Obsessions with TTC

[MYFIRST]

I took some time out from anything to do with TTC, due to a false positive.
Im now back after my body doing some strange things.

I always felt that these forums were such a brilliant help, and support.
But it starts me obsessing about everything that could be related to being pregnant.

I know after reading posts on this forum that others feel they obsess about pregnancy too.
What can we do to stop these thoughts??

There's all the medication in the world to help us to plant that little bean, but is the the stress of TTC, the obsessive testing, charts, and tracking ovulation actually stopping us.

Sometimes i actually felt like maybe my head was making all the symptoms up because i was concentrating on it so much.

so this time im going to relax, chat with ladies going through the same thing, but not obsess
(well i will at least try).

What works well for you to relax, and forget the worries of TTC?

What's your TTC obsession?

xxxx

 

[Titch85]

I am on my second cycle. I am trying not to get caught up in the whole OPK and temperature malarkey, partly because I don't understand it, I would get far too confused and partly because I think it will stress me out. My obsession is talking about and planning 'my baby'.

 

[MYFIRST]

I agree, i couldn't use OPK and similar methods myself.
Stress levels would hit the roof The planning tho i enjoy.
The obsession that stresses me out is symptom spotting, i blame my confused body

 

[Titch85]

My body is also very confused. My last cycle was 47 days long! Who knows what will happen this month!

 

[MYFIRST]

Thats a long old wait, have you recently stopped contraception?

 

[Titch85]

2 years ago! Not trying not preventing since then, last month we decided to try properly. Have a look in my journal.

 

[Iwant3]

I am lucky in that last time ttc I kept a symptom diary for all 3 cycles before I got my bfp - and so i know what is normal non pregnant cycle things and what isn't etc - so no symptom spotting. But I will use OPKs and will test before AF is due ! and I can't help it, lol. Got my first bfp on 12dpo and my 2nd on 11dpo with cheapy ebay strips and evening pee! lol

 

[flisstebbs]

I've found that planning lots of stuff ahead as though its never going to happen is helping the obsessions! Its making life more fulfilling aswell as there's nothing more depressing that putting life on hold. If there's anything you've been meaning to do, then do it regardless of ttc, it gives you a wonderful sense of freedom from it!
I had to take a 6m break from ttc to realise this.

Fx you won't be waiting long for that BFP

 

[janinesboutiqu]

Hey all I have only been off my pill & TTC since January but I found in the first few month (Jan/Feb/March) I went out of my way to not check my temp / OPKs etc because I didnt want to get stressed out etc but then that in itself made me question every little change in my body and always think about it hehe... Then in April & now May I have really enjoyed doing OPKs and charting and used it to get excited about it all but not obbessive because I only chart a few days before, during and after ovulation & then I chill the rest of the month because I know for definitie what stage my body is at & whats going on etc.... I guess everyone is different - that approach may stress some people out even more lol but it really works for me because I look forward to it Good Luck Everyone! xx

 

[crazycatlady]

I joined so i could talk about all my obsessions. I may have gained a few more. But i feel less crazy in this 2ww. I too want to avoid over planning everything, getting oh to agree to trying took a year! I can wait bit longer before i start recording everything.
Xx

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[Katkin72]

I came off Cerazette at the beginning of February and am trying desperately not to get too obsessed - its not working lol!! The 1st couple of cycles I tried to relax and just 'get to know' my body and the changes that occur throughout my cycle. I have discovered so much about my body that i didnt know! I'm still trying to be chilled out and tell myself to relax but it is getting harder, I seem to be charting everything lol.

 

[Denver]

Every time I get even a tine twinge in my boobs I get all like ohh are boobs starting to hurt then I feel like I am looking for symptoms ect...

 

[stargirl]

i never thought I'd be a symptom spotter! I thought I'd just stay relaxed and let things happen on there own!!! Haha - who was I kidding! This is only my 1st cycle and I've done opk's every day since cd9 and I'm noticing evey little ache, twinge and pain!!!

 

[lizsamuel80]

Now that I'm getting closer to AF time I'm checking for spotting that has usual starts about 4 days before AF. None as of yet but I really don't think we caught this month.

Plus the spot checking will continue until after a baby is born and then after that I will keep checking to make sure my body gets back to normal asap. I do a lot of spot checking even not TTC since my Aunty and mum have had uterine cancer both caught it early though.

 

[crazycatlady]

I sympathise - I have tried not symptom spot but the closer I get to AF the less symptoms I seem to be finding of anything! Is very frustrating. I don't think it's my month either.

But despite the obsessing feeling more positive now I can talk about it.
xx

 

[tambo1976]

Many years ago when I had my children I never had the internet so I just came off contraception and hoped for the best. I honestly blame google for making me obsessed now! Theres just so much information out there, I actually think I'd be better off not knowing. I was never this stressed out and certainly didn't symptom spot and fret during the 2ww, I wouldn't have even known what a 2ww was haha. This 2ww Im not going to google symptom spotting at all! and Im certainly not going to taking a test unless my period is actually late. Last month I got in such a tizzy I have vowed not to do it again.

 

[Clairabella]

Hey there
I only use the CBFM but this month we are gonna try conceive plus. I don't temp or chart as I find it too stressful. I am guilty of a little symptom spotting xx

 

[Titch85]

I didn't know anything about TTC until I joined this forum. It makes you wonder if we'd be better off not knowing any of this info and just have lots of sex? If we didn't know so much, maybe we'd be more relaxed and then it would happen quicker? Who knows.

 

[MYFIRST]

Good things come to those who wait.

And it will, just a painful wait until then lol.
Lots of baby dust to all you ladies, looking forward to seeing more BFP's.

Im doing well trying not to obsess about things, work keeps my mind off it at the moment.

If AF doesn't show this week i will test on sunday. FX

Any of you due to test soon?

xxx

 

[MYFIRST]

I didn't know anything about TTC until I joined this forum. It makes you wonder if we'd be better off not knowing any of this info and just have lots of sex? If we didn't know so much, maybe we'd be more relaxed and then it would happen quicker? Who knows.

I agree, everyone else seems to manage fine not knowing the details.

It seems to happen for them quicker too lol.

xx