I'm in 2 minds lately.

[MrsDraven]

I've just finished first AF after miscarrying and I'm suddenly finding myself really wanting to try have another baby. But at the same time I really don't want to. It's really confusing/frustrating. I'm guessing it's cause I'm scared in a way of having another MC but it's so irritating!
I don't do mixed emotions, they get on my nerves! Grr! *and breathe....*

 

[charlie26]

Aww hun, hope your ok. I had a mc in may now im 6 weeks preg. im so scared, iv got a scan tomorrow, i could be sick at the thought of it! You will decide whats best for you, getting pregnant has helped me to deal with my mc, but in no way forget about it, thats something that will stay with me forever xx

 

[MrsDraven]

Hope everything goes well hon xx I suppose it is gonna be a mixed emotions deal when you've had a miscarriage cause there's always that fear of it happening again. I was never fussed about having a baby too soon until I actually got pregnant, now I'm broody as hell lol. Just frustrating more than anything I like it when things go smooth and make sense, I annoy myself when I change my mind a lot lol xx

 

[charlie26]

thanks hun, Iv got a child who is 5, that went smootly so i sopose i went into this with my eyes closed, thinking nothing would happen to me. Its spoilt my future pregnancys i am just going to worry all the way through. Although if all goes well tomorrow i will start to relax a bit, esspecially of i see a heartbeat. Are you trying now? When was your mc? xx

 

[dyscochick]

MrsD i'm sooo much more broody since the mc. In part I think it made me put aside the doubts I had before, but its weird bag of feelings. Scared and reticent are definitely there too. Maybe you need more time before making any decisions about TTC xxx

 

[MrsDraven]

Charlie; I MC'd in July. In a sense I suppose we are trying cause we're not really protecting ourselves and in all honesty I would like to. But it is really nervewracking.
Dyscochick; yeah it really does mix your feelings up. Thing is with the first pregnancy, it was harder to deal with because we weren't expecting it. We just went from shock to shock in a matter of weeks and it was pretty hard to cope with. But now we've done it once, we're far better prepared than we were the first time and because of the MC, we know we can cope if it happens again. I'll definately give us both that, as hard as it was we've coped amazingly well. It's still sad for the both of us but we're moving up and onwards. Made us stronger if anything. If we do have another baby, we know more now and we're more mentally prepared than we were first time round.

 

[dyscochick]

I'm with you all the way mrsD, we did the shock to shock as well. xx

 

[MrsDraven]

*hugs for you* I think that's what made it so hard. If we'd known that I was pregnant well before and had time to adjust, it may have been a little easier but it was just one thing after another in a matter of weeks it was a little too much to handle. We're doing okay though, I'm just nervous about mc being a reoccuring thing given my past medical history. We have discussed adoption if that's the case though.