Husband doesn't want sex with me

[Ljd401]

So I asked him tonight if we could have an early night (if you know what I mean) and he said we shouldn't because we might dislodge the "poppy seed". This is my second pregnancy and he never came out with this during the first. Makes me feel like rubbish It's just caused an argument too because I said it upset me him turning me down.

 

[Wednesday]

Can you do other things...?

 

[ts2573]

Maybe he's just uncomfortable with penetration. Talk to him and find a compromise.

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[_GG_]

Oh bless you. Being turned down cant be nice at all.

A very good friend of mine has to go without for months and months. Her husband won't have sex while she is pregnant, end of. He just won't do it. He doesn't feel it's safe no matter the advice he gets and he just doesn't feel comfortable with it.

Maybe your hubby is just dealing with a few feelings and trying to sort it in his own time. My other half is a huge worrier and always wants to keep it from me so it doesn't affect me but after all the years, he is learning to just be open when he's not feeling great. Maybe your husband just really wasn't in the mood? We don't like them complaining when we're not up for it, so although rejection is hard, we should allow them to say no, just as we expect, rightly, to be able to.

xx

 

[Olivia118]

My OH hasn't come near me in months....but to be honest I don't have the energy. I also think it freaks him out a bit. He hasn't tried anything in months....which is fine and I accept it if he's not comfortable with it. He still gets surprises from me, just no penetration. Once baby is here...then I expect things to change!

 

[Carly89]

We have had a rather dry spell too.. Mainly because I feel uncomfortable with deep penetration and let's be honest, not feeling the sexiest. We did have a go over the weekend, and while it was OK, I found it very hard to relax and was very conscious of any weight on my tummy or boobs. Think it's just going to take some getting used to. I'd been missing the intimacy, so was nice to reconnect. I reckon I'll be looking into pregnancy friendly positions and hopefully get my mojo back. I always find sexual rejection a bit difficult, but probably especially more so being a bit more emotionally sensitive during pregnancy. Don't let it get you down too much, it's probably just a phase. We've been trying to have more body contact and snuggles instead to keep ourselves connected x

 

[Lydiasquid]

Don't worry u are not alone. I'm 10 weeks and ever since I told him I was preg things have gone very quiet in that dept. In fact even a snog is hard to get atm. Not easy when u are hormonal and adjusting and just in need of lots of cuddles. So fed up about it. We have gone from 2-5 times a week to 1 if that. I agree deep positions are painful so maybe he is scared from when we first found out deep was painful. Made him jump haha.

 

[JustTrying]

I find sex so painful during pregnancy but he wants it twice a day , everyday !
Don't you ladies find it painful?

 

[Haylian]

I didn't find it painful in tri 1 and 2 last time but didn't really do it at all in tri 3.
This time round we've not done it cause my boobs are too sore! I can't stand them being touched . Hopefully it'll pass after tri 1 and we can get back in the game so to speak

 

[Loula]

I really want it but am a little nervous x

 

[Melly41]

I didnt find it painful. I was a little anxious but enjoyed it. Remember final month in previous pregnancies not being able to due to it being so bloomin awkward! Also got back in the saddle quicker after 2nd baby!

 

[xSebbiesMumx]

My OH hasn't come near me since I conceived which is since May time! The no sex is driving me insane I won't lie ..now my hormones are settling down I find my sex drive coming back with vengeance :/..with my first we were constantly at it, But this time..nothing!

 

[Loula]

So we did it at the weekend but I can't say I enjoyed it like I normally would. Felt a bit weird x

 

[L1991]

My partner and I have a lot of sex. He still wants it all the time and I'm only 6 weeks! I feel a bit uncomfortable and worried if I should or not? Any advice?