Keeping my mouth shut is hard

[Donna88]

My friend has been talking about Disney holidays and out of interest I looked up what it would cost for our little family to go, we were talking about it and I said how obviously we can't go this year as we have the wedding and honeymoon.

She kept saying how flights will be released for next year soon and how we could book for then, I found it so hard not telling her no we can't as I wouldn't know whether to book an infant on the flight as well or whether I couldn't go at all as I may be heavily pregnant.

 

[Louise2013]

Hey hun, if it helps, you would most likely be able to go as it is fine to travel up to 36 weeks if you're healthy. And as for booking for an infant, you don't need a seat until they are two so you can just add them in afterwards if a that happened if it something you want to do and really wanna go, don't let TTC stop you. Life can't stand still for a 'but what if,' xxxx

 

[Mrs M]

I want to talk about it too, but at the same time, I don't want anyone to know my plans! Lol! Good job we've got each other eh!

 

[Donna88]

I think I'd book it later in the year, as I'd have an idea... I wouldn't want to book it and then fall pregnant and be due around that date is all. Very true about the adding an infant


To be honest though with all the paying for the wedding and honeymoon, we could do with saving any money we would put on a Disney deposit anyway. Maybe wait until after our honeymoon and start looking at booking it, depending on how money feels (and if I can convince my fiancé) he's very quick to agree to things until paying a deposit comes up lol.


I think it's just more when people talk about next summer, I just think ''I might have a baby then'' same as Christmas I keep thinking ''hopefully I won't be drinking''

You are right though, it's a God send having you ladies here, as otherwise I don't know if I could keep quiet and I don't want people knowing our plans, it's between us and I wouldn't want people knowing we were trying and constantly guessing if we were pregnant or not.

 

[Mrs M]

Me & DH were thinking about the NFL in London in September/October, but if I fall pg the first month of trying like I did with DS< I could be 6/7 months pregnant, so probably not up to walking around London for 3 days! Also his works Xmas party is usually on London, and again at 7-8 months pg I don't fancy that idea either! I'm not having an abroad holiday this year, as I'd hate to go abroad pregnant, even just a couple of months! I've had quite bad morning sickness with both my babies so I doubt DH would be happy having to entertain both kids by himself!

I'm also hoping by Xmas I will defo be expecting so thinking just how different life could be in just 6 months! Trying to sort my house out so I can move DS in to another room, and my nursery will be vacant again!

 

[Donna88]

It would be amazing if we fell pregnant on honeymoon (first month of trying) but I don't want to get too excited and hold out for it. But at the same time I can't help but think ooo a May baby.

I'll be honest, I do sort of use that time frame when thinking about where I'll be at certain points over the next year. Just hope if I don't get pregnant straight away that I don't take it too hard.

 

[Mrs M]

If we fall pregnant first month, I won't be able to tell my ILS til nearly half way as my SIL is due her first baby in July, so I would hate to deflect any of the attention. We decided we wouldn't say anything until at least mid September as her baby will then be 6/8 weeks old! But by then I could be about 18 weeks!!

 

[Donna88]

I think you'd have to see how much you were showing as well wouldn't you?

Although it can be done, my sister kept her 4th pregnancy quiet from everyone until their 20 week scan, I think she wanted to wait until she knew what she was having. It was a big shock as she'd told at least immediate family early with the others, but it was also lovely finding out and finding out it was a boy. She did however spend quite a bit of time in baggy clothes moaning about not loosing her baby weight from the 3rd, then all of a sudden when she announced it she got the maternity clothes out and she had a really obvious bump, so it can be done.


I'm glad I'm not the only one who's worked out when we would tell people depending on when we get pregnant. August would be perfect for us, as we'd be due our 12 week scan around half term, it would be great if we could have it and then spend half term making sure family were all told.

 

[Mum2Many]

I don't think I'd tell people at all! Just get fatter and fatter and see if people noticed! LOL

Seriously though I haven't even thought about when I'd tell people. I quite fancy leaving it as long as possible, but I have a big mouth when I'm excited about things like that!

 

[Donna88]

Haha-it would be quite amusing to see how long it took someone to say something once I was obviously pregnant but hadn't said anything

 

[mel0013]

Haha-it would be quite amusing to see how long it took someone to say something once I was obviously pregnant but hadn't said anything

Funny you say that my eldest step sister is due at the end of april and still hasn't told her 2 eldest children (who don't live with her) that they're going to have a new sister!!!

Also speaking of telling people I told said sister I was having my coil out and we would start ttc her exact reply "oh god".............. Nice! Any decent person will be happy for you but there's always one xx

 

[Mum2Many]

LOL Nobody is ever happy for me these days. I think the most congratulations I got was with my last baby, but that was only because everyone knew I really wanted one more and that I'd been told it wasn't possible. And I made it clear I didn't want any negativity at all. LOL

But normally nobody is ever pleased for me. I guess once they decide you should be done, they don't see a need to celebrate or congratulate you any more. I don't care though, I'm always pleased so screw everyone else.

So long as you're happy that's all that really matters!

 

[Donna88]

Yeah don't let anyone bring you down hun. That's one of the reasons I'm not planning on telling anyone we're trying, there are plenty of people who I know will be happy for us-but I think it will be nice to keep it between us anyway.

Then there are the people who I know will have something negative to say, when I mentioned last year (before we'd properly decided whether we were trying for another straight after the wedding or not) something about, if we have another to my mum her response was ''oh your having another?'' when I questioned her on why she was so surprised she back tracked and said that she didn't think I would until after I'd finished open uni (bearing in mind I have another 4 or 5 years doing open uni)

 

[Donna88]

Just realised your starting to try in Feb Mel.... not long now

 

[mel0013]

Just realised your starting to try in Feb Mel.... not long now

Nope coil is out a week today!!!

I do ignore the negativity but every once in a while it pees me off! Xx

 

[Donna88]

Just realised your starting to try in Feb Mel.... not long now

Nope coil is out a week today!!!

I do ignore the negativity but every once in a while it pees me off! Xx

Yeah it is hard to ignore.

At least you know you are doing what is right for you *hugs*

 

[mel0013]

Thank you. It is the main thing and it's what we want xxx