nearly ended my marrage....

[Manda&Thomas]

me and hubby are normaly so strong and talk about everything but since weve had the internet he would be on it for hours and shut down screens when i was near. i thought it was a bit suss so i desided i would save his msn convo's and read his emails and myspace/facebook messages just to see if my worries were right and they were i found a msn convo from him and one female "friend" saying how they cant get eachover out of there heads he referes to me as SHE and lies about me saying ive stormed out the ouse and things infact i had to take my mums kittens to the vets for her so couldnt hang about.
i packed his stuff and had it out with him he claimed it was because we had argued that day but you dont go ding things like that do you?
i really dont no what to do i feel that we have lost a bit of our love that we wont ever get back
im not sure if i want to stay with him as i feel asif i cant trust him anymore but i have nowhere else to go and with the baby on the way i feel asif i should stay and try to work it out proper
what do you all think?
manda xx

 

[NooNoo]

Its a hard situation to be in...ive been through this...

In my opinion the only question you have to ask yourself is can you forgive him and move on?? Or will it be there in your head forever??

Its not easy

If you ever wana talk PM me..like i said..have been through the same kinda thing myslef

 

[freepie]

Oh Manda,

I am so sorry to hear this.... Thats like my worst nightmares coming true.... I think you need some time out, perhaps you should ask him to leave for a few days so you can have a think about what you want?

If i found my husband doing that, i would be heart broken... and saying its because you argued is no excuse...

what does he want? does he want to work it out? because if he does then the first thing he should do is STOP using the computer at home... he has betrayed your trust, and therefore he should not be anywhere near the computer....

i think you should ask him to leave for a few days, i dont think he understands how much he has rocked your relationship... and you are pregnant....

PM me if you want to chat

 

[Babylicious]

Thats awful, you've only been married a few months too and despite having a row or not he shouldn't have done that.

I would ask him to leave for a few days and then see how you feel.

 

[x-kirsty-x]

If it was me I dont think I could forgive OH, even if it was just internet flirting. To me anything like that is betrayal. Does he think that just cos you've had an argument thats a valid excuse?

I would do what the others have said, tell him to go and see how things are after a few days

 

[Josephine_Beth]

Oh poor lass, I really feel for you! My hubby went out one night when I was about 4 months preggers, he went out with his mates and met a local lass, he was texting her and trying to arrange meeting her but called it off last minute, just so happens I found all this out the day he called it off.

I went MENTAL!! It took a few weeks to trust him going out the house without me and a few months before I was ok with him going out to clubs.

I suppose I am trying to say is that it is easy for your hubby to chat online but when it comes to meeting, chances are he'd erase it. Maybe it's an attention thing, like when a newborn comes into the world, if you have a dog, they are bound to get jealous.

I'd sit and have a long chat with him, maybe he has a few things on his mind he'd like to talk about that he doesn't think are appropriate?

Good luck though xx

 

[jenna]

oh hun iv had all this with my DH! Its just a bloke thing!! I used to really upset about it and almost left him but then i realised she means nothing to him and he wasnt thinking of her as a potential gf she was just some one to moan to

Talk to him about it hun

 

[Manda&Thomas]

thanks all
he is banned from the computer unless i am in and can watch what hes doing i told him if he wants to act like a child he can be treated like one!!!
i cqan forgive him and i no he regrets it all he offered to go stay with one of his friends but i said no as i dont no what he would get up to if hes in a mood we have had some very hard months but its no excuse for what he did at all
i said to him its ironic as when we got the internet he turned to me and said "i dont want you chatting to people all night"
as it is its him doing it i only use the pc to come on here and do my online shopping
i will speak to him more when he gets home from work hopefully we can sort this
thanks all for your advice its really helped
manda xx

 

[xx.kelly]

One day when I came home from work I checked the history on the computer after my boyfriend had been on and seen that he had signed up to all these dating websites! And worse of all in the “do you have kids?” section – he wrote “I don’t want kids” --- I was so upset and felt very betrayed! He’s saying to women on the internet that he doesn’t want kids and there I was all oblivious and 14 weeks pregnant!

Men can be really inconsiderate sometimes and only really say what they think that girls want to hear. I really hope that you can get through this. But make sure that you set rules and make him see that he can’t do things that upset you.

Good Luck with your OH and your little baby when it comes

 

[Robyn_]

i personally couldnt forgive him for it tbh,
all that trust just gone.



i really do hope things get sorted for you hunnnnni

 

[Manda&Thomas]

well we sat down and spoke for hours lastnight he creid i sat there looking at him lol face like thunder
we seem to have sorted it for now just hoping that the bit i feel like ive lost will come back with time
hes said he doesnt ever want to come that close to losing me and the baby again and will do anything to make it work
i will keep you all updated if things go wrong again
thanks all you was a big help
manda xx

 

[Babylicious]

 

[Jade_Number1]

 

[frangelle]

Glad to see things are better now hun

It p*sses me off that men seem to make themselves feel less guilty by making up random crap about their partners, when up to no good, grrrrrrr

 

[trixipaws]

sorry i missed this
glad u sorted it out