Neighbours banging on the wall??!!

[Keely]

Ellis has started waking any time between 3-6 and screams till i put him in my bed... last few days i have let him cry for a while to see if he will settle himself because my only other choice would be to give in to him and put him in my bed.

Last night he cried from 3.20 to 3.40 with me going in and sitting next to his cot, then the pollish (SP) neighbours started banging really angryly on the wall!

It scared the life out of ellis and upset me.... what do they expect me to do gag him??!! I understand it must be annoying but i'm not MAKING ellis scream?

Would should i do?

xxxxxxx

 

[mary70]

ignore them hun and carry on doing what your doing it wont last forever, some people really annoy me

 

[Nic'n'Keeley]

Yeah i would say ignore them... but if they do carry on speak to your landlord or council

people!!!!!

Hope your ok

 

[Keely]

thanks mary, i am thinking of writing them a note to say sorry but i cant stop me one year old baby fro crying at the min and the banging is making him worse! plus i will have a newborn soon so the crying with continue after Ellis has stopped!!

xxxx

 

[mum2A&L]

Yeah i would say ignore them... but if they do carry on speak to your landlord or council
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i agree. you could always go around and appoligies, but if it was me, i recon i would end up having a pop

hopefuly he settles himself back down soon

 

[Keely]

i wrote this to them......

Hi

Please except my apologies for my crying son during the night, but as I hope you can understand he is only one year old and when he is crying I am in his room with him trying to settle him as quick as possible.

As he is still a baby, I can do no more then comfort him until he goes back to sleep. Unfortunately you feeling the need to bang on his wall last night only scared him more, making the process longer!

I understand it can be annoying to hear a baby crying, but I think the only need to get angry would be if we was making a noise that we was able to stop, like loud music, TV or me and my partner being to loud. It takes a while to settle a baby and I cannot explain to him that it is nighttime, as he does not yet understand.

Also we are three weeks away from having a newborn baby in this house so unfortunately when she comes the crying may get worse when she is due a night feed etc.

Again please except my apologies and be aware I am trying to settle him as soon as I can.

Thanks

Keely and Richie at number 50.

 

[Nic'n'Keeley]

That letters great

If i wrote it tho there would be some nasty words in there

 

[Keely]

That letters great

If i wrote it tho there would be some nasty words in there

Well trust me i would like to but..... if i get angry they will keep banging... plus we have had to tell them to turn music down etc as they are very noisy and if i get angry i think they might play up on purpose

BUT i am now looking into reporting them to the council cos they leave there bin bags out the front and when they get ripped open they leave old FOOD around for weeks stinking!!! I think they are the reason i keep getting mice in my house!!!!!!!!

xxxxx

 

[LucyBee]

That's terrible! They just make a stressful situation worse for you both.
They're idiots. That's my grown-up opinion!
Good letter. L x

 

[Sammystar]

tell them to buy some bloody earplugs if it bothers them........

 

[mamichuli]

Your letter is far too kind... tell 'em to get knotted! If they continue, I suggest you call the cops and complain about the banging scaring your little one.
My OH just sugested you contact a solicitor to write a "cease and desist" letter if they continue -apparently this is not expensive. also keep a record of unneighbourly behaviour, times and dates.


Lisa

 

[mum2A&L]

good letter! if you do need to take it further you can show you have tried to be civil about the matter

 

[Rosebay]

Good letter, well done.

+++

 

[Keely]

UPDATE......

Found out its a shared house because one bloke (from russia) came out and appoligied to Richie (DF) and said the bloke that leaves in the back room is an ar*e and is noisy himself (he is the polish one) ......

WELL.... this morning Ellis was playing up again.... i really dont know whats wrong with him, .... the he decieded to bang AGAIN!! I was so angry i banged back and he started banging again.....

Well that was it i was fuming!! i had been crying anyway because Ellis waking in getting me down so I grabbed Ellis out of his cot as i was on my own (richie had left for work it was 6.10am) and started hammering on his front door.

He came out saying "do you know what time it is" in his broken english.... so i started screaming at him... "course i know what f'ing time it is you idoit, can you see how young my son is!!! what do you want me to do GAG him for you", he kept shutting the door on me and i just kepts banging it down!!! ..... haha like a crazy preggers women!!

I burst into tear again when i got back in the house, but me and ellis had a long sleep this afternoon so i am feeling better now!

xxxxxxxxxx

 

[fran_23]

aw hun sorry to hear your having this problem!
please dont let it upset you..you were nice enought to write a polite note apologizing (god knows why i would'nt have been half as nice)

Ellis is a bubba he cant help crying anymore than you can
stop him..i would ignore this kretin from now on and if the banging continues i would like to tell him where to go but that probably wont help.
if he keeps doing it maybe Richie could knock and ask him to stop banging as it is making Ellis cry more!

i hate to think of you upset..

i'll come round and give that guy a good whack!!!

 

[mamichuli]

I will be happy to join Fran 23 to go and give him a good kick up the butt. Stupid fool!

You need to rest hun, you must be very near to poppin' now - getting upset isnt good for you or the baby. Maybe it would be a good idea for your other half to go round and talk to him

Lisa

 

[foxymum]

aww Keeley i've only just seen this, i am so sorry hun.
i know what its like when the baby is crying in the night & you're trying to settle him aswell as worry about the noise for the neighbours.
you have done brilliantly with the letter you wrote & unless you know they are moving out soon, then you have to keep things civil or they could make things harder for you.

easy to say that from here though hun i know that.
you should be proud of how you've handeled this IGNORANT TWAT!!!!!!!!!!!!
take care hun.

 

[Sabrina]

Your neighbour sounds an idiot. Everyone knows you can't completely stop a baby from crying sometimes.

I think you were very polite in that letter, probably more than that man deserved, but obviously if he keeps being ignorant you might as well give as good as you get.

If it really gets you down can you have a word with the landlord or owner of the house?

It does seem to me he's being really horrible and selfish especially as you are pregnant as well.

 

[trixipaws]

aw u poor thing

i'd get my boyf and my dad to "hav words"!

 

[fran_23]

has anyone heard from keely??
i dont think shes been on since she wrote this!!

hope everything is ok hun

EDIT: actually i take that back she was on yesterday!!