easy, its to make your labour and delivery safe and as comfortable as possible whilst respecting your wishes

Youre are right!

But I have heard of so many women just having things done to save the medical people time/effort. And I wanna make sure that doesnt happen to me.

What about advocates? Would it be worth having someone else there who knew what I wanted, and would be able to enforce my wishes if I couldnt?

 

[Me, My Girls & I]

what like a birthing partner?

 

[Momma`Kat]

Yeah, Thats the word I wanted! Lmao i couldnt think of it >.<

I dont want a family member though.. So dont know.

 

[AugustMum]

Do you have home from home rooms? We had them at my hospital and they seem like something you'd like

They wont strap you to the bed unless it needs to be done. I was only on the monitor to start with because I was induced. Deffinalty do a birth plan and shove it in their faces when you get in lol. Like MMG&I said, their job is to make sure your as comfortable and happy as possible during your labour

 

[Momma`Kat]

Melio, they are building a new block thats like home from home rooms, But the advertised date it opens isnt till early december, And itll prolly be late, you know builders!

 

[Me, My Girls & I]

do you have a friend you could take with you? what about FOB?

 

[Momma`Kat]

Lol no friend that i would feel comfortable with while in labour..

FOB has been quite clear that he wants to miss that part aswell. But again, i wouldnt want him there. Sigh, I just want someone who i can chat to about random crap who will distract me from labour LOL

 

[Toonlass]

So at the moment you have no birth partner? Your going it alone? xx

 

[Momma`Kat]

Yeah, I mean my parents wanna be in the hospital, but i dont want them in the room with me. they would just get all stressy and my mum would panic (she adopted us and has never seen labour lol) and it would just make me stress out more and i want it as relaxed as possible. Which is one of the reasons i origionally wanted a home birth. Then they could be around but milling about watching tv, making tea and stuff like normal.

 

[Toonlass]

so you dont want family, friends or FOB there? Like totally alone kinda thing? coz the MW only checks in every so often, there not there all the time xx

 

[Momma`Kat]

well no, i do want someone there.. i just dont know who i could have that i would feel comfortable with, and that wouldnt just be a freak and stress me out.