Hiya just wanted to ask you something I know it might be a bit OT though. So since we started TTC I am the only one initiating sex!!! Ok I understand around ovulation time but DH got so lazy about it that he is never initiating it. I asked him about it and he said because he got used to me saying when to do it. I feel like our sex life turned into an arrangement. I would love it for him to initiate it. And also we do it so much around ovulation that if we didnt do anything for ages its not bothering him. What do you all think?
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OT: always the one
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Rach beattie
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We r and it’s always me so I have started wearing nice underwear to intice him to Initiate it lol and be like I don’t mind haha x
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Can't you tease him while he's at work ect. Or send suggestive texts?
Maybe get him in the mood before hand then he might do it more?
I didn't want it to feel like we was having sex on demand and I only wanted him when I was ovulating so I had a bit of fun with him while af was here just to show my appreciation lol!
Maybe get him in the mood before hand then he might do it more?
I didn't want it to feel like we was having sex on demand and I only wanted him when I was ovulating so I had a bit of fun with him while af was here just to show my appreciation lol!
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TTC has totally killed our sex life. I think it's normal for it to effect things. Have you talked to him about it? Either that or just don't initiate sex but flirt like hell and see what happens!!
Yeah I could try flirting but I think I just want things to go back to how it was before but I think that ship has failed lol so I will try flirting and let’s see what happens. Thanks for the suggestions and also good to hear that I am not alone
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You're definitely not alone!! I'm now the one initiating and it was generally the other way round. After OH didn't even try and start anything on his birthday a few weeks ago, I decided we needed to talk about it.
We've been at this so long that we now just dtd as dictated by my cycle and are so drained by the end of it that neither of us can be bothered for the rest of the month, then rinse and repeat. We just seem to have gradually fallen into this rut.
As we're getting to a point where IVF is looking more and more likely we've agreed that we will continue ticking the boxes for the few more cycles until then. After IVF, there will be no more tracking cycles regardless of the outcome. I think we need to know we've done all we can before doing IVF so we agreed that another few cycles won't kill us. After that, our sex life will be a priority again as we both miss having sex just because we want to.
On the plus side, we both know it's an issue and have agreed on a plan so hopefully there will be an end point.
We've been at this so long that we now just dtd as dictated by my cycle and are so drained by the end of it that neither of us can be bothered for the rest of the month, then rinse and repeat. We just seem to have gradually fallen into this rut.
As we're getting to a point where IVF is looking more and more likely we've agreed that we will continue ticking the boxes for the few more cycles until then. After IVF, there will be no more tracking cycles regardless of the outcome. I think we need to know we've done all we can before doing IVF so we agreed that another few cycles won't kill us. After that, our sex life will be a priority again as we both miss having sex just because we want to.
On the plus side, we both know it's an issue and have agreed on a plan so hopefully there will be an end point.
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There was a study done of couples who had never had issues with their sex life before and after 6 months of TTC a high percentage of the men were having performance issues. It's so normal for TTC to mess with your sex life. It's sooo annoying though.
Good luck to both of you.
Good luck to both of you.
