Please help! First time dad to be worried after scan at 25 weeks.

[Supergav]

Hi,

My partner and i have just had a scan done and we are really concerned at something we were told.

My partner will be 25 weeks pregnant tomorrow and we were only offered this scan due to "issues" with a slightly less than enthusiastic sonographer at the last scan at 20 weeks.

So far we have been reassured that there is absolutely nothing at all to indicate that there is nothing wrong with our baby as all tests and scans have been fine.

However, it was the Consultant Dr who gave us our scan today and she pointed out that whilst there is nothing to worry about, she did have to bring it to our attention that she thinks one of our baby's kidneys is slightly lower than then other. Again, she was absolutely sure that this was nothing to worry about and did her best to assure us this was the case too but it has planted the seed now and we are both really worried.

Apparently this is very common, particularly amongst girls, and it does not pose any risks of issues in the future but the Dr has arranged for our baby to have a scan after she is born.

Can anyone please get back to me with any information they may have on this?

Thanks very much!

Gavin

 

[Lou_1]

Hey Gavin sorry i cant help not heard much bout this but didnt wanna just read and run.. hope some1 can be of better help to u-xx

 

[snr1982]

Hey Gavin, didn't want to read and run either. I've not heard of this before,hope someone else can help you out. They are really good on this fourm .

 

[Supergav]

I can't believe how this is effecting me now... I can't even let on to my partner either as she's already in a state and the last thing she needs is to see me worrying now.

Feel awful.

 

[wishuponastar]

Hi Gavin, I'm not going to be much help (sorry!) apart from to tell you that I have one kidney lower than another and have never had any problems. One is also slightly smaller. The worst I've had from it is recurrent infections from time to time but that's a pain in the ass (or side!) to have, rather than being anything serious.

I hope this helps.

 

[Supergav]

Thanks to you all for your replies.

I think i just need to hear the reassurances that it really is nothing to worry about. I've wanted kids all my adult life and being a first time dad-to-be probably adds to the worry.

Anyway, thanks.

Gav

 

[Lou_1]

best of luck to u and ur other half x x

 

[Supergav]

And to you and your new addition too!

Gav x

 

[amandapanda]

Must be absolutely awful to hear there is something 'not quite right' with your baby and I totally understand your worry - but I think you need to trust your consultant when she says she is not worried. She is the expert and in my experience Consultants will always be upfront with you and infact tend to err on the side of caution so if there is even a chance of complications she would have told you about them to prepare you. That's my experience of Consultants anyway. All the best xxx

 

[amyjayne77]

My friend had a baby who had a kidney lower than the other and other than having the odd check-up every year to make sure everything was ok, you would never have known.

They tell you allsorts at scans though, with my 1st, they said her head was developing too narrow - it wasn't, with my 3rd they "spotted" a suspected meningocele, a mild form of spinabifida, which we found out weeks later was NOT the case. They have to cover themselves if they can't see enough to give you the 100% all clear, so chances are there is nothing to worry about xx

 

[purplehippy]

Don't know about the kidney thing myself, but can relate to when they say they're wanting to re-check baby! Can make you a total bundle of nerves.

By the sounds of what wishuponastar said, there's nothing serious to worry about - you'll just know to check your littlun for signs of infections. Some people get them a lot anyway.

Good luck and well done for coming here and asking - I wish my bloke would talk to people more

 

[Nanc]

Anomalies at scans can be so worrying. I had an issue at my 12 week scan which in the end turned out to be nothing. We googled the problem and found out straight away that it wasn't much to worry about but the hospital made us worry more by making us wait two weeks to see a consultant, only to be told it was nothing to worry about! Finding out as much as we could online really helped.

You are obviously worried about this but you should talk to your partner more now as she will be too. I was worried about downs results early in pregnancy and my OH didn't discuss it much because he thought he should take my mind off it, but it just made me think that he wasn't as bothered as me. When you're pregnant it really helps to feel like you're both in it together.

Hope you get some reassurance soon. X

 

[Supergav]

Thank you ALL very much for your kind responses!

My partner and i managed to get to her GP who confirmed that we really don't have anything to worry about, so this has helped to both our minds at rest.

This whole thing has made me realise just how fragile our little one is and how utterly helpless i feel as her dad not being able to do anything at all to help her. It's a horrible feeling and i think it has opened my eyes to just how precious she is and will always be.

I think she is going to be the personification of "Daddy's Girl" when she eventually makes an appearance!!

Gav x

 

[pinkymum]

That's great to hear Gav, I did read your post but didn't have anymore to add to what the girls had already said. Sounds like you're gonna be a great dad and your little girl will be very much loved
Good luck to you and your wife
X