Is she being mean?

[Pregnopaws]

My in-laws are over for a week and I was expecting that they might have bought something for the baby with them, but no, not a sausage!!! My own parents have bought us a pram/car seat and a few clothes so far and said they would get us whatever we needed.

However I was a bit miffed when the MIL showed no sign or interest in shopping with me or looking at anything baby-related. Eventually my DH asked her what the problem was and she said she doesn't want to buy anything until the baby was born, as anything could still go wrong. Geez how negative is that? I understand different ppl have different views on it, but I can't help but feel a bit hurt over it and now feel a bit of a grudge against her as its her first grandchild too! DH says im makin a fuss over nothing.

 

[Josephine_Beth]

She has a point, not that it would happen but if something was to go wrong, then you'd have reminders all over the place.

Our own parents are different than MIL's and such, so don't worry. Maybe when you are 8 months gone, she may take more of an interest or a better one.

Don't worry, nothing big, you just have to realise that not everyone is baby set from day one, they'd like to wait until you're out of the 'danger zone' or closer to your due date xx

 

[Okaasan]

It's a daft superstition - my in-laws are a bit older and MIL was knitting for my sister's baby but wouldn't do the last stitches until it was born as it's supposed to be unlucky.

Not any real concern that it'll go wrong, just one of those irrational customs... I just smile and inwardly roll my eyes

 

[Babylicious]

I think it's not on, but each to their own, my MIL started knitting at 6 weeks

 

[Misslarue]

I felt the same about my MIL. She didn't offer to buy anything. Once Dan was born, she couldn't spend enough, so much so that I felt guilty for thinking bad of her. People are different, dosen't mean they aren't excited, just give them time.

 

[Princess_Puddles]

My Inlwas were the same but my parents were buying stuff straight away lol. It's funny how it's normally the inlaws that won't buy stuff straight away yet out parents do

 

[MissThing]

My own mum is very supersticious (sorry, dont know how to speel). She didnt buy anything untill I was 8 months pregnant and was almoust begging me not to buy anything by myself. We got all what we needed just 3 weeks ago
So, don' t worry. Maybe its just her.

 

[NIE]

I can understand how you must be feeling. I don't think it is the buying the baby things that is the problem. It is more that you would like her to actually recognise the pregnancy and share some interest and excitement with you both. I find that part of the fun is the window shopping and planning things.

Try not to get upset about it babes. I have relatives that don't show any interest our pregnancy and I find that it does upset me at times.

 

[Pregnopaws]

Thanks guys. yeah I know everyones different and im not dwelling on it. But you'd think considering we already have quite a bit of stuff already it's pointless to carry on being so anal-retentive about it. Anyways Im not superstitous at all and neither is DH, we love getting little bits and pieces now and then, so we'll buy what we want!

 

[Pregnopaws]

I can understand how you must be feeling. I don't think it is the buying the baby things that is the problem. It is more that you would like her to actually recognise the pregnancy and share some interest and excitement with you both. I find that part of the fun is the window shopping and planning things.

Try not to get upset about it babes. I have relatives that don't show any interest our pregnancy and I find that it does upset me at times.

Yes that is it! We probably wont see them again until after the birth now, as they fly over from Ireland about twice a year. Its not about the money I can afford everything for LO. Its the lack of interest in sharing that experience. Ah well, they had the chance to be more involved and they've lost it.