Missing sex drive

[mrs_tommo22]

DH bless him keeps moaning and nagging at me cos i cant be assed to have sex. tbh i have lost my sex drive big time this time around and i dont know why.
I couldnt get enough of it while pregnant with the first, i wonder why this happend to us?

Am having sex once a week but he aiont a happy boy at all and i feel guilty but i just dont want too and i have been honest with him and said notrhing turns me on at all, and my sex drive has dissapeard.
Any suggestions dcos i have a very unhappy hubby

Sorry if it was tmi

 

[budge]

get him a vibrating vagina from anne summers.

 

[Tangerinedream]

get him a vibrating vagina from anne summers.

you are killing me... i just nearly laugh/coughed myself to death

sorry, that isny very helpful to you is it Mrs tommo

 

[pigletpoo]

I am completely the opposite!! My poor OH is getting completely knackered out, bless him. I was bad before, but am even worse now - can't get enough! Mind you, its the only time we don't argue!!

Seriousley tho, it must be frustrating for both of you. Can you try anything different to get back in the mood? A trip to Ann Summers may not be a bad idea - its my favourite place to shop
But beware - as I said in another post, my friend bought some items from there and less than 48 hours later, she had her baby 2 weeks early!!

Just try lots of hugs and reassure him you havn't gone off him. You may feel you feel more up for it if your more relaxed and less pressured.


Piglet xx

 

[Snuggle]

I'm the same, hardly any sex drive

Have suggested to DH that we invest in some toys to hopefully spice things up and get my mood back a bit

 

[Robyn_]

im sure it will blow over, but maybe a trip to an summers is what you need, maybe not, in all fairness he should understand that you dont want to, but those men do have needs lol

i agree with pigletpoo, i have been worse but recently, he hant been up for it maybe its the look alot of men dont get used to the look of their pregnant gf being pregnant
=?

 

[pigletpoo]

I hate the way I look right now, but luckily OH says it turns him on

So I'll just go with the flow.... and let him have his wicked way.... if he must....

Piglet xx


Heres a thought - is it boy carriers are horny and girl carriers are not?? Anything to do with it?

 

[lozzi]

mine got ran over by my pregnancy.

its still in a coma... hopefully one day it will come back or ill be single for a long long time...

 

[mrs_tommo22]

I have told him and he was understanding but dont stop him from nagging me though for it, i just feel so frigid turning him down flat all the time!
Its the foreplay that im not really enjoying at the mo i tense up too much and i dont know why.Its so frustrating for me and him.
Plusa were living at MIL house and 3 yr old is on same room so that really puts a damper on things!

 

[Snuggle]

Heres a thought - is it boy carriers are horny and girl carriers are not?? Anything to do with it?

Hmmmm! Should do a poll and see what results are

 

[mrs_tommo22]

IOf thats the case then im not having any more girls! I enjoyed my pre pregnancy sex life before!and it was greta with stephen!

 

[topbird]

It is totally the other way round with us.... my DH is just too worried he will hurt me or the baby or both and just cannot get in the mood.... I keep on asking and trying to encourage him but he just does not want to!

the few times we have tried it although I have really wanted too I think his anxiety has wore off on me and I haven't actually enjoyed it once I finally talk him into it! so a bit of a loss loss situation really.

We are still very close and affectionate etc... so I don't feel it is effecting our relationship.

Hope you get in the mood soon Mrs Tommo or you manage to calm your man down a bit!

 

[mrs_tommo22]

I do too, but tbh i would rather have a hot choccie and get some kip, its driving me mad!

 

[topbird]

if you don't feel like it sweetie then don't be pressured. Your DH is just going to have to be more understanding!

I am even dreaming about sex it has been so long but respect my DH and if he doesn't want to then I will just have to wait! wedding anniversary is about 4 weeks after I am due, so as long as he is in the mood by then!!

 

[Sabrina]

Do you think maybe living with your MIL and having your son in the room isn't helping? It must make things more difficult.. I know I'd feel a bit worried if they could hear, or if you were disturbed

Try not to worry about it too much because that will also have a negative effect on your sex drive. Instead just try to ensure you get some time together alone to relax and have a few cuddles whilst watching a sexy movie or something. I am sure you can be close without having sex (although your OH might not feel same way)

 

[mrs_tommo22]

I think thats a lot of the problem sabrina, well the pressure bit anyways.But ewven when we had our own place id make excuses and tbh i had none either, just werent plain old horny like the rest of yous!

The thing is im having kinky dreams every now and again about have sex with julian mcmohon - cole in charmed and also in nip/tuck phowwwar!
So that just makes it worse, maybe cos dreams dont tire me out and i know in my dreams the MIL cant hear.
She wouldnt care if she did, bgut i just cant you know? and stephen sleeps like the dead but i cant have sex with my soon to be 3 yr old in the room!

 

[Sabrina]

I quite understand the sexy dreams about Julian McMahon. I remember him years ago in "Home and Away". Yummy.

Everyone's sex drive is different and libidos can really affected by stress at times. Just go with the flow and try not to worry too much about it.

 

[mrs_tommo22]

He is yummy, but i dodnt have sex qwith him lssdt night, my hormones lept me awake so i made my hubby happy until next week now lmao

 

[Marijana FC]

I am not intersted in sex either. For the first three months I was concerned that sex might cause miscarriage (I know it sounds stupid!), the second semester was great for sex but now since I entered the third semester I don't feel sexy at all! Thank God, my husband is not nagging me and is very, very understanding. But I still feel the need to be physically intimate with him. That's why we spend lots of time naked in bed, just cuddling. He likes it too so we are all happy!