Please help!...

[Lucy Helen]

Hi Ladies,

I really need some advice at moment as i have had a terrible few weeks! I think i may have the 'baby blues' Everyday just seems like a struggle and I feel so down, I dont want to go anywhere do anything or speak to anyone!Which is not like me at all! All i want to do is sit in bed and cry which makes me feel so guilty as i'm so so happy that i'm pregnant and I have got everything I ever wanted but I just cant seem to shurg off this horrible mood- my poor OH gets the brunt of everything and I dont think he knows what to do anymore.

I seem to have got it in my head these last few days that I feel like this because we found out really early on that I was pregnant so everything seems to be taking a long time i.e waiting for the first scan and now that is done the wait for the second one and to finding out if were having a boy or girl just seems like such a long time away (it's only 6 weeks but seems like a lifetime!) so I had a quick look on the internet at how much private scans are and I have found a company in our area that have gender confirmation scans on offer at the moment so it's only £40 instead of £80! I spoke to my OH about it last night and explained that it might just give me that boost I need to get me out of this mood and get back the excitement I was feeling at the start but he's says it's a waste of money and that we can find out in 6 weeks anyway and that he thinks it wont help me at all and that afterwards I will still feel down. I can understand where he's coming from but I really think it will help but now i'm just so confused!

Please help ladies! what do you all think I should do and is there any other way that i may be able to get back to my old self again? I feel terrible feeling like this because i cant wait to be a mummy xx

 

[saraian26]

Your not a bad mummy hun, but your OH needs to be more supportive towards you while your feeling so down. If you think the scan will make you happy please book it hun - its only 40 quid and may lift your mood no end.

On the plus do you think you need to see your doctor at all about your low mood. I only ask as i have mental health problems myself since having my last child. Im not on medication right now right now as im not oo bad but if i hit how your feeling again iI will need to go on them.

There is nothing wrong with you and if you need to see the doctor you are not a failure, hormones hit hard, tiredness doesnt help as well as stress and even too much excitiment add to it.

 

[Susanne]

I am so sorry to hear that you feel so down. I don't know whether or not a private scan would help you - personally I'd say that if you can afford it, go for it, it might just do the trick. It does sound to me, though, as if you are going through a proper depression; having had plenty of those myself I know how awful they are and I really do commiserate... If I were you I would talk to my midwife about it. She should be able to help you or refer you to someone who can. That doesn't make you mad or weird or anything like that - just one of the many many women who suffer with depression at some point in their life and take advantage of the help that is available. I really do hope you feel better soon.

 

[Lucy Helen]

Thanks so much for your advice- I have a midwife's appointment a week today so I will speak to her and see what she says. I have never suffered from depression before and it's the last thing you think will happen to you during pregnancy as this is ment to be one of the happiest times in my life and i really really want to enjoy it! but again thank you for your help it's nice to talk to people who understand your comments set me off crying-again! x