Not baby realted but i need help??

[Stacey89]

Hi i know this isnt the right place to share this but i really need some advice. So years ago my sons dad (DS is 9) cheated on me and got someone else pregnant. They then got together and had a son who is around 4 (i think) they also have a daughter who is 1.
I never ever stopped my son being apart of their family, seeing his brother etc.
Anyway when the gf was pregnant with the daughter they split up and my ex told me he wouldnt be having anything to do with the newborn or his other son anymore. (I have no idea what happend, no idea why) and that was that. He hasnt seen his son for almost 2 years and has never met his daughter. My son was very close to his brother and loved him so much but the ex gf refuses to let my son see the kids, at first i used to take Ryan to meet her and his brother in the park etc then one day she said to ryan you cant see your brother again as its not fair you see your dad and he doesnt. This was a year and half ago, i have wrote to her, popped around to her house and she just says no. A year and half later my son has anxiety, never stops talking about his brother and just isn't the child he used to be.
Is there anything i can do?
Is there legally any rights for the kids to see each other?
There not my kids and everyone says if my ex doesnt care why should i.. honestly i dont but i care for my son and his life has been turned upside down.
Sorry for going on but i feel better just for writing it down. My head was going to explode x

 

[baby.3]

I can't really offer any advice as I'm not sure were you woukd stand on a legal footing or even if you have a legal stance. But I didn't want to read an run. What an awful situation for your son such a nasty situation for him to be in at such a young age. I'm not sure if you can change the situation, I hope you can, but if not would it be a good idea to help your son through his troubles. If he's suffering anxiety, can you take him to speak to someone? Maybe help him through, professionally. Xx

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[Chase]

Oh that's awful, I dont think that there is anythibg legally that you can do. Hopefully when all the kids are older and can make decisions themselves they can build a relationship

 

[Crumble]

Oh my gosh, she is awful! Why deny to the kid to see his brother and sister?! I don't understand some people. I don't know anything about low but I think you should try to go via solicitor and ask for advice. Poor little thing

 

[firstfreakout]

You could try giving citizens advice a call and see if they can answer your questions or point you in the right direction who can.
I don’t think there is much there in terms of law, you may have to wait until the boys are old enough to make their own decisions on who they hang out with.
Sorry you’re going through this it sounds awful

 

[_GG_]

Can you speak to your exes parents? They will have legal rights as grandparents and could then have all the children together for visits?

 

[Sunflower1]

I would see if you can get some legal advice. I know grandparents have rights so maybe siblings do. Also I would get some counselling for your son - he is probably going through massive grief and confusion. Can you talk to your ex about the effect it's having on his son? Maybe if he agrees to have a relationship with his other kids then his ex gf will let your son see his brother. In my opinion your ex is behaving appallingly in abandonning his other kids and now your son is the one who is suffering. I'd make it clear to your son's father that this will have long term effects on his son's mental health - it's a huge loss for him.


I agree it would be good to get the grandparents involved. This ex gf is punishing your son for his father's actions and it's wrong.