I've turned into a BAD person

[ISH]

My mum and all mums always tell you being pregnant is like walking through a spring meadow, birds chirping, everything blossoming, happy hormones making sure everything feels right and fulfilling. Well, it's a bunch of crap.

I might not have been an angel before, but now I am a complete and utter witch. I feel constantly ill with nausea, any sort of movement makes it worse, any sort of food makes it worse. I hate everything and everyone. I do not in the least feel like I'm creating something miraculous and unique. I just feel like a fat, ill slob. My poor husband is doing absolutely all the housework, all the shopping and I still manage to find him annoying when he really does nothing wrong. I feel SO incredibly guilty....

Thankfully he never takes me seriously, he knows I'm being in one of my Tasmanian devil moods, but still. I don't WANT to be like this!

On top of everything, we're going on holiday on Monday and the thought of dragging my sorry bum to Italy is making me lose the will to live.

Someone, PLEASE, tell me pregnancy gets better than this!

 

[Maria1977]

You sound normal to me hun! I was the same, my OH didn't do the housework n all that I still did it, but I felt crap mostly and raging hormones! i blossomed a fair bit of the 2nd trimester but that's it the rest of the time awful. I hated being pregnant, all i did was moan and cry and I felt so guilty because i wanted my baby so bad and I loved him so much but I just wanted him to get out of me!! Weird thing though, within 2 weeks of him being born I missed being pregnant lol xxxxx

 

[natashateale]

Its different for every person.
When i had my little girk i felt the same as you. Being sick all the time, feeling fat and unatractive and all thatt till my 3rd tri! Then all of that was over looked by the fact that i would have her in my arms. For me it didnt get better just got used to it.
Other women mite tell you different but i felt like u!
Good luck with your pregnancy xx

 

[xcitedmum2bex]

a felt exactly same hun at ur stage am like why did a do this a did no housework nothing everything was effort and was moaning all time and hated it once a was about 14 weeks felt totally different now am bak my self again cleaning up eating with just some aches pains that a can deal with so hopefully pass soon x

 

[Sarah13]

I felt a bit like you in tri 1, thankfully tri 2 is great now I feel myself again! Having said that i hated pregnancy with my daughter so much I now have a 14 year age gap! The thought of going through 9 months of crap was enough to stop my clock ticking till I reached 35! I have had lots of 'why am I doing this' thoughts but once I got to about 14 weeks I started to feel better and decided I would make the most of this very short time in my life and enjoy it as it will probably be my last pregnancy.

 

[ISH]

Thanks so much, girlies x It is really just the sickness, isn't it...? I hope and pray for Trimester 2 to make things better.

 

[i.love]

oh dear... I know how you feel hun

just hang on there - Tri2 is usually so much better!

 

[knopk@]

It does get better, 2nd trimester is not that bad! But I am muchg more moody andangry that before (if thats possible)

My OH described tri1 as living with a 14 year old boy who doesnt do anything, just sits in bed

 

[ISH]

A 14 year old boy, that is incredibly apt!! I'll pass it on for a few laughs xD

 

[JoJo79]

I was the same espec with dd1 i didnt bloom i withered!! I dont "do" pregnancy well at all, your not alone xxx

 

[Christinakb]

Hi all
So pleased its not just me feeling this way,tried to speak to my sister who has 2 teenagers about it but she didnt seem to understand what i was trying to tell her.I feel very guilty for feeling this way.btw im only 7wks so far.
Christina

 

[Bella2]

Fear not hon - it does get much better! I found that when I hit 13/14 weeks the sickness and constant tiredness lifted and I started to feel like my old self again Tri 2 is much more relaxed! It's great also once you get a lovely bump to sport and people start to notice you're pregnant and you get lots of lovely comments about how you're glowing - I have to say at one time I thought I thought I'd never get to that stage!! Hang in there hon it won't be long, in the meantime have a lovely hols x x

 

[ISH]

Thank you, everyone! This should be called the Pregnant&Grumpy Club or something!!!


Awfully glad I'm not alone, I felt so rubbish!

 

[Cazza]

This should be called the Pregnant&Grumpy Club or something!!!

Oh please can I join too!!!

My OH casually said this morning 'You've been a bit tetchy recently haven't you'................could have ripped his head off!!!

I hate feling ill and useless.

And I'm in the middle of baking 100 cupcakes for a cupcake tower for my best mates 40th tomorrow and can't even lick the bowl...........boo hoo!!!

 

[ISH]

This should be called the Pregnant&Grumpy Club or something!!!

