Leaving LO with someone else

[Redshoes]

I'm not sure why I'm asking this except the other day my OH matter-of-factly said to me in front of our cherished neighbour, how our neighbour could watch Isaac while we did some shopping if we wanted.. I was like at him, and politely declined the offer, but once in private I was like I couldn't believe he thought I'd leave Isaac with anyone, I was so shocked and hurt at the thought. How do others find leaving their LO's with others? What age did you find it comfortable?

I will only leave Isaac with my OH, no-one else, and I feel so lucky I am able to do that. However, it does concern me that Isaac doesn't really see lots of people, unfortunately I don't live close to my lovely and supportive friend and cousin, so we keep in touch a lot on the phone, and so Isaac is very much for us, and not really others He's very much for me over OH too, though he's spending much more alone time now with Daddy so that's lessening.

I jsut wondered what other peeps experiences were of leaving their LO's with others?

 

[jenni32]

Well we left Jude with my sister overnight at 2 weeks. That might sound a bit early,but he was, and still can be , a very demanding baby so the break was very much needed. He stays over with her family once every 4 or so weks and thoroughly enjoys it. He gets lots of fuss and attention, and we can have a bit of time alone and go out for a meal or a drink. I personally think it's good for little ones to have lots of contact with other folks as I have a dread of Jude becoming clingy . This is probably because I know I will have to go back to work and the thought of leaving him with a nursery or childminder when all he is used to is us is heartbreaking.

It's each to their own but I think babies would like a bit of variety as much as us xxx

 

[Tangerinedream]

I was like

Sorry that made me laugh so much

Anyway. Me n my OH are going out for a meal and cinema tomorrow (its our 11 year 'anniversary' ) so his mum is coming round to babysit for us. IT is the first time Jake has been away from both of us. I feel ok about it as she brought him up just fine.

 

[kellie80]

I'm just getting to the stage with nathan where I'm letting go a bit and hes coming up to 8 months. At 1st I wouldn't let him out of my sight of even let anyone feed him. My MIL wanted to give him a bottle once and I took him off her Hes been left with DH, my mum and my MIL and SIL up to now but only if they come to our house. When they get to Jessicas age(7) you don't really bother. I don't think I left him with anyone, even DH till he was 4 or 5 months.

 

[budge]

I'm not sure why I'm asking this except the other day my OH matter-of-factly said to me in front of our cherished neighbour, how our neighbour could watch Isaac while we did some shopping if we wanted.. I was like at him, and politely declined the offer, but once in private I was like I couldn't believe he thought I'd leave Isaac with anyone, I was so shocked and hurt at the thought. How do others find leaving their LO's with others? What age did you find it comfortable?

I will only leave Isaac with my OH, no-one else, and I feel so lucky I am able to do that. However, it does concern me that Isaac doesn't really see lots of people, unfortunately I don't live close to my lovely and supportive friend and cousin, so we keep in touch a lot on the phone, and so Isaac is very much for us, and not really others He's very much for me over OH too, though he's spending much more alone time now with Daddy so that's lessening.

I jsut wondered what other peeps experiences were of leaving their LO's with others?

who would you trust with your life? who would you trust with the pin number to your cash card?
answer those two questions and your have your answer.

i odn't leave mine with anyone apart from my own mother, husband of course, and my sisters and brothers.
No one else i would trust -

 

[x-kirsty-x]

I first left Ryan when he was about a month, only for half an hour though.

Now we leave him with my parents or OH's parents every so often for a few hours while we go out to the cinema or wherever, or if we want to spend a bit of time alone with Josh.

Our 2 closest friends have him sometimes too. I wouldnt leave him overnight yet but I honestly dont mind leaving him for a little while. Id rather do it now while he's not too clingy so it'll be easier in the future.

