Making friends

[Lorna]

I have just moved to near Portsmouth with my DH as he has a new job, I know absolutely no one down here aside from my MIL.

How would you go about making friends? I don't have kids yet although we are trying so Mums and baby groups are out and I would imagine things like an art class might be full of the blue rinse brigade in the daytime as most people are at work. (I don't work due to illness unfortunately, this also rules out doing any sport as I physically can't do it)

Any ideas, it's a nice place we've moved to but I am worried about being isolated and alone all day.

Thanks for reading. xx

 

[tuck]

Hi

you could contact the local adult education centre and see what classes are available, there's all sorts of things to do from learning another language to car maintainance.

without knowing what interests you have you could see if there are any book clubs in the area where people get together,

I'm sure you'll find something that will enable you to meet new people

 

[feenix]

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[Urchin]

i'd maybe look in the local paper for coffee mornings or something. Also try and find a local forum and meet people there. do you have any hobbies?

Have you made a thread on the find a buddy section here

 

[Minime]

Take a break magazine are running a chums 4 mums campaign. www.chums4mums.co.uk

You just register in your area and contact one of the co-ordinators or any of the mums and away you go

 

[Manda&Thomas]

not sure hun but i live in portsmouth
ive got a baby but i still wont go to baby groups not my sort of thing really,
i did join net mums ect but not really anyone on there that i could be friends with
only thing i can think of is maybe do a class at college or something?
xx

 

[Lorna]

Thanks for all your suggestions. I'll look at a course maybe, just not sure what I'd want to study!

 

[dannii87]

How about knocking on a few of the neighbours doors and just introducing yourself? Or if you're anything like me and need a reason to speak to someone, ask to borrow some sugar or something as you're not competely settled yet, then you have a reason to go back to them by buying them some sugar back or something? Or asking your MIL if she knows anyone she could introduce you to?

xx

 

[mrs_metal]

A friend of mine recently moved to Southampton and didn't know anyone so she's in the middle of joining the Womens Institute, she loves cooking and crafts so thinks it'll really suit her. She's only in her 20's and says WI is for all ages, they're not all granies, she said She's only been to one or two meetings so far but she says they seem to be really nice ladies and welcoming. Would that sort of thing suit you?

 

[Kylie1007]

Some areas have social groups such as www.devonsocialgroup.com
I know this is Devon but don't know if there's anything else similar near you.

 

[nori]

I was in a similar boat as i moved a distance away from my friends and family. Not too far but far enough. I did a couple of college courses and also joined the samaritans. I think voluntary work maybe a good place to start as you can just do a few hours if you can manage it. I do find it hard though and im now going to an NCT class. Im hoping the baby will help getting to know people. It seems the main things which help are babies or dogs.

Claire x