missyeovil
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Long story short...
My OH has a daughter from a previous relationship who lives with us full time. OH has gone back to work full time as of this weekend, and as I am unemployed, I will be looking after LO while he is at work. She still sees her mum on weekends though.
Since this arrangement has been implemented, suddenly her mother has made noises about having her back full time, which I think have been forced upon her by her mum...
OH said no. There's a lot of history which would take far too long but it includes LO's mum having left her home alone aged 5. I get on really well with his daughter, and she sees me as her friend but also realises she needs to listen to what I say. But now, I feel like I am being judged especially by LO's grandmother. She hasn't said anything in particular but OH, my dad and I have all got a vibe that she's very unhappy about me looking after her granddaughter. I understand, but even she has admitted that her daughter hasn't done enough. There is no reason for OH to trust her to look after her properly.
Just to make things worse...grandmother who thinks she knows what's best bought LO a TOTPs magazine this weekend...she's 7!
The whole situation is stressing me out as every time I have to tell LO off for something, I feel she's going to tell her granny and I'll be judged as being unreasonable. OH has tried to reassure me but this is such a horrible situation! I feel like I'm being portrayed as an evil stepmother by LO's grandmother even though LO loves me!
My OH has a daughter from a previous relationship who lives with us full time. OH has gone back to work full time as of this weekend, and as I am unemployed, I will be looking after LO while he is at work. She still sees her mum on weekends though.
Since this arrangement has been implemented, suddenly her mother has made noises about having her back full time, which I think have been forced upon her by her mum...
OH said no. There's a lot of history which would take far too long but it includes LO's mum having left her home alone aged 5. I get on really well with his daughter, and she sees me as her friend but also realises she needs to listen to what I say. But now, I feel like I am being judged especially by LO's grandmother. She hasn't said anything in particular but OH, my dad and I have all got a vibe that she's very unhappy about me looking after her granddaughter. I understand, but even she has admitted that her daughter hasn't done enough. There is no reason for OH to trust her to look after her properly.
Just to make things worse...grandmother who thinks she knows what's best bought LO a TOTPs magazine this weekend...she's 7!
The whole situation is stressing me out as every time I have to tell LO off for something, I feel she's going to tell her granny and I'll be judged as being unreasonable. OH has tried to reassure me but this is such a horrible situation! I feel like I'm being portrayed as an evil stepmother by LO's grandmother even though LO loves me!
