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[nat206ttc3]

We have two boys aged 10 & 7.

On the day of my section my parents will have them and bring them to us at the hospital.

My question is how do I say I want an hour with just my husband, two boys and baby before anyone else comes in? I have a feeling my mum might be offended but I want the boys to have their place and meet their sister first x

 

[Cati]

My advice would be to tell her straight. Might be a bit awkward, but you’ll feel much better after xx

 

[candymycandy]

Yeah I agree. Say it’s important your boys see her first to bond etc. Sure she’ll understand. Failing that get the MWs to sort it for you!

 

[hopeful1976]

Just say this exact thing that you have just written here, this is perfect and couldn't be more sincere. Tell her how much you love her and how you are worried she might feel offended ( exactly what you have just written ), and then the rest of the above sentence. Before you know it, she will be convincing you not to worry and that she wouldn't be offended and that she completely understands.Good luck x

 

[nat206ttc3]

Thanks ladies. I just feel it’s only fair for the boys to meet and bond with her first x

 

[candymycandy]

Just realised Nat I’ll have this EXACT same problem myself only it’ll be my Mother in Law! Realised I’ll be able to send DH out though to do the dirty work!

 

[nat206ttc3]

Lol, it’s not easy eh? Parents and in laws �� x

 

[Emmajaine]

I had this exact thing with my daughter and mum.

I literally just came came our with it and said I wanted Lexi to be the first to meet her sibling and have a bit of time with just the 4 of us. She completely understood, and phoned my oh when she arrived at the hospital so he could get Lexi, then she went and had a coffee while we had some time together.

Xx

 

[nat206ttc3]

I had this exact thing with my daughter and mum.

I literally just came came our with it and said I wanted Lexi to be the first to meet her sibling and have a bit of time with just the 4 of us. She completely understood, and phoned my oh when she arrived at the hospital so he could get Lexi, then she went and had a coffee while we had some time together.

Xx

Sounds perfect. Hopefully my mum will understand I’m not trying to be nasty. Only want 30 mins-1hour. It’s only fair the boys are first to meet her x

 

[GF91]

I’ve managed to upset my MIL by saying I don’t want any visitors at the hospital. Do I care? No! The first face I want to see coming through the door is my daughters to meet her sister & I won’t allow anyone to take that moment away from her xx

 

[candymycandy]

argh, people! So unfair, as if you’re not going through enough being pregnant and then giving birth. Glad it’s not bothering you. It’s such an important time for siblings x

I’ve managed to upset my MIL by saying I don’t want any visitors at the hospital. Do I care? No! The first face I want to see coming through the door is my daughters to meet her sister & I won’t allow anyone to take that moment away from her xx

 

[Hayley M]

I'm not having a planned section however I may have the same issue as my 4 year old will likely go to my MIL whilst I'm in hospital. I was thinking of getting my partner so go and pick him up and bring to the hospital and to tell his mother she can visit the following day/later on. It's such a special time and Iv been waiting for this moment for a while !! I'm sure your mother will understand xx

 

[April4415]

I'm not in the same position as this will be our first, but I know my MIL will want to know every single update from the start of labour, which irritates me. I need to get it across that I won't be updating her until we/or I am ready. I had a sweep on Monday and then as soon I came in (we went over for tea) she was like Well how was it, what did they say? And starting talking about my cervix to everyone, I was like omg just stop! Xx

 

[candymycandy]

April as it’s your first it’s easy to keep a secret when it kicks off - just don’t tell her and keep radio silence on your phones! She’ll probably guess when you don’t reply but at least you won’t have to keep replying to pointless texts!

 

[April4415]

Yeah I'm just worried that it'll happen while hubs is at work which is where the problem starts. They both work together in the same school and as she's only part time she drives them both Wednesday/thurs/Friday so then he would have to take her car to come back home and he would have to and get her keys! It just gives me a bit of freedom that way to go out in the car while I'm off and kill some time, but after tomorrow I might just let him take it every day to avoid that happening! Xx

 

[candymycandy]

Oh I see the issue! Yeah I’d do that with the car for sure. Will be well worth it and good excuse for you to have some lazy days! It’s insane the things we have to consider x

 

[April4415]

Yes haha it may be worth going insane for a few more days in the house on my own than being stuck in that scenario! Xx