I think my husband has gone off me

[winnie89]

Ever since I had harry he just doesn't want to be with me he doesn't want sex and he barely shows me affection before he used to kiss me all the time and we'd snuggle on the sofa or being rampant teenagers have tons of sex and now he's just not interested, I know my bodys had to change and it's not the most attractive (had c-section but on sw so slowly loosing tum but still have a slight overhang) even if we do have sex the light must be off and he doesn't touch me or kiss me, every time he pushes me away it chips my confidence and I just don't know what to do anymore it's really getting me down and I'm afraid I'll be back on anti depressants soon and that he's gonna leave me for someone else who is younger prettier and with a better body :'(

 

[Belle23]

Have u asked him why??? Seems a bit harsh when u Just had a baby. Xxx

 

[daniph1]

This is a horrible position to be in babe - it was the otherway when I had my LO - I lost my libido - and he had his. Each time I rejected him - he felt more and more terrible. I think that babies affect people in different ways - perhaps he has simply lost his libido - it may be completely unrelated to how you view yourself. In fact I suspect its not you at all. I think you do need to speak to him about it - and if he insists (like I suspect is the case) ask him if he wants you to go to the doctor with you. My libido has gone again completely now Im expecting this one - I have already asked my DH to come to the doctors with me after I have had her xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[Sue Clare]

You need to have a heart to heart with him, lots of men do go a bit weird once their partner has had a baby, so I'm sure it's nothing personal, but you need to get to the bottom of it xx

 

[keri87]

my husband was a bit like this this after we had our first, we're only just getting a bit of normality back 17 months down the line and now were trying for #2 xx

 

[galupy]

Only way you're gonna know what's going on is to talk to him

 

[winnie89]

i've wrote everything down in a letter for him, he came and gave me a cuddle in bed after he read it and we talked and he's definatley better, he's been nicer to me and we've been holding hands more and cuddling in bed, no sex as of yet but i dont want to rush him!