Its actually nice to have some time to ourselves but I always miss him like crazy and give him lots of cuddles when we get him back

 

[Alfiesmummy]

I have no worries about leaving Alfie with my mum or Ian, I am a bit wary over leaving him with anyone else, ill leave him with a friend of mine for ten minutes whilst i need round the corner to the newsagents or bakers but thats about it, Ian keeps suggesting we find ourselves a babysitter so we can have more one on one time away from the house but theres no way would i trust anybody yet so we've come up with a solution that my mums goign to have Alfie for the weekend once a month to give me and his dad quality time together, also my mum lives over an hour away from me so its nice for her to get some time with him.

 

[krystal&jack]

Well I've already let Jack stay overnight with my aunty and my OH mam. My best friend came over to my house and looked after him friday while we went to the cinema.

I have no problems leaving Jack, I would only leave him with people I trust 100% and i think it's healthy for him to be used to other people apart from me and OH.

To be honest although I miss him like crazy I enjoy the time me and OH spend on our own sometimes. I think it's important that yur still your own person as well as mummy.

 

[Sammystar]

I have several good friends and neighbours who I trust (all have kids of their own), I have a regular babysitter who is fantastic with the kids, and of course I leave my older kids in the kindergarten for two full days a week (and I'm not personally aquainted with all the staff there )

We all have to do it at some point, and it does get easier as they get older......

 

[Rosieroo]

I've left the children with my mum (at my house) a few times at night when they've been asleep so we could go out for a couple hours. Friday was the first time in the day Alex had been away from me with someone, and that was with my mum whilst I went to a funeral. It was also the first time Ella had been with someone other than my mum, and that was at friend's house. The friend is someone I've been meeting every week since Ella was a few weeks old and someone that I trust and Ella likes.

I am very wary of leaving my children and find it hard to trust anyone to look after them the same way that I do. However they're not clingy as I take them out a lot to interact with other children, which helps I believe. In fact it's often commented to me how independent Ella is - so please don't worry that there is something wrong with you for not leaving your LO. If you don't feel comfortable with it then don't do it

 

[Fiona]

I am just the same - have left Grace with OH but we have neither left her with anyone else ........... both my parents have passed away and Dh parents live several hours away - plus I don't particularly like their attidtude to babies

The first time we stayed with them with Grace and Grace started to cry, they both told me several times to just leave her... that it was good for babies to be left to cry....... she was only 3 weeks old at the time and wasn't then and has never been a crying baby so I knew that something was wrong............

so now feel that I couldn't never trust her with them ...........

I think Budge has asked the right questions.......... except that I would trust DH 100% with Grace but definately not trust him with my pin number

 

[trixipaws]

i cant leave melissa with any1 as not sure if she'll take bottles yet, but i would only leave her with my boyf or my parents, deffo not a neighbour!
omg i'd hav been so mad at him!

 

[Redshoes]

lol trixipaws, we've know our neighbour years, she's an elderly lady but very spritely hehe and she watches our dog for us often, so it wasn't annoyance for him suggesting her, just annoyance at him suggesting anyone

Thankyou for all the replies, I do think location and the people in your life contribute to how you are with leaving your LO, or is in our case I believe. We don't see our parents or grandparents, so I think we've got a huge gap there with people you would usually have and trust, and live a while away from close friends too.

It's more a case of me worrying that Isaac wouldn't understand we'd be going back for him too. He's a very sensitive soul, he likes to know where we are, and if he gets upset, it's quite bad to be honest, and so I'd hate for him to be that upset and us not be there...enough waffling anyway, thankyou very much for your feelings on the matter

 

[rusks]

our parents have luke when we go out, never left him overnight yet though. this week i left him with a child minder for 9 hours and he will be doing this 1 day a week from now on, he loved every minute of it, watching the other children. not saying i would choose to do it if i didn't have to work but feel quite happy to do it now i know he is ok. also its important you spend quality time with your OH, you have to remember you are a couple as well as a family now as well, but also you must leave your little ones with people you are happy to do so and trust at the same time.