I think Ive cracked it. I left Joes dummy at home on friday when I went to work and he was fine all day without it and hasnt had it since. Jess is another story. She has always loved her dummy and now only gets it at night but when she was away at her grans last night I toldher the dummy fairy came and left her a massive wrapped up present. She could see that Joe (who didnt go to grans) already had his and I explained that as he didnt use a dummy anymore he could have his and if she went to bed without hers then she could get hers in the morning. So..... she is away without it. RESULT
well she went the whole night and is fine with it not being there. I told her the dummy fairy took it. Yippeeeee. Maybe I might get away with the new baby not having one at all.