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[JustT]

Okay. This is a long one so buckle up. So, recently my two daughters have expressed interest in having a sibling. I'm feeling a Rollercoaster of feelings about this. Right at 30 (I am 32 now), I had the worst baby fever ever. Kids were against it, husband was meh about it, so I dropped it. At first when they started asking, I was so excited! Even my husband seemed to warm up to the idea. During the day, I find myself thinking of names, surfing baby sites, and often end up in the baby aisle at stores. But then, at night when everything has calmed down, I feel scared. I should mention, my daughters are 9 and 14 years old. Thats a huge gap! I feel selfish because if their dad and I want to go out, we can order them pizza and a movie and slip away for an evening of uninterrupted bliss. My girls are old enough that they are mostly self sufficient. They can bathe themselves and feed themselves breakfast if I feel like sleeping in, can fix their own lunches and my oldest has even ventured into cooking dinner a couple of nights a month. It's easy to have a fair amount of freedom. A baby throws all of that away. No more couples weekends for months, and then arranging for a sitter as baby gets older only to spend the entire get away worried sick! Granted, 14 could babysit after baby reaches a safe enough age so date nights would still be somewhat possible, but there's just....a fear I can't quite shake in the quiet of the night and I feel like it might be for more reasons than just my selfish ideas of freedom. Is this normal? To feel excited and ready to dive in during the day but feeling a panicked and afraid at the thought during the night? Am I too old to have another one? Would the age gap be too extreme?

 

[Clarkecharm]

Okay. This is a long one so buckle up. So, recently my two daughters have expressed interest in having a sibling. I'm feeling a Rollercoaster of feelings about this. Right at 30 (I am 32 now), I had the worst baby fever ever. Kids were against it, husband was meh about it, so I dropped it. At first when they started asking, I was so excited! Even my husband seemed to warm up to the idea. During the day, I find myself thinking of names, surfing baby sites, and often end up in the baby aisle at stores. But then, at night when everything has calmed down, I feel scared. I should mention, my daughters are 9 and 14 years old. Thats a huge gap! I feel selfish because if their dad and I want to go out, we can order them pizza and a movie and slip away for an evening of uninterrupted bliss. My girls are old enough that they are mostly self sufficient. They can bathe themselves and feed themselves breakfast if I feel like sleeping in, can fix their own lunches and my oldest has even ventured into cooking dinner a couple of nights a month. It's easy to have a fair amount of freedom. A baby throws all of that away. No more couples weekends for months, and then arranging for a sitter as baby gets older only to spend the entire get away worried sick! Granted, 14 could babysit after baby reaches a safe enough age so date nights would still be somewhat possible, but there's just....a fear I can't quite shake in the quiet of the night and I feel like it might be for more reasons than just my selfish ideas of freedom. Is this normal? To feel excited and ready to dive in during the day but feeling a panicked and afraid at the thought during the night? Am I too old to have another one? Would the age gap be too extreme?

Hiya my mum was 34 when she had my brother and I was 10 1/2 when he was born. So I definitely don’t think that you are too old. I just wanted a sibling so it wasn’t a prob between us either! You gotta do what’s right for you. Xx