One month earlier

[Donna88]

So me and my fiancé have sat down and talked about when we're going to start trying.

You'll probably all think we're mental, but we're starting in July, so just before the wedding, will continue in August and if we haven't fallen pregnant... we're having a two month break.

Fiancé mentioned a 3 or 4 month break, the two month break is down to me having exams in June (I'm pretty sure I can cope with them if I'm heavily pregnant or even with a little one... but not if I'm due around the time of the exam) and then our sons birthday is in July we wouldn't want to be due around then.

Oh said about the 3 or 4 month because his brothers both have birthdays in August but I told him we really can't think about that, it's one thing worrying about having two of our children with similar birthdays but if we consider the whole of our family then we'd never have a baby. (especially rude considering we have agreed May would be a nice time and my birthday is in May)



He was worried about starting in July as it would mean I might not be able to drink on honeymoon or at the wedding, but that really doesn't bother me. I'm not a big drinker and would rather enjoy our time together anyway.


Has anyone else got partners who think way too much about resulting due dates? I'm hoping once we properly start trying he doesn't over think it like this. We're slowly losing months we can actually try at this rate as he really doesn't want a Christmas baby either

I think he just doesn't understand how difficult ttc is actually and in his head once we start trying we'll have one.

 

[Mrs M]

I didn't want a Xmas baby either, but after trying for 5 months, there was no way I was gonna skip march just in case! I now have a 5 year old with a Xmas Eve birthday! Ha ha! As it happens, it's up to you how much you allow Xmas to over rule the birthday! For us the birthday is bigger than Xmas, and if you ask my daughter she loves it! No one else in our family get to have fairy lights up on their birthday! TBH, other than Xmas day there is no worse time to have a birthday, so I'm not avoiding any dates this time. We both said Sept - Dec would be better for the school side of things, but we're trying from May, so this would be Jan/Feb birth.

Eventhough we already have 2 children, I don't think my hubby realises that there is literally 2/3 days where you can conceive! Ha ha!

 

[Donna88]

I'm hoping once we start trying he stops this lets work out when we'll have one.

He really has no idea, but then that might be a man thing lol.

He did admit that saying not in August was a silly one, although he did say about how September is better for school-but my sons birthday is July and he has got on fine at school and is actually one of the brighter kids. If he'd been born in September he would have just driven me mad having to wait another year to start school lol, as he was so ready when he turned 4 to start.