I am so grrrrrrrrrrrrr

[Lovisa]

I'm not sure if any of you have been in the same situation as what I am at the moment if not I'm sorry I just need to have a rant............

My boyfriend doesn't seem to want anyone knowing that we are having a baby.....
At first this was fair enough as I felt the same (1) because I didnt want it to be like my last pregancy and it end with a mc and (2) I only wanted my close friends/family to know.

But now I'm at the point where I am gradually showing and people, especially on facebook are making comments or have been nosey and read stuff on other peoples.

I texted my OH to say looks like people are starting to find out and hope he doesnt mind.
He replied saying who knows? Not alot I can do about it really but didnt want everyone knowing.

Fair enough I probably am over exagherating but surely this is a time when we enjoy the pregnancy and the best wishes from people we love and care about.

I don't know why but I feel he doesn't really love me and he is ashamed that he is having a baby with me or oh I don't know this is probably my hormones running overtime now but all I can say is I'm upset.

Why is ok for him to tell who he wants and only selected people for me grrrrrrrrrrrrr

 

[Rosie's Mummy]

I think you should sit him down - this is the time that you want to tell everyone and to share your pregnancy, hell I want to lift up my shirt and show everyone my protruding tummy Im that excited. I would sit him down or write him a letter if you prefer - either way you need to know whats holding him back. Hope you get a resolution xx

 

[Lovisa]

Thank you hun, I definately think its my hormones cause all I want to do is cry.
Is that unusual, that I'm feeling emotional about this?

I told him I deleted the comments. This was probably irrational but I was doing it just in case I'm not seeing his point and if it really does upset him, plus there are probably a few people who I don't want knowing quite yet. well I don't care who knows as its our baby not theirs and I'm over the moon about it. My goodness I've waited 9 years for it to happen.
But you know the people who you wouldn't go out of your way to tell them lol

Anyway I told him I deleted the comments ect and he asked why i deleted them and who was commenting.
He then said you could've left them on, its people i dont like that I don't want commenting or knowing. But if you want them toits up to you.
I just replied like who? But at the end of the day this is my baby tooI'll tell who I like.
I'm probably being immature but I'm upset. There has been things I don't like him doing but I dont try and rule him or tell him not to do or say something.

How are you this evening? I promise my rant is over hun

 

[inky]

I think Rosies Mummy is right, you should tell him how excited you are and how much it means to you that you can now tell the world! You're going to be very obviously pregnant soon anyway, my bump is getting bigger by the day and as soon as I take my coat off, there it is, right there for everyone to see! Hopefully he will open up about why he doesn't want people to know and work it out together.

I personally am not one to shout it from the rooftops, I don't like the attention it gets me, but it doesn't mean that I'm not really, really excited, or loving my baby already, I've just never been one to enjoy attention if you know what I mean?

Hope it goes OK

 

[titch]

ahh hun do you think that its all sorted out then? You should be able to tell who you like, you wont be able to hide it when you're pushing the pram around anyway!

 

[scaredmum2be]

Aww hun ive only just seen this comment sorry.
I take it he hasnt understood your side yet due to feedback and what not on your facebook profile.
You can tell whoever you like that your pregnant even shout it to the world.

I understand you lost a baby but this iss the time you should be celebrating you know everything is going great by the scan say that to your partner say everything is fine with the scan so you both shud be enjoying this pregnancy! if he says he cant then maybe its because hes scared to want to love this baby because of your miscarriage which is normal. my hubby didnt me to tell anyone until i was over 12 weeks because we had lost our baby which is understandable but now that fear is over that stage we can relax and try an get on with this pregnancy.

if he shows no interests with you on the next scan an if he still says it put your foot down because hes obviously not saying anything to hurt your feelings an i bet your going crazy thinking if he wants you, its not just your hormoanes its the man that makes you hormoanal!! let me know how you get on sorry that i put something on your facebook thought yu had done it yourself considering but also there is no pic of ur scan on there so there is no evidance as yet.

Tell him you want him to be just as excited as you are. sorry if i dont make much sense hun lol gud luck x

 

[Wobbles]

No way Im sure your bursting! Its a time to enjoy and look forward to allowing others close to you both to get excited to. A new bundle

Id not sit him down Id put him down and tell him its time to tell people shout it from the roof its a special moment telling people

 

[Princess81]

Maybe he's just not keen on the actual people that were commenting on facebook?? Maybe he's not worried generally about tellling people, just not people that he doesn't like?
I'd be a bit like that, there are people that fell out with me at home and to be honest when the time comes that I'm preg I don't want them knowing about it, although they will know due to facebook etc. There are some people who you just don't want knowing your business, no matter how exciting the business might be.