I'm mad.... Aren't I?

[pinkyprincess]

It's my OHs birthday in August and he announced that he wants to go out for a meal with me, his 2 best mates and their OHs local to home.

This has literally put the fear of god in me!

I can't leave Tyler in the evening. His sleep is temperamental enough without the added stress that he won't drink milk out of anything but me! I actually want to cry thinking about it.

I'm fine leaving him and I have left him but it was daytime and I knew he was fed and I'd be back for his next feed. I left him of an evening and he woke up about half an hour after we'd gone then wouldn't sleep all night.

I hate the thought of him crying and me not being there. I don't know what to do

 

[BabyBrain]

Could you not go for sunday lunch on the closest weekend?

 

[GregorysGirl]

I thought exactly the same as BB - what about a carvery or buffet in the day ?

xx

 

[TORino]

Aw lovely. I know how that feels when Tilly went on bottle strike.

Keep trying with the cup/bottles you never know he might get it one day?

I often wondered what would happen if say I got hurt in an accident and couldn't feed the baby. What would everyone else do? I'm fairly sure the baby wouldn't be left to starve to death.

Keep trying lovely xxxx

Or failing that, is there anyone who could bring him to you so you can feed him for 10 mins then send him home?

 

[pinkyprincess]

I know why he's doing this because he knows I'm fed up of me staying in while he goes out all the time so he wants to involve me and this is a first. In 5 years of us being together I've never been invited out for his birthday with him!!

I did say to him if his mum and sister watched Tyler if his sister would drive to the restaurant pick me up bring me back to settle and feed him then drive me back but would that be too much to ask? I'd give her petrol money. I think bringing him out would disturb him too much.

 

[beckyboo1]

You've got til August hun so don't get too panicky yet over it

You've got at least 6 weeks for things to change xx

 

[littlemiss83]

Aw hun. You really should try and go on this night out & enjoy yourself.

I know exactly how you feel, its hard to leave LO's. But its essential that your able to leave LO esp if he's nearly 6 m/o (is that right?)

As Torino said, if something happened to you & you couldn't BF. LO would be ok.

I'd keep on persevering with the beaker/bottle, he will take it eventually there is no doubt about it.

I wouldn't get your sister to come & take you home then back tbh seems like alot of carry on.

xxx

 

[l_maclean]

Don't stress too much about it yet. Could you try a coulle of trial runs - go out in the evening but be on call so that if the worst happens you can get home quickly to feed/settle. this might also help get him used to this. Xxx


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[jojo_2012]

I'm not sure driving home to settle him would work that easy, and it wouldn't be much fun for you either will it?

Don't shoot me down but supposing Tyler is weaning by then it might make it a little easier to leave him in the evening (will also make it easier to take him to restaurants). Like others have said he might get the hang of it yet.

Just an idea but do any of your friends have a garden you could have a nice BBQ in then Tyler can be there without you having the stress of him getting upset in a grown up restaurant?

 

[Mrs. KM]

I was going to day the same about weaning. If he is weaned by then, he may be more likely to take a sippy cup? I would start getting your oh to try to put him down at night as well so Tyler will know he can go down for other people. I am starting to realize I haven't helped myself by being the only one to put K down for naps and at night :s. As others have said, it may be a good idea to try going out for very short amounts of time before his bday so that he gets used to babysitters and you are both more relaxed for oh's bday. Xx

 

[LaurenMM]

I think Mrs KM gave a good idea about OH settling and you going out for short amounts of time. I do think you and Tyler would benefit from it and it'll be nice for you and OH to have some decent quality time. We've been out 3 evenings since Angel has been born, the first time (at 5-6 weeks) I cried as I left the house but we were gone literally an hour and a half and it wasn't so bad in the end, the 2nd time (at 6 months old) was awful. I was starting to distrust my mum and it was when the weather was boiling and I was really paranoid about her in the heat. However, I've left her a couple of times (twice to be exact, only an hour each time) during the day with a local childminder/friend and she's absolutely brill, really put my mind at ease and the 3rd evening we went out was Tuesday and although I missed Angel like mad and still worried I really enjoyed the time with OH. We settled her to sleep before we went out so we said in a couple of months we'll let Lucy settle her and see what she's like

 

[pinkyprincess]

It's not the leaving him that worries me as I've left him before it's the nights. Last night he went down as normal woke up about 2 hours later went hysterical and wouldn't settle for 2 hours. My mum even had a go at settling and be was having none of it.

 

[Esoames]

How old will he be then? Isla was a bugger for this but by 8/9 months I could feed her before bed and know she would sleep through. Does he not sleep through yet? We had to do CIO not ideal but I was being used for comfort, ultimately I was going back to work so this had to stop and it worked for us, from 6 months Isla has slept from 7 until 7/8/9am solid unless she's teething but even then she doesn't get any milk if she wakes only a cuddle x

 

[positivity :)]

I was gonna say he might be settled for longer by then, if I were you tbh I would go out, whoever is looking after him will eventually be able to settle him and just don't make it a late one x

 

[Mrs N]

I worry about leaving the little guy too but you have to bear in mind that he will be 1-2 months older by then and hopefully shud be more settled. Maybe try letting your mum (or whoever would be looking after him) do all the caring while you are in the house so the tyler gets used to someone else looking after him while you are there to reassure him, then try being in another room so your close but he cant see you?? I have to do a few days at work in a couple of weeks so I have had to start letting my mum and dad do the feeding etc so I know that he will be fine when im gone!!
xxx

 

[pinkyprincess]

I'm going to be leaving more as I've got to start my driving lessons again!

Once he takes a beaker I might get OH to take a go at putting him down and see how he goes.

When he's on solids, if he woke up hungry and refused milk, could they give food?

 

[Mrs N]

Dont think that you cud give food really but if you gave him his tea and fed him before you went out for dinner before he went to bed then he shud be ok for atleast a few hours by then?!?! Also as you will be giving him little sips of water he shud be more used to drinking from a sippy cup and therefore shud be able to have milk from the cup too, although if its the comfort thing then there aint much you can do about that!!
xxx

 

[littlemiss83]

Its not really the best idea to give food, but I cant see the harm if it was a one off & LO could sit for around 30mins to help it digest. If it meant it stopped him being really upset. Could you try juice by then, duno what they advise juice wise, is it just normal fruit juice? He might like that better than water & be enough 2 settle?

xxx