Oh please can I join too!!!

My OH casually said this morning 'You've been a bit tetchy recently haven't you'................could have ripped his head off!!!

I hate feling ill and useless.

And I'm in the middle of baking 100 cupcakes for a cupcake tower for my best mates 40th tomorrow and can't even lick the bowl...........boo hoo!!!

The P&G Club is officially open

Men, beware.

 

[Rachaellius]

Omg thankyou for this i've just been able to prove to my OH that i'm not the only one that has this. I still feel like you do a little but I had TERRIBLE morning sickness and it is starting to feel better. Believe me it will for you too, the majority of people the sickness stops at the beginning of 2nd tri. I was just unfortunate that it carried on for a little while longer getting there now though.
I swear my OH thought I was just using being pregnant as an excuse for being lazy! lol

xx

 

[Cazza]

I will hang my head in shame as I always kinda believed that old saying 'pregnancy is not an illness' when ladies around me said they felt bad in the first Tri.

Now I know how they feel................am soooooooo sorry!!!

 

[Taassh_0x]

I had all of that too chick, in my first trimester I was terrible!! Even looking at my OH and thinking about sex would make me near enough physically sick. I had morning sickness up until around 20 weeks and then I had heartburn from 22 weeks +... heartburn that bad I had to make my self sick to get rid of it in the middle of the night... but; (sorry didn't mean to scare you lol) My sex drive then went really high and OH couldn't keep up with it and it's like that still!, so don't worry, it soon pays off... plus because my morning sickness was that bad I dropped two dress sizes a nd I've never had so many complements on my apperence since I've been pregnant (I'm not been big headed saying that, but I look at my reflection and I defo see a difference now.) All those docs and midwifes who tell you to eat and stuff... it doesn't make a difference whether you eat a ginger biscuit or what, I was also a right grumpy moody cow and nearly split up with my OH but... what I found useful was getting used to my new routine and interests, cuz everything does change... I had a massive obsession with glade candles, so I'd make OH light them around the house and run me baths, and think of something really nice when your feeling sick, like dipping you feet in the cold sea and sand (that's what I think about) I know it sounds stupid, but it does work... It helps get rid of the thought of what's making you feel sick... and sit down quiet, or run a bath ect... it does help. The moody feeling will slowly go away, when you get around 20 weeks... just keep Oh on his feet, he has gotta get used to it with the LO around anyway Hope this helps, even though my advise does seem weird lmao. - sorry about spelling too x

 

[ISH]

Omg thankyou for this i've just been able to prove to my OH that i'm not the only one that has this. I still feel like you do a little but I had TERRIBLE morning sickness and it is starting to feel better. Believe me it will for you too, the majority of people the sickness stops at the beginning of 2nd tri. I was just unfortunate that it carried on for a little while longer getting there now though.
I swear my OH thought I was just using being pregnant as an excuse for being lazy! lol

xx

If men could get pregnant, I know they'd use it as an excuse!!

 

[ISH]

I had all of that too chick, in my first trimester I was terrible!! Even looking at my OH and thinking about sex would make me near enough physically sick. I had morning sickness up until around 20 weeks and then I had heartburn from 22 weeks +... heartburn that bad I had to make my self sick to get rid of it in the middle of the night... but; (sorry didn't mean to scare you lol) My sex drive then went really high and OH couldn't keep up with it and it's like that still!, so don't worry, it soon pays off... plus because my morning sickness was that bad I dropped two dress sizes a nd I've never had so many complements on my apperence since I've been pregnant (I'm not been big headed saying that, but I look at my reflection and I defo see a difference now.) All those docs and midwifes who tell you to eat and stuff... it doesn't make a difference whether you eat a ginger biscuit or what, I was also a right grumpy moody cow and nearly split up with my OH but... what I found useful was getting used to my new routine and interests, cuz everything does change... I had a massive obsession with glade candles, so I'd make OH light them around the house and run me baths, and think of something really nice when your feeling sick, like dipping you feet in the cold sea and sand (that's what I think about) I know it sounds stupid, but it does work... It helps get rid of the thought of what's making you feel sick... and sit down quiet, or run a bath ect... it does help. The moody feeling will slowly go away, when you get around 20 weeks... just keep Oh on his feet, he has gotta get used to it with the LO around anyway Hope this helps, even though my advise does seem weird lmao. - sorry about spelling too x

Sex: EWWWWWWWWWWWWW. I get furious when he even touches me by accident at night, movement = instant sickness.