Is there anything you can do??

[breezee1984]

Is there anythging you can do in the first trimester to try and prevent miscarriage?..i know this sounds odd but like ive said a hundred timesa lready, im just highly paranoid and want everything to go ok

 

[mellowbird]

hi breeze ..To be perfectly honest there is not much you can do to prevent a mc. Unfortunately if it is going to happen it will.I had 3 last year but i left it a few months and tried again and i am now 12 weeks, so looks as if this one is here to stay... Have my first scan tomoz and cant wait.But keeping yourself all tense and worried will not help you in any way.....Enjoy the pg and keep us informed...

 

[breezee1984]

your having baby number 9??????? holy cow....lol
anyways thanks alot...hopefully i will schedule an ultrasound really soon and then ill be better about the whole thing

 

[xJodieLoux]

There is nothing you can do. Miscarriages are usually caused by chromasome abnormalities. The miscarriage is the bodies way of getting rid of a baby that would of ended up being seriously ill/deformed etc. (although sometimes it's a case of it not implanting properly or something) Sometimes the body doesnt get rid of the baby though, like my friend who's baby died on tuesday at 17 days old due to a missing chromasome and some sort of anemia. I'm greatful I miscarried rather than go through what my friend is going through. Sorry if I've upset anybody by putting it like that.

Try to relax and not worry

 

[breezee1984]

Thanks sweetie..I am just so paranoid because my and DH worked for so long for this and I don't want anything bad to happen

 

[frangelle]

I'm paranoid about this too, I'm just so worried about everything!!! I've got my scan tomorrow too mellowbird, so let me know how yours goes
xxx

 

[enn]

yup also if its in your family then your likely to get it too, think it skips a generation but that i aint sure except my nan had one and my mum didnt. ive had one and this ones fine im carrying now

dont stress and dont lift heavy things. but things like that aint guaranteed.

 

[Charm]

Enn, do you mean you believe miscarriages are in your family???

I'm sorry but It doesn't work like that, as previously mentioned the majority of miscarriages are chromosonal defects, something going wrong when the egg and sperm meet and the embryo doesn't grow as it should.

It has nothing to do with your family history, it can happen to anyone at anytime. I have had 2 myself but here I am at 35 weeks and still going strong.

As long as you have no pain or severe bleeding (remember spotting can be normal) then please try not to worry. Just enjoy your pregnancy and look forward to the future and your little baby

Cx

 

[mdsremos]

xJodieLoux...I completely agree with you and that is exactly the mentality that helped me overcome alot of my grief when I miscarried. I thought of it as not meant to be and my bodies way of going through a trial run...I now have a beautiful and healthy little boy!!!

 

[enn]

yea i got told it werent meant to be by some people.

also ive been asked on this pregnancy if ive had miscarry before, first pregnancy i got asked if anyone in my family had a miscarriage.

 

[xJodieLoux]

xJodieLoux...I completely agree with you and that is exactly the mentality that helped me overcome alot of my grief when I miscarried. I thought of it as not meant to be and my bodies way of going through a trial run...I now have a beautiful and healthy little boy!!!

Glad thing's worked out for in the end and you have a healthy little boy.

I just keep telling myself the same thing, that it wasn't meant to be. Hopefully next time everything will be fine and I will have a healthy baby. I think it is better to miscarry than have an unhealthy baby but it is still very upsetting and hard. I'm constantly thinking about how far along I would of been, but if I was stil pregnant with that baby it would have something wrong with it and, although I would still love it and take care of it, I would rather of lost it early on and go on to have a healthy baby.

So sorry for your loss Breezee

 

[breezee1984]

thanks sweetheart

 

[laetitia85]

thanks for all your advice, i'm worried about miscarrying as well

 

[jenna]

just relax and try not to think about it, every thing will be fine

 

[fynemum]

There ARE some steps you can take to help prevent a miscarriage
Although I know from experience that sometimes it's just natures way.
But here's some advice you get once your have miscarried 3 or more times AND it has been proven to HELP.

One; Take good care of yourself and eat a healthy diet.
Two; Avoid Caffine as linked to miscarriage (only 2 small cups of tea/coffee or fizzy juice with caffine, ie coke..in a Day.
Three; Avoid drinks that say caffine free, as the miscarriage society have not done enough reasearch into the substitute they use for caffine and the effects on the feotus.
Four; Avoid all the usual stuff the government suggest....smoking, drugs, drink, pate, etc, etc,
Five; Take your folic acid from TTC until your 12 weeks as it give your baby a 75% increased protection against spinabiffida.

Simple steps but this is advice the specialist miscarriage unit has given me and other mums who have lost before......

The most important thing to remember is....MOST woman go through pregnancy with NO issues what so ever and have happy healthy babies.

So try to relax and enjoy it....... Most of what the ladies above have said is very true..... But i believe if we can give our bodies a little help by looking after ourselves, then we have done all we can.

Welcome to the world of worry.... but it's all so worth it in the end
lv Yvonne xx

 

[breezee1984]

yeah, right. i know next time i conceive im not even going to be excited. only scared knowing ill probably miscarry then too

 

[fynemum]

No Sweetheart, you won't.... you know there are many different reasons for a miscarriage and i am sorry you have had the misfortune to feel that pain and loss. I have read you story and it is a very recent, sad and emotionally scaring experience. I know it doesn't help you just now, but you will get stronger and you will see light again.

I believe you will be given another gift one day, and you know scientifically YOU'LL have less chance of miscarrying again then someone who has not had a previous MC........ odds are something like 1 in 25 chance of MC where as with normal (non previous MC) pregnancy the odds are 1 in 4 people MC.....Great odds eh?

You will get excited and happy again and you will be fine.... People like me who have had multiple loss are VERY FEW and far between thank goodness, we normally do have other issues but we don't find out until after 3 MC what the problem could be..... you know..... So people like me talk more....and thats the only reason you hear more about MC and multiple MC than you do about people who have went on to have a healthy baby first time or after one MC.....you understand what i am trying to say doll?

Please don't give up on your future motherhood dreams, they will happen and you will heal again, but you need time........ Please allow yourself to grieve for this loss, once the time is right i hope you can think back to this post and take the positives out of it..... you will be a great help to others too in the future, you'll be able to tell others here how you came through this and eventually got to hold and take home your newborn healthy baby. you will be a support to others, but for now darling you need to look after you... be kinder to yourself, you've done nothing wrong and you need to find peace with your loss...
PM me anytime you want to talk doll..... Take care, your in my thoughts and prayers, Lv Yvonne xx