Not much of it ?

[Maximus17]

Ok I have a question but it could be too much information so apologies in advance. Most of the time we have sex not much semen there. I mean 5 years ago it would be sooo much that I couldn’t get up now it nearly feels dry. Now this is something else I am obsessing about worrying that’s what making it difficult to conceive. Any opinions?

 

[alwayscoffee]

Ok I have a question but it could be too much information so apologies in advance. Most of the time we have sex not much semen there. I mean 5 years ago it would be sooo much that I couldn’t get up now it nearly feels dry. Now this is something else I am obsessing about worrying that’s what making it difficult to conceive. Any opinions?

Tell hubby to "do it" into a cup and see how much there is and then see if it's clear or cloudy. Also, you can get a sperm analysis too to just ease your worries

I've never had so much sperm that I couldn't get up afterward. haha. Does a lot leak out when you go to the bathroom after?

 

[millielaura]

Not sure there is a link as my Oh had really bad motility and just average count until he did a sperm improvement programme and there has always been loads and I can’t get up etc. Xx

 

[BunnyN]

Ladies can produce a lot of wetness down there too, could that have been part of what you were feeling?

 

[Maximus17]

Hi millielaura what’s a sperm improvement programme?

 

[Maximus17]

Just to add a little comes out when I go to the bathroom but nothing like it used to be before. He kind of started smoking a little recently maybe it has something to do with it. I am just so fed up of trying to tell him what to do like drink water take vitamins don’t smoke and he is getting really annoyed with me.

 

[millielaura]

I messaged Serum fertility clinic based in Athens after the clinic here said his sperm was so bad we would need ivf despite his analyses being ok before our daughter. They said men’s sperm could drop drastically in a short space of time sometimes so I totally was worrying loads. Serum said to do their sperm improvement thing which was antibiotics that they prescribed, plus high doses of vitamin C and Vitamin E. His analyses a few months after completing is was normal and we got pregnant the next month which ended in early m/c and then I got this bfp a few months later. So it really worked well! Has your Oh had a sperm analyses done? X

 

[Maximus17]

No he hasn’t and he doesn’t want to have it done. He is very stubborn so it will take me another couple of months to get him to do it.

 

[Maximus17]

Also I don’t know if anyone has seen it but they sell this sperm check kit in boots for 30pounds. I wonder if it’s worth trying it at home ?

 

[Sunflower1]

Make sure he is hydrated. It makes a massive difference. My OH was just drinking coffee all morning and nothing else and he hardly produced anything. He cut back to one cup and started drinking water and it's much better. Also he started Wellman vitamins and that's also improved the quantity. Cranberry juice helps too.

 

[Sunflower1]

Just read what you said about him smoking - that is the worst thing for sperm. It's terrible. Not a good idea if TTC.

 

[Maximus17]

I know but he won’t listen and actually got angry again when I said not to smoke arghhh man I wish we could just get pregnant and he can do what he wants afterwards. I have no idea how we can keep going like this. He finds me telling him everything controlling and I am actually tired of telling him what to do...

 

[Sunflower1]

Are you sure he really wants kids? He's not being very cooperative. Is it worth having a conversation about it all? He doesn't sound terribly motivated. Maybe if you bring up the option of using a sperm donor it might wake him up. That is always an option if you really want children and he doesn't cooperate. Maybe he's finding it all so stressful and that it why he is smoking.

 

[Maximus17]

yes I agree, I think what we are both finding is that normal day routine is stressful, we haven't had a full nights sleep in like 3 weeks being ill etc.. , it's just a bit too much at the moment. I really relaxed on TTC as all that stress around ovulation was also too much. He is the kind of person that if I tell him not to do something he feels I am trying to control him like he used to drink a lot and recently he gave it up himself, the way to get him to do something is to back off and give him space otherwise it just causes arguments so I am trying to ride it out for the smoking bit for now until we feel more relaxed after our holiday in June.
Also I asked him again if he really wants another child and he said yes he said he would be very happy if it happened. and he would be sad to stop trying as well so he really turned a corner as a year ago he was really against it. So I am happy about that but also to add his job is very stressful, working as a director and has too much stress with work than our daughter being ill etc... I think the way he gets his stress out is drinking or smoking, by the way he is only smoking in the evenings not in the day at least thats better than smoking all day right...

 

[Wilson14]

Don't bother with the boots ones they only do count, not motility or morphology and they are bigger problems than count alone.xx

 

[Maximus17]

thanks Wilson, I think I am just going to leave the testing as like I mentioned already stressful as it is, he did agree to drink more water, take vitamins etc..