Overdue and fed up

[cers123]

So i was due on 17th May and have been having irregular contractions for about a week now. Had a sweep on monday 18th and doc said i was 1cm dilated 1.5 cm long and cervix very soft.

I had a big chunk of plug come away on Sunday then a bit of bloody show on Tuesday and more on Thursday and Friday. Im so infuriated having to wait. Also im vbac which means my first was my c section and im trying natural this time.

If i havent gone by myself i will be going in on Wednesday morning for a c section. So id love to go on my own. they wont b inducing me because puts too much pressure on my scar so i neeeed to go on my own.

I went for a sweep on Thursday afternoon and midwife wudnt do it as she said baby was no longer engaged and so was dangerous to do the sweep incase she broke my waters and cord came down.

Ive tried everything. Walking raspberry tea, evening primrose oil, sex, baths, reflexology, hypnobirthing, up n down the stairs, bouncing on my ball, spicy food .... EVERYTHING! Lol

I just feel so frustrated that nothing is happening except these stupid stop start contractions for the past week....

Any girls been in this position before? Any words of encouragement?...
This is more of a rant than anything im just sooooo bloody fed up

 

[LaceyKeo]

With DS, I had ZERO sign of anything happening.

No plug/show/BH/runny poop... Nothing.

I wasn't really bothered, going along with the whole "he'll come when he's ready".

My friend was due the same day as me, and had her lil girl a week early.

Still wasn't bothered.

Then it got to 11:30pm... Half hour before my due date.
I had a wave of fed-up wash over me, and figured I may as well go to bed (think I was subconsciously waiting for something to happen).

Nopenope.

Four hours later, DS was here after a very sudden "holy shit, contractions".

Fingers crossed things suddenly kick-start xx

 

[Jessiecat]

Cers
I totally understand having a deadline for the birth you want before the decision is taken out of your hands and I know the pressure and desperation that goes with it. All I can do Is keep everything crossed for you but at the same time you have to try not to obsess. When I was trying to get baby to turn so I could VBAC I spen about 10 hours straight bouncing on the ball in agin. My partner then banned me using it the next day as it was effecting my mental state, I felt like a failure but the next day when I wasn't able to use it I felt a huge sense of relief that it was out of my hands. So maybe give yourself a full day off from trying to start labour, I bet you'll feel better you it and maybe it could even push things along if your body is nice and relaxed xx

 

[cers123]

Wow lacey that as really really fast lol... i pray my little one may be the same. Im just fed up with the txts ans calls of r u still pregnant.... ugh!!

Awww jessie i plan on doing that today im not doing anything to see if thia little one will come today im absolutely deflated and just scunnered. Tbh id love a vbac yeah but id love my baby to be here happy n healthy more. So if its gonna be a section then thats fine im happy with that. I just wish the contractions would stop starting and stopping. And leave me alone until wednesday n not feel like a cripple lol x

 

[LaceyKeo]

Urgh... People.

Like... "You want the baby to be here? Really? Cause I was kinda hoping for another month of waiting"

I'd respond with something like "every time you ask if bub is here yet, you add a day to the time it'll take us to let you know they've arrived".

Having a day off will help. At the end of the day, baby will come when ready.

You can always ask them on Wed to check if the placenta is still working effectively, and ask if they'll hold off a c-sec for a bit longer to see if you can go into natural labour xxx

 

[Heres Hoping]

Hi cers, ive no words of wisdom or experience but just wanted to wish u well. Im trying for a vbac too so I can understand how it can become a bit of an obsession. Im frustrated at 38wks never mind being over due so your allowed to be fed up. Have a day off and just do normal things u like, maybe things will happen when your not so focused on it (must remember this advice if im in the same boat in couple of weeks lol)

Good luck and hope to see your labour thread really really soon! x

 

[cers123]

Thanks guys.... i just dnt respond to people now cos i wus punch them lol.

Its funny my little boy even comes to my belly and says baby out lol hes only 22 months its cute. But hes obviously listening to me and my OH haha..

