Need help - Chest infection, hayfever and stubborn boyfriend

[keelie_b]

Hi all,
thought i'd introduce myself, im Keelie im 8 weeks pregnant and due christmas eve, with my first!
Im really excited and just want to scream it to the world and start buying things but i know i have to wait a little longer yet.

i know that everyones differed but i have loadsa questions for you if you have a few minutes, if you could tell me your experiences it would be very halpfull so i know on average what to expect....

1. when do you have your first scan?
2. when do you first see the midwife
3. is it normal to fee like i have period pains?
4. what about the fact that i can not satisfy my hunger at all?
5. when do people start to show?
6. some people have told me to lay off certain foods, doc says as long as i have a healthy balanced diet il be fine which should i believe?
7.when do people suffer with sickness and/or sore boobs?
8. I'd like to go swimming next week is that ok?

not sure what else there is. im suffering at the moment though, i have severe hayfever and also a chest infection at the moment so cant stop coughing, this is supposed to be very stressfull to my body so im desperate to make it stop but apparently until at least 12 wks i cant use anything at all, or so the pharmacist said.

oh and my boyfriend is refusing sex with me whilst im pregnant, so annoying for me! he thinks he will harm the baby and it just wouldnt feel right how can i explain that it just isnt true? sorry to sound so crude but 7 months is a long time and im expecting to get seriously horny with all these hormones flying around

thanks for your help look forward to hearing from you, and congratulations pregnant ladies! xxx

 

[chickadee1976]

Hi Keelie and Congratulations,
Ill try my best to answer some of your questions.


1.when do you have your first scan? .... Should be around about 12 weeks

2. when do you first see the midwife?.... I saw mine about two weeks after i told the doctor but i think they normally want to see you a couple of weeks before the scan to take bloods etc.

3. is it normal to fee like i have period pains? Yes it is your uterus stretching to make room for bubs.

4. what about the fact that i can not satisfy my hunger at all? Lol just the same as me cannot stop eating

5. when do people start to show? everybody is different.

6. some people have told me to lay off certain foods, doc says as long as i have a healthy balanced diet il be fine which should i believe?
Its recommended not to eat soft cheeses like Brie and Camembert and also to lay off liver and pate.

7.when do people suffer with sickness and/or sore boobs? Again everyone is different some people do not suffer with these symptoms at all.

8. I'd like to go swimming next week is that ok? Never been a problem for me.

not sure what else there is. im suffering at the moment though, i have severe hayfever and also a chest infection at the moment so cant stop coughing, this is supposed to be very stressfull to my body so im desperate to make it stop but apparently until at least 12 wks i cant use anything at all, or so the pharmacist said. .... If you are still feeling unwell id go to the doctors to see what he recommends.

oh and my boyfriend is refusing sex with me whilst im pregnant, so annoying for me! he thinks he will harm the baby and it just wouldnt feel right how can i explain that it just isnt true? sorry to sound so crude but 7 months is a long time and im expecting to get seriously horny with all these hormones flying around . Lol men.... Get him a pregnany book to read he wont ham the baby at all Just take it easy.

 

[Fly]

With regards to ya hayfever honey - i sympathise massively as am also suffering at moment - i managed to get a script of nasal beconase spray yesterday and some mild hydrocoritsone for my skin as it went really blotchy with the pollen If doc won't prescribe u anything yet check out a local supplier of locally produced honey... i have a friend who swears by honey as natural antihistamine but it has to be realy local to where you spend most of your time and suffer most of your symptoms goodluck and congratulations on your pregnancy xxxxxxxx

 

[keelie_b]

Great help thanks, my first appointment with my midwife is on the 20th of May which will make me just over 9 weeks do you think they'll scan me soon after then or do they have to wait until 12 weeks xx

 

[MissyRee]

They will most prob wait until your 12 weeks to scan you, as for the sex thing he might change his mind as some men find their partners very attractive whilst pregnant others are worried about the baby as yours is, just try and let him know that he wont hurt the baby he cant reach it to poke it or anything, its in the safe protection of amniotic fluid anyway. x

 

[Laura_James&Amber]

