i dont want to leave summer...

[BeckyJ]

is anyone else feeling this way?

i dont want to leave summer at all, both of our parents have offered to babysit if we wanted to go out even if it was just for a drink or a meal but i just cant stand the thought of leaving her

we have a wedding to go to soon and im dreading leaving her even for that

its not that i dont trust our parents or friends i just cant bear the thought of being without her

im already worried about going bk to work nxt feb, its only 3days a wk but i just dont think i could do it

sounds mad doesnt it, anyone else feel this way?

 

[DebbieM]

Yeah I do. And I think it is entirely normal. Since Luke was born I have had no time away from him at all other than for baths etc, however, that is all down to me. I opt NOT to be away from him, not lack of Matt not wanting to help.

I don't know what it is. I just can't bear to be apart from him. I wonder if it is to do with them being inside for 9 months and waiting so long to meet them then you just don't want to be apart from them? LOL

I'm sure eventually we will welcome a break

 

[Becky]

How you're feeling is totally normal! I was a very possessive mummy when Lucy was born and in some ways I still am. Lucy has only ever been looked after by mum, my sister and OH's mum. And still not as often as they'd all like and it certainly wasn't until she was more like 6 months old and the most I could manage was a couple of hours!

Don't worry about going back to work, its a long way off yet and by then you'll have had time to settle down and wait and see how you feel then, it does get easier the older they get.

As for people offering to babysit, well that's nice but lets face it, you didn't have your baby so someone else could look after them! I got sick of hearing "anytime you want me to have the baby..." but after a while when I didn't take anyone up on the offer they stopped suggesting it..


Don't worry about it, enjoy your baby and don't feel bad about not wanting to share!

 

[Tiggy26]

I know how your feeling and its very normal. My parents are constantly dropping hits wanting to babysit but I jut cant do it. My mum was dropping hits so much last week that I actually snapped at her and asked her to stop pressuring me! I feel awful for saying it but it was just doing my head in and although I do trust my parents I feel that neither my son, OH or I are ready for that yet. The most ive ever been away from my LO is about 3 hrs in total (not in one go but in 30 mins here and there) either for a bath or to pop to tesco at a stupid hour of 11pm to get some bits in.

T xx

 

[laracomps]

Me, totally

I have no idea how I'm gonna go back to work I love her so much, I don't want to miss a thing.

Soz this is short - typing one handed again!

 

[CoreysMummy]

.. Me too... even though he crys alot, I still dont want to be away from him. I think because he does have some very bad days, I am able to leave him (ONLY ever with my mum, OH, or OH parents) to go out for a few hours, or id go mad. If he was a happy contented baby, then I dont think id be able to leave him at all ever.

I am dreading going back to work next year... how awful is that going to be

 

[1sttimemum]

I must be the only weird one then that isnt normal

Id quite happily send her to my mums but my OH wont let her stay out overnight.

My mum had her for 3 hours while we went for a curry and then my sis had her for about 3 hours while my OH tried to do his promotion papers

 

[LisaJ1986]

I'm the same. I hate nipping to the shop without her. Coz i know as soon as she realises i'm not there she screams. No one can calm her down. My OH's sister came round the other day. She had her sat on her knee, but because she couldn't see me she screamed, til his sister turned her to face me, and she was fine.
My Auntie text me the other day saying she wants to babysit, but besides needing my boobs, i don't want her to. (I was never good enough to talk to before i got pregnant so why would i bother with her now???) My mum or dad a few weeks/months down the line maybe.
I'm happy being at home with her. I love every minute of it.

 

[keli]

Yep i'm the same.. my sister keeps saying she'll take him for an hr or so or even longer if i express i said a polite no thanks, she's now worried it's something to do with her! Just wouldn't feel right without him. There's nothing i'd rather be doing than looking after my little boy xx

 

[Suzie and Faith]

I know exactly how you feel. I was brave and let my in-laws have Fi for a couple of hours this morning while Matt was at work. I've been feeling rather rough so needed some time. I hated letting her go though. I sobbed!

I then had a long bubble bath which was nice!

It was strange without her, I kept thinking I heard her crying!

 

[LisaJ1986]

With Angel, even if i wanted to, and wasn't BF, she won't even sit on someone elses knee unless she can see me! OH's sister came round the other day, took her off me for a cuddle, yet she wasn't facing me so cried. Turned her round she was ok, not happy, but ok. Would break my heart if i left her as i know she'd be looking for me.

 

[Squiglet]

i feel the same... going to work is so hard, but I love her even more when I get back... even if shes fussy and crying... but other than work, I've never had time away from lil miss... but by choice My mums offered to babysit loads of time... shes right in saying its important for me and dh to have couple time but I love my lil shadow...