I dnt mind the section part i actually cnt wait cos at least i know on Wednesday the baby will b here lol zx

 

[1501lozza]

im with you here.im 5 days late no contracttioms no plug nothing baby only 3/5 engaged amd everyone has pointed out it doesnt even look like my belly has dropped

 

[Nutsyputs]

I'm in a similar position but only one day over. I'm trying for a vbac and have got till the 5th June and my guts telling ,e I'll probably have to have another section. Half of me want to ask for them to bring it forward. I wet for a sweep Wednesday but baby wasn't engaged enough. My midwife yesterday didn't seem convinced that baby was going to make an apparence soon. I've had no signs or symptoms. I know things can suddenly start but I'm becoming more and more convinced that's not going to be the case for me.

 

[Orion]

I feel your pain. I went over by 11 days! It's hard having to wait, and I tried everything to get stuff started too, but in the end none of it made a difference.

I wish I'd had warning that I'd be pretty useless after having an emergency section. So wasn't prepared and hubby has had to pop to the shops for all sorts - big pants, orange juice to take my iron tablets with, wipes to sterilise my tummy for injections....

Perhaps just focus on the preparations you can make and hope you won't have to need them

 

[cers123]

I have lost more plug than i thought i even had lol.

My midwife cudnt do my sweep n Thursday because baby wasnt engaged. Im getting loads of pains n plug loss n tightenings but nothings coming from them which is disheartening.

Aww orion emergency c sections r soooo hard on ur body mine kicked my ass with my son. Hoping that the planned c section will be easier on my body although im fully aware its major surgery

 

[Orion]

I hope it's easier for you too x good luck hun

 

[LaceyKeo]

I have no experience, but I've heard/seen many people say that a planned c-sec was SO much easier to recover from than an emergency one.

Fingers crossed for you xx

 

[Rooster30]

Urgh, it is horrible going overdue. Babies only come when they are good and ready. My son was 16 days overdue and I had to be induced in the end. My daughter arrived naturally, 5 days overdue - I had NO symptoms prior to her birth and fully expected to be induced again until I woke up in the middle of the night with a contraction and my plug gone.

Tonight could be the night, if not, then maybe it'll be the next night...

Good luck. I hope it happens for you soon

 

[cers123]

Thanks Rooster. A week over due now n if i dnt go by Wednesday im being sectioned. I cnt be induced. This little one is so not coming on its own so section i believe it is x

 

[Babybushie28]

Hi hun, I feel your pain, my ds was a week late and it was agonisong!

In your situation I'd be feeling just as frustrated, baby may surprise you and come on Tuesday evening! Fingers crossed you get your VBAC

xxxxxx

 

[Karenm25]

I've 10 days to go and I'm feeling exactly like this, so I'm sure it's much worse for you. Stop and start contractions all week. Ball, raspberry leaf tea, sex etc and nothing. Little boys of mucus coming away bit nothing to get excited about! I really hope you get put out of your misery soon!

 

[Emapot1]

I know this is probably a case of personal opinion but then again its your pregnanacy and that's how it should only be but I believe that when a women get to 40 weeks, you should be offered the choice to elect for a sweep. I believe the longer over due you go, the more complicated labour becomes. Unless by 40'weeks you feel strongly about letting nature take its course which I can happen, I just think the bench mark for stimulating the cervix getting it ready for laboir should be optional at 40 weeks. Perhaps I'm being very neieeve about sweeps but if its "readying" your body for labour in a natural way with as little intervention, then surely its an option for freedom of choice over your pregnancy?? X

 

[cers123]

Babybushie i reckon thats wen things will kick off if they r going to tbh haha..

Awww karen its awful isnt it. I hope to god u dnt go the full 10 days over. Im sooooo ready for my baby to be here by now...

Ema tbh i agree everyday thia lo is inside me over 40 weeks i think its pretty scary. Sweeps r optional though. If u dnt want one then u dnt need to have one. I hink pregnancy u do have alot in ur head that u think is ur freedom to choose. But the hcp do it for u... i dunno i thought id have a better chance of natural birth this time round but i hink babys come the way they r supposed and this ones taken the piss lol

 

[Emapot1]

I totally understand what you mean and i do think they believe 'baby come when baby's ready' and that is how it's been for ages. I suppose it's something that only really is for a self purpose. There's obviously strong protocol as to why sweeps are offered from a certain point and that can only be down to safety for baby. It would just be nice if babies came at 40 weeks lol xx