OH keeps forgeting im pregnant !

[MagicMarkers]

And i even look pregnant now so

In the last week hes asked me to :

Dig a vegetable patch whilst he plants bulbs !

Lift up our new double pine, solid and very heavy bed whilst he pops a rug under it

What do you mean youve got nothing to wear, how can none of your jeans fit ?

Were going camping tomorrow and hes just said when i suggested a campbed/sleeping bag.....

Dont be so bloody stupid, its camping, you rough it you dont need any of that, what are you moaning about ???

Im pregnant you twat !! Im uncomfy in our bed bugger the
floor

Id like to think not alots changed since iv been pregnant, but heavylifting and digging ? Why not eh !

 

[jenjen]

Typical man! My DH didn't think anything of asking me to climb across an almost vertical rock face whilst heavily pg with DS. I wonder how it feels to be looked after and fussed over by a caring husband whilst pg? I doubt I'll ever know!!!

 

[lea m]

Oh gosh what are men like hey?

 

[Penstraze]

I don't think they intentionally forget they're just men and don't think!!
For the first half of my pregnancy everytime I told my DH I couldn't do something he wanted me to do i.e. lift the fridge freezer etc he would say 'but your not even properly pregnant yet!!' but he has got beter as time has gone on and actually when I spend time with people who do really fuss around me and not let me do anything I find it so frustrating and am actually grateful that my DH treats me pretty normally!

 

[Daffodil]

So is not just my OH then?

He doesn't ask me to lift things but I don't get special treatment either. I mean one of the few times in your life where you can ask to be looked after!!! and they act like nothing is happening.

Men

 

[Hazel]

A few weeks ago DH said to me "pass me that tyre" . When I complained he said "well, just roll it to me then".

He doesn't forget now that bump is sticking out so much.

 

[Mildly]

I feel bad saying this but my OH is completely the other way. I'm not allowed to lift anything, haven't done any housework since we found out and he often won't let me eat a certain food until he has 'checked with the midwife first'

Also it can be a bit over the top sometimes, I have to admit I am very lucky Perhaps I could lend him out to you girls

 

[Daffodil]

OMG I would love him to do the housework!

ahhh well

 

[fein _but_waiting!]

lol and i was beginning to think i was the only one with a DH who although doesn't forget i'm pregnant, doesn't act like i am! i know i'm not showing really and although a little fatter not too obvious, so i guess out of sight out of mind type thing?! but seriously, a little tender care wouldn't go amiss!

 

[jenjen]

Tell me about it. I was feeling a little self-conscious yesterday (because DH noticed a pic of a friend on facebook and mentioned how slim she looked and that she "probably pulls quite a lot when she goes out"!), and when I mentioned to DH that I was feeling a bit fat, he said "well you don't have a very active lifestyle do you, perhaps you should walk around a bit". HA! What does he think, I'm fat because I sit on my arse all day? Idiot.

 

[Chrissy1]

That sounds like heaven to me!! My DH is so far the other way it's annoying!!

He's got so bad that he wouldn't even let me lift my plate of food up the other night and insited that he carry it for me!!! I've only cooked about 3 meals since I found out I was pregnant because apparently 'I need to rest' so he's doing everything.

It's annoying me because I'm perfectly fine to help out at the minute and plus he's trying to fit everyting in around study time for his exams too while I just sit on the sofa and watch....... I feel so mean.

I suppose I'm lucky in one way but I do wish he'd let up just a little

 

[kerryp]

my other half did seem to forget i was pregnant or give answers like "its not a disease you know" or "women in 3rd world countries do it & dont stop lifting etc"..... BUT then his dad started telling me off if i tried to help when painting, sanding or climbing on chairs to reach high shelves. He now tells me off as well but not to an extreme thankfully. Maybe your OH needs someone to set an example for him

 

[nickilubs]

I feel bad saying this but my OH is completely the other way. I'm not allowed to lift anything, haven't done any housework since we found out and he often won't let me eat a certain food until he has 'checked with the midwife first'

Also it can be a bit over the top sometimes, I have to admit I am very lucky Perhaps I could lend him out to you girls

Snap! Im one of the lucky ones too!

