It is just me or i am weird

[heggie10]

Hi all,

Thank you all for your replies. Great to know i can talk to someone. As the title goes it is just me or i am weird. I do worry about big and little things. How long will it take me to conceive. When i (we) become pregnant how much will my body change will my boobs be down around my knees, will our sex life ever be the same, how can i last several weeks before and several weeks after for sex (that will drive me mad).
Will i be all fat and flabby afterwards. Will i ever have a social life. Will me and my husband get on.

I hate asking this question but i have read about 3 or 4 times but not on this website. Do both partners need to orgasm at the same time for more a chance to conceive.

Now ladies don't i have little to worry about?

 

[flexilexi394]

wow honey that is a lot on your mind! i think conception is an interesting topic because i didnt ttc i literally had 5 or 6 occasions where i couldve fallen pregant and did, wasnt trying or anything, just happened. orgasm thing probably only increases chance, i wouldnt say essential at all! only because of how i conceived.

Everyone asks the questions of parenting and life after baby is born, its the scariest thing but once you have gone through to your second trimester everything pans out and makes sense.

If you and your partner have a strong relationship, go for it! thats what couples do, marry, have children etc. i cant wait personally!

Its all normal things youre thinking. try not to panic about anything. also, it totally depends on how long it takes to concieve, i was on the contraceptive implant and the month i came off it ready to go back on the pill, i fell pregnant. so it is totally random, whereas some couples who seem to have it right just dont concieve for a while. again, a strange road but has to be taken!

good luck in your trying xx

 

[heggie10]

Hi Flexilexi

Thanks you for your reply. Congratulations on your 23rd week pregnant. Ya i know i have alot on my mind just worried, excited etc.
Thanks again
Heggie

 

[titch]

how can i last several weeks before and several weeks after for sex (that will drive me mad).

theres no need to give up before the birth. we were at it the night before i went into hospital. on a practical level you have to be experimental with positions cos of the bump but it just makes your lovelife more interesting.

personally we have no problems in that dept afterwards either. but i had a c section in the end so mightve been different. i think i was at it 8 days after LO was born.

 

[Tracey M]

Try not to worry so much! I was at it right till the end but had to wait the 6 weeks after cos was a bit sore due to stitches. If anything sex life is better now.... I'm going to try and do things differently next time - I put on far too much weight but my OH did everything for me so I got lazy and then after the baby was born I sat on my bum too much. If you keep your diet good and leep moving you will be fine. Body definately not the same, I'm a bit saggy now but look at the likes of Jordan and Victoria Beckham and all the other celebs who seem to get their trim bodies back (after a very gruelling diet and exercise regine I presume). As for getting pregnant, I didnt TTC I just came off pill and it happened 2 weeks later !! There is no right and wrong time to get your BFP as you can see from the forum it takes some longer than others so its just the luck of the draw rerally.... Good luck and try not to panic too much

 

[leibiloo87]

Hi,

Me and hubby have 2 children allready and just about to start trying for our 3rd and I can honestly say our relationship has never been better we love having kids to run around after and our sex life is still great. My body hasnt changed much either but im one of the lucky ones everyone is different and stretch marks ext you wont be too bothered about after you have a baby anyway its all part of been a mummy. Try not to worry yourself everything will fall into place. x

 

[heggie10]

Hi Tracey Hi Tiny
Thanks every much for your replies. God Tiny far play to you to be back up to doing the deed 8 days afterwards. Ya everyone is different i suppose. Have a wedding coming up now at the end of October so will be off the pill the middle of november. I don't want to get my period on the day of the wedding. So full steam ahead after that. Think I want to have twins get all over and done with in one go

 

[titch]

Hi Tracey Hi Tiny
Thanks every much for your replies. God Tiny far play to you to be back up to doing the deed 8 days afterwards. Ya everyone is different i suppose. Have a wedding coming up now at the end of October so will be off the pill the middle of november. I don't want to get my period on the day of the wedding. So full steam ahead after that. Think I want to have twins get all over and done with in one go

can you imagine the creativity required to do the deed while carrying twins ?! Im fairly certain there would need to be a crane involved!

 

[xshauna_bazx]

Hi, havent got any experience in giving birth but maybe you won't feel like having sex anyways straight after the birth?

Your worries are natural this is what i was like...now i just really want to get pregnant and its all i can focuse on especially

with all the people round me falling pregnant!

As for your body never being the same it could be either way...but isnt it worth the risk to hold your own little baby in

your arms?

Good luck ttc xxx

 

[heggie10]

Hi Shauna,

Thanks for your reply. Ya like you everybody around me is pregnant. I got married in 2008 & my bridesmaid is expecting a baby in november omg when she told me i was speechless couldn't get my head around it. Two of my neighbours have giving birth in the space of 2 months. No matter where i go i see prams, baby clothes, babies, pregnany women. Haven't start to try yet but not long to go now