I'm nervous

[mustard]

Hi girls. I don't know why but I feel really nervous writing this I think it makes something feel real. I have been lurking on this forum for a while but didn't post because I didn't really know if I was waiting to try or not.

But last weekend sat down with OH and he said he was ready and we decided with a few months to organise money and get our bodies in shape we'd be ready as we'll ever be to ttc so the plan is to start trying in May. Only trouble is I'm lurching from huge happiness and excitement at the idea to pure terror. Is that normal??

Don't want to tell friends or family that we are thinking of babies because don't want to deal with their reactions and don't want to have to explain or update them if we change our minds or things take a while. So really hoping you lot will help. You all seem like a very supportive lot.

 

[dita_parlo]

Hi mustard! I know how you feel. Me and my husband often felt terrified at the thought of TTC, and then incredible excitement as well. I think it's just because we want the best for our children and question whether we can afford a child, and what kind of life we could give that child. We also worried about our relationship; ours is perfect at the moment and we do a lot of couply things together which we wouldn't necessarily be able to do with a child. But I think this is a normal feeling hun xxx

 

[mustard]

Yeah that idea of 'spoiling' a perfect relationship definately comes into it. I'm so used to listening (slightly smugly if i'm honest) to my friends moan about their rubbish boyfriends and I'm sooo happily married it seems reckless to risk it with the stresses of a baby but I guess it could just make it even stronger.

 

[Lander]

Welcome to the 'TTC in May 2011 Club'

Lxx

 

[p1nk11]

Hi Its perfectly normal to feel like this, it's the 'not knowing' I think.

We didnt tell anyone when were trying for the same reason but I would confide in my closest friend as I knew she wouldnt tell anyone . xx

 

[mustard]

I have two wonderful girl best mates but when the 3 of us were out to dinner last night the subject of kids came up and I found myself actively denying that we were thinking about having kids soon. I feel awful cos I never ever lie to my friends. I'm sure they would be supportive and keep it to themselves but one of them would love a baby but isn't a position where it is an option (broke, living with mum etc.) and the other is single and wild and although she was great when I got married she clearly thought that I was absolutely mad to 'settle down' in anyway so I don't really think she would understand. Did anyone tell their mum about there plans? If so what was their reaction? I think mine might be a bit emotional (a baby would be first grandchild) and I still have a weird thing about my Mum realising I have sex (even though I've been married 2.5 years and lived with my partner for 5). I know she knows and she definately will if/when I get pregnant so I'm just being silly.

 

[mustard]

Thanks Lander it's funny how several of us seem to have picked May!

 

[Princess81]

I think it's normal to feel like that, its natural to be cautious of the unknown. Good luck tho and we are all here to support you x

 

[OzGirlNat]

I feel exactly the same hun. I'm excited and terrified. In fact, probably more terrified than excited at the moment.

Like you, we've not told anyone about our plans so it's great to have found this place where you can come and 'chat' to other people.

We're also planning of beginning ttc in April/May. We had decided to start now but then worked out that if we were lucky enough to get caught quickly, I'd be due December/January and I don't fancy worrying about going into labour and getting to the hospital if it snows like is has for the past few years. Thats just added worry I don't need.

 

[mustard]

Hi OzGirl. I also thought about not giving birth in winter cos of the snow but then if I think about it too much I end up talking myself out of ttc at any time. Jan-Apr not good as giving birth in winter. Oct-December not good as very hard to keep early pregnancy secret over xmas/new year (too suspect not to be drinking) etc etc. There is so much you can worry about you can drive yourself mad and i'm not even ttc yet. I think its nice to have a couple of months to hopefully get a bit healthier, save some money and just get used to the idea. I'm looking forward to chatting with you while we wait and when we start ttc.

 

[Applecider]

Hey Hun it's all part of lifes plan and the way I see it is change is good it adds spark and interest wen things stay to same for years they can be boring or stale as the child grows so will ur relationship. As long as u strong couple and u kno u love ur man for who he really is... The rest will come with time n feel better come on may I say!!!! Xxx

 

[mustard]

Hey Hun it's all part of lifes plan and the way I see it is change is good it adds spark and interest wen things stay to same for years they can be boring or stale as the child grows so will ur relationship. As long as u strong couple and u kno u love ur man for who he really is... The rest will come with time n feel better come on may I say!!!! Xxx

Well Said!

 

[Applecider]

I say that yet I'm sure when it's 6am and someone is screaming at me I may hav a slightly different view!!