 

[HideiLu]

Yep! I have that same situation...even with my Mum offering me a glass of wine with Brie and Pate all the time She is French after all so can't blame her too much!

Now and then OH will do a random act like put a cushion on a chair before I sit on it. But most of the time he's oblivious!

 

[nori]

my other half did seem to forget i was pregnant or give answers like "its not a disease you know" or "women in 3rd world countries do it & dont stop lifting etc"..... BUT then his dad started telling me off if i tried to help when painting, sanding or climbing on chairs to reach high shelves. He now tells me off as well

Oh my god are you sure we are not with the same man?? LOL.. Ive had exactly the same quotes and when im climbing on work surfaces to get to the top cupboard i get moaned at (with him sitting down of course!)

Claire x

 

[Neev]

If he keeps forgetting...you should keep on reminding him..if he still forgets ..smartly mention - It is ME who is pregnant and it is YOU who has the pregnancy brain!!

If my DH forgot he would learn a new meaning for the phrase Pregnancy hormones...

On a more serious note - it is always easier to remember Men are from Mars women are from Venus. What might be easier for us to realise might not be for them and vice versa. So if he forgets maybe he is being smarty pants, maybe he is being forgetful or maybe he really does not realise what can and cant be done. It is useful to get him to sit down in front of the computer and read on the internet the dos and donts of pregnancy? Sometimes it is as simple as they not knowing. I know my husband asked me - well why cant you have runny eggs? To me it was obvious - its like duh! Then I thought, its obvious to me because us girls usually talk about it or have heard about it. They dont talk or come across this very much unless they have been through it already.

If he thinks you should sleep it rough in camping then tell him to lose sleep the night before camping or just get 3 hours sleep; every 3 hours send him to the loo, tie a rucksack on his front with some heavy bundle in it, get him to run up and down the stairs a few times so he gets used to walking out of breath...tell him he cannot lie down in his favourite position ie on tummy or on back...and then once he is tired and has a rucksack tied to his front and is suffering with lower back pain, panting breath, weak bladder etc etc - then ask him - Why cant you sleep rough when we are camping? Hey it will be fun!! Doing this literally will get him to realise you are not superwoman.

 

[xmcnickyx]

I wish some people would forget I was pregnant!

My friend was telling me before that I couldn't go bowling! My sister and mum trying to tell me I can't lift a box of water. I feel like an invalid!

 

[MagicMarkers]

lol only just read evryones replies now im back from camping ....

came back a day early, because OTHER HALF !!! couldnt stand sleeping on the floor and wimped out because it was too hot for him in the mornings lol bloody wimp !!

Glad its not just mine, cant win tho can they no-ones bloke seems to have the balance down either they think youve got superpowers now your pregnant and can lift stuff u never could before..... or smother you in cotton wool !!

Someone needs to write a leaflet for them at the least !

 

[budge]

And i even look pregnant now so

In the last week hes asked me to :

Dig a vegetable patch whilst he plants bulbs !

Lift up our new double pine, solid and very heavy bed whilst he pops a rug under it

What do you mean youve got nothing to wear, how can none of your jeans fit ?

Were going camping tomorrow and hes just said when i suggested a campbed/sleeping bag.....

Dont be so bloody stupid, its camping, you rough it you dont need any of that, what are you moaning about ???

Im pregnant you tw*t !! Im uncomfy in our bed bugger the
floor

Id like to think not alots changed since iv been pregnant, but heavylifting and digging ? Why not eh !

Hey thats nothing. Wait till you have had the baby.
He will forget he has a baby too.

 

[Penstraze]

Hey thats nothing. Wait till you have had the baby.
He will forget he has a baby too.

I can well believe it!!