I'm so scared!

[Miracle babe]

I've tried to stay so positive throughout this pregnancy about how this little one is going to make his entry into the world. After being told no more kids for me and waiting 7 years for another baby I should feel on top of the world, but the truth is I'm just sooooooo scared of how I am getting this baby out of me. I honestly dont want a C section, the thought of being cut open makes me feel physically sick but then the thought of a natural delivery frightens the hell out of me aswell after the difficulties I had last time. I have had councelling over the past few months to help me cope with the prospect of a natural birth but on wednesday last week when I was admited to hospital with suspected contractions the consultant there told me I should be having a c section. So now I have one consultant telling me to go natural and another telling me to have a c section. Both sacre me rigid and I feel backed into a corner. I dont know what or who to believe and the uncertainty is killing me. People keep telling me its my decision but I dont feel that it is and I'm soooooo scared. I cant sleep as a result of this and I feel sick when I think of it. I dont know who else to turn to as no-one seems to understand and when I try and talk to my consultant I feel like he just see's a great big walking hormone with no rational thought in her head and he doesnt take me seriously. I see the consultant tomorrow and thankfully my hubby is coming with me but to be honest I am under no illusions that I'll be any nearer having a decision made for me and the uncertainty and worry is just going to continue.
I generally maintain a very positive attitude and kind of hide behind a mask of humour but tonight it has really got to me and I dont honestly know where else to turn

 

[skatty]

Poor you, I really feel for you as I have a lot of anxiety over having a natural birth but luckily for me I would like a c section and it has been agreed. I am nervous about having this but I have read so much about it that I know exactly what's going to happen and that makes me feel more in control. i don't know if this could help you.

Have you thought of having some hypnotherapy? It can be very effective at giving you some coping techniques.

I'm sorry I can't be of more help, I really feel for you having a childbirth phobia myself. Please make sure that the consultant understands that your fears are very real tomorrow.

Try and get a good nights sleep, easier said than done I know. Good luck for tomorrow x

 

[chezzabell]

Hiya hun

I totally feel for u hun, i have to have a c section and iam so scared about it, really dont want to have to have one, but i get through it by thinking what ever is best for me baby i will do.
Do you have to have a c section?
Try and relax and make sure u tell the doctor how u are feeling maybe ur husband can speak on ur behalf abit if u feel abit uncomfatble.
Take care hun all will be ok

 

[Eveadel]

Oh girls, I so do sympathise with you. I was like a bloody nervous wreck and I was lucky enough my consultant agreed to a c section. This made me feel alot better for the last 3 weeks of my pregnancy.

You may have read my birth story which went very well. I think I had worked myself up into such a bad state that it wasnt anywhere as bad as what I thought.

If you can buy hynotherapy cds for child birth and start listening to them asap. I also had reflexology about 3 times and I believe this helped aswell.

 

[Minxy]

How do you think the reflexology helped?

Am interested cause I'v had this once and was thinking of going again.

 

[Miracle babe]

Thanks girls for the support was really feeling low last night. Feel much better today after seeing the consultant. He feels pretty confident I can do this on my own but will rescan me at 38 weeks to check for head circumference. Today he estimated baby weighed about 4lbs already Gonna be a biggy

 

[budge]

you'll be fine the midwives and doctors will make sure everything goes smoothly.

my last pregnancy was filled with fear for me coz mt second baby was 91b and i had trouble getting her out. i voiced my fears to every carer i saw LOL and im sure they thought i was potty but also they did understand and when i came to giving birth to Bethany my youngest the midwives made the experieence so lovely. I was so happy to have voiced the fears in the first place becasue if i had not then no one would have helped me. If all that makes snese.
Im sure when you've had the LO you will look back like i did and thought what the fook was all that worry for

 

[Eveadel]

Little Minx, reflexology is supposed to tone your uterus and is very good to promote relaxation which I think is very important for labour. The lady I saw was specialised in pregnancy reflexology, I paid £25.00 per session - well worth the money

 

[Eveadel]

Also, apparently reflexology apparently helps babies feel content and happy, my little Isabella is just that