I'm going to scream

[amilea09]

I cannot believe my oh at this moment in time I'm sat in the walk in centre waiting to see a dr because he's had a change of heart ihave to take the morning after pill I cant understand it

 

[shaunie_louise]

Im sorry to hear that

Why has he had a change of heart?

x

 

[MrsU]

Lots of for you

Flaming men, you know where we are if you need to chat xx

 

[sam27]

OMG! i am so sorry to hear that. sounds like you need to have a good chat to him as to why

 

[amilea09]

he said he would rather us be married 1st it's not that I'm bothered about I'm worried because of his age his "swimmers" might work in a year or too I've expressed my concerns and he still wants to wait I'm so angry at him





m/c 7wks 5days 02/08/08

 

[sam27]

how old is he?? dont forget age doesnt have as much effect on men as it does us, i am 27 and hubby is 41 next month.

i understand where he is coming from but its a shame he has got your hopes up

 

[Jaded Diamond]

Its your body hun, if you don't want to take it then don't do it just cos he says so.
If you do get pregnant you've got 8 months to get married in!
xx

 

[mary70]

i have to agree hun if your not happy to take it dont be pushed into it, it is not 100% so what happens if it doesnt work anyway, dont rush into anything hun

 

[amilea09]

he's 36 and I'm 20 I already have a 4 yr old son and he has a 16 yr old and a 8 yr old

 

[sam27]

i have to agree hun if your not happy to take it dont be pushed into it, it is not 100% so what happens if it doesnt work anyway, dont rush into anything hun

i completly agree with that...BUT....think about how you handle it....for example..would it invlove a lie??

anyway when did you bd???? you have 72hrs (i think) it gets less effective with time AND it could buy you talking time

only you know what to do hun

 

[sam27]

he's 36 and I'm 20 I already have a 4 yr old son and he has a 16 yr old and a 8 yr old

i dont think you need worry about his age just yet

 

[MrsU]

I'd be really angry too. You must have both made the decision to TCC when you had the implant out, & with him changing his mind it's like an emotional roller coaster for you!

My hubby is 10years older than me, he's 38 but its not so much of an issue for blokes, but I can understand where you are coming from.

IF you both feel ready, does it matter if you’re married or not (you could still get married?)?? I think you both need to have a proper chat. Hubby had said to me, if we keep trying to get everything perfect for before we have kids, we'll never have them (there is always something)! Un he’s right, so now we're TCC & building an extension, & knocking half the rear of the house down with it! He says when I get a BFP it will just focus the mind, & we'll get it done & I know he's right.

You really need to talk to each other to find out what’s right for you, could there be anything else worrying him like money with the credit crunch & all these redundancies being threatened?? Just a thought..

Hope your ok, please let me know if you want to chat xx

 

[amilea09]

I'm just so upset with him why did he have to suddenly change his mind! we've bd every nyt nearly for the past 7days so why now.







m/c 02/08/08

 

[Sahara]

Aww I am sorry hun, but don't let him force you into taking it. Its your body, can you talk to him about it again?

Also don't worry about his age. I conceived my daughter when I was 27 and m OH 42 - hehe old git. I love the older man.

I am now 30 and he is 45 and we are ttc#2. Men don't have age against them like us women.

 

[sam27]

I'm just so upset with him why did he have to suddenly change his mind! we've bd every nyt nearly for the past 7days so why now.
m/c 02/08/08

then just say you are past the 72hrs

 

[amilea09]

I didn't take it I've told him he can't keep giving me mixed signals and he appologised so I feel a little bit better now he's listened to me

 

[MrsU]

Yeah No point in doing something you obviously didn't want to do!

 

[MrsLloyd2B]

Awww, hun i'm glad you feel better now.

you both need a hug and long chat about what you want to do next

 

[amilea09]

we had a long chat and he admitted what was really bothering him and we talked about it and thanks for the cuddling advise I feel so much better me and my oh are going to carry on as normal and when we get a bfp we will concentrate on that. I hope it happens soon

 

[samharris]

Good for you hope it all works out for you both