Hey Keelie, congratulations and welcome

1. when do you have your first scan? I had mine at 12 weeks
2. when do you first see the midwife? I saw her at 8 weeks
3. is it normal to feel like i have period pains? very normal, its your womb stretching to make room for baby
4. what about the fact that i can not satisfy my hunger at all? I'm always hungry so join the club! lol
5. when do people start to show? I really started to show at 17 weeks but everyone is different
6. some people have told me to lay off certain foods, doc says as long as i have a healthy balanced diet il be fine which should i believe? just make sure you eat loads of fruit and veg, plenty of fibre and protein and drink lots of water, fruit juice and milk
7.when do people suffer with sickness and/or sore boobs? I suffered with sickness from 5 weeks to 11 weeks but you might be one of the lucky ones and not get any!
8. I'd like to go swimming next week is that ok? i expect its fine to swim, don't see any reason why you can't

Hope this helps and hope you have a happy and healthy 9 months

 

[CH0C0H0LIC]

Not relevant

 

[stace914]

good questions! i had the same ones myself... those period like cramps were scaring the crap out of me!

i have the worst caugh aswell.. and hurts my uterus if i standing upright and caugh.. i have to kind of crouch over, or if im sitting pull my knees up to my chest... it's so scary... my baby is constantly on my mind and i want to do everything right.

i heard you arent supposed to eat fish because of the murcury they contain.

 

[lea m]

Hi!!
I thought I would find you link with a list of what to avoid with regards to food during your pregnancy!
http://www.nhsdirect.nhs.uk/articles/ar ... icleid=917

 

[fluff]

I have a bad dust allergy and a skin allergy too and normally take antihistamines, but can't take them now. I still itch a bit but I take Beconase (my doc recommended it) for my nasal allergy and it's great... so maybe you should find out if you can take that? It should help somewhat with your allergy...

 

[keelie_b]

thanks all

 

[chookie]

My first midwife appt is the same day they book the scan ie at 10 weeks although as I am going to be on holidays it will be when I am 11 weeks before I see a midwife etc. The GP didn't even do a blood test so all I have to go by is the 1 PG test I did weeks ago.

 

[ninjawomble]

1. when do you have your first scan? Today!! (10 +4)

2. when do you first see the midwife Last Friday (9 + 6)

3. is it normal to fee like i have period pains? Yep! I had it till 9 weeks

4. what about the fact that i can not satisfy my hunger at all? Enjoy!!

5. when do people start to show? Different for everyone, later for first timers

6. some people have told me to lay off certain foods, doc says as long as i have a healthy balanced diet il be fine which should i believe? There is a list, the midwife can give you this info

7.when do people suffer with sickness and/or sore boobs? Varies, Ive had no sickness, but sore boobs since day one

8. I'd like to go swimming next week is that ok? yea, just take it easy

And CONGRATS!!!

 

[amethyst_echidna]

1. when do you have your first scan?
I had mine last Friday at about 14 weeks 5 days but that was later than I'd have liked as I'm in Spain and hadn't managed to get on top of the healthcare system beforehand.

2. when do you first see the midwife
Haven't seen a midwife yet but have seen plenty of doctors.

3. is it normal to fee like i have period pains?
Personally I didn't but I read in plenty of places that it's perfectly normal.

4. what about the fact that i can not satisfy my hunger at all?
I'd say you're lucky! I had such awful morning sickness from about 7 to 12 weeks that I could barely eat anything, and there are still things that I was put off eating then and can't bring myself to eat now.

5. when do people start to show?
No idea what the average is, but this is my first pregnancy and I started to show at about 13 weeks.

6. some people have told me to lay off certain foods, doc says as long as i have a healthy balanced diet il be fine which should i believe?
It's a bit of both. Most things are fine, it's the risk of things like salmonella and listeria, or mercury build-up (in some fish) that you have to watch for. I've been told to not eat raw shellfish (oysters etc.), oily fish only twice a week, swordfish and marlin not at all, to avoid pre-prepared salads in a bag, and feta cheese. Also to make sure that red meat is thoroughly cooked (which I'm sorry to say I've ignored because I HATE well-done red meat and I need the iron! I just choose really good quality meat.).

7.when do people suffer with sickness and/or sore boobs?
I had sore boobs for about 2 weeks between weeks 7 and 9, and sickness as I already mentioned between weeks 7 and 12.

8. I'd like to go swimming next week is that ok?
Absolutely! I've read that swimming (gently) is actually good because you can exercise but the water gives you and the baby more support.

AMETHYST