How many of your babes were planned?

[Minxy]

Ours was kind of planned. We'd just started talking about it and then caught very quickly the first month.

 

[mrs_tommo22]

My first wasnt planned though we talked about children, i got preg by accident on the pill, we had only been together a short while. Imogen was planned and im trying now for another planned baby.

 

[kathmac]

It seems that more were unplanned events than planned at the moment, from my friends at home only a few of theirs were planned to, most just happened.

Yeah hubby thinks he has super sperm too (must be a macho thing) - just has to walk past me and Im tubbed!!!

I guess we are lucky in the sense of, we do not know what it feels like to try and try and have months of disappointment when it does not happen.

But saying that he is coming nowhere near me after this one "pops" out until he is "done" and got the all clear, I just dont trust contraception any more - althought had no accidents with the merina coil.

 

[Becc]

But saying that he is coming nowhere near me after this one "pops" out until he is "done" and got the all clear, I just dont trust contraception any more - althought had no accidents with the merina coil.

I know how you feel... as I'll be breastfeeding I just know the midwife will suggest progesterone only pill... er... don't go there! That's what I was taking when I got pregnant

Having said that I will have to sort something out because what's life without a good old fumble every now and again? Does anyone know whether the contraceptive implant is ok to have when breastfeeding?

 

[maybebaby]

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[ladyminklett]

If I'm honest I was never really the maternal type until I reached my middle thirties. My husband and i had been married by then for about 8 years and never used any protection but nothing happened. When i reached 38 we went to visit the Dr and found out that my husband had a very very low sperm count so we had a less than 2% chance of conceiving.
We went to visit the IVF clinic when I was 40 but I have to say my heart wasn't in it. I knew that should we manage to get a free try I would be gutted and mentally battered if it failed knowing that we wouldn't be able to afford to try again so I opted out of the possible mental torture. ( I was actually told when I got there that I was too old to qualify for the free try, it was the only time in my life that I felt my age).
January 2008 we decided to look into adoption, filled out the paper work and waited 6 months for our appointment to come up. In this time My Husband lost his job so things were tough, i was trying to make money through Car Boots and Ebay and he tried to find other work. He doesn't drink but was indulging most evenings with a Magners cider with our neighbours (Just the one bottle). We went to the Adoption meeting and i felt very remote from the whole meeting..can't explain more than that really, we decided not to make any decisions on that evening. I was going for my annual long weekend to Blackpool with my Mom in late August to coincide with my 43rd Birthday on the 1st September the week before my period hadn't started...i did some cheap tests all negative...I visited the Chemist on the Thursday she said try a better test and make sure you catch the first urine in the morning and don't drink too much fluid the night before. I got up at 6am I couldn't wait any longer..I said out loud 'Please God let this be positive' I've never been so ready for a child, I felt it in my heart and with the whole of my body. I waited only a short time for one line then slowly came the second, faint at first but it developed before my eyes I was hot and excited, scared and nervous but most of all overjoyed! My Husband wasn't quite so enthusiastic, mainly due to the shock. I decided to tell every one after only 6 weeks except my Mum & Dad who knew that morning as that was the day we were going away.
I knew in my heart i was safe to tell i have a very good gut instinct. Now I am 30 weeks pregnant on Saturday and i feel fantastic! I know now that I wouldn't have been ready at any other time in my life for my little 'Thing'.

 

[splashmonkey]

Loving all the super-manly sperm stories, what are men like! Although I confess I reckon my OH thinks the same, especially when I pointed out that we only had sex once the month we conceived, plus he's operating on half measures iykwim

 

[Becc]

If I'm honest I was never really the maternal type until I reached my middle thirties. My husband and i had been married by then for about 8 years and never used any protection but nothing happened. When i reached 38 we went to visit the Dr and found out that my husband had a very very low sperm count so we had a less than 2% chance of conceiving.
We went to visit the IVF clinic when I was 40 but I have to say my heart wasn't in it. I knew that should we manage to get a free try I would be gutted and mentally battered if it failed knowing that we wouldn't be able to afford to try again so I opted out of the possible mental torture. ( I was actually told when I got there that I was too old to qualify for the free try, it was the only time in my life that I felt my age).
January 2008 we decided to look into adoption, filled out the paper work and waited 6 months for our appointment to come up. In this time My Husband lost his job so things were tough, i was trying to make money through Car Boots and Ebay and he tried to find other work. He doesn't drink but was indulging most evenings with a Magners cider with our neighbours (Just the one bottle). We went to the Adoption meeting and i felt very remote from the whole meeting..can't explain more than that really, we decided not to make any decisions on that evening. I was going for my annual long weekend to Blackpool with my Mom in late August to coincide with my 43rd Birthday on the 1st September the week before my period hadn't started...i did some cheap tests all negative...I visited the Chemist on the Thursday she said try a better test and make sure you catch the first urine in the morning and don't drink too much fluid the night before. I got up at 6am I couldn't wait any longer..I said out loud 'Please God let this be positive' I've never been so ready for a child, I felt it in my heart and with the whole of my body. I waited only a short time for one line then slowly came the second, faint at first but it developed before my eyes I was hot and excited, scared and nervous but most of all overjoyed! My Husband wasn't quite so enthusiastic, mainly due to the shock. I decided to tell every one after only 6 weeks except my Mum & Dad who knew that morning as that was the day we were going away.
I knew in my heart i was safe to tell i have a very good gut instinct. Now I am 30 weeks pregnant on Saturday and i feel fantastic! I know now that I wouldn't have been ready at any other time in my life for my little 'Thing'.

What a lovely story

 

[kathmac]

maybe I will try the mini pill and use a rain coat together to get a double protection until he gets the all clear - like you say what is life with out a wee bit once in a while!! LOL to keep the super manly sperm away in the future!!!

 

[splashmonkey]

Aw ladyminklett that's such a fantastic story! Gives hope to everyone still TTC I'm sure.

 

[Snuggle]

Both of mine were planned

 

[Loulabele]

This is my first and totally unplanned and unexpected as i was told i couldn't have kids almost ten years ago

Wao Louears, thats amazing, just shows u - they aren't always rite!

Well mine was totally 100% planned, worked 1st time round too, i had the coil removed and 1st period after that - wambam - got my +ve.

Still was a big shock at the time even though it was planned, scared the hell out of me, couldn't speak for half an hour - am well settled to the idea now

 

[jennywigan]

mine wasnt planned as im only 19, (20 when babys born) i was on the pill aswell took it everyday at the same time wasnt sicke, when i took the test it came back negative at first then about 15-20 mins later it was positive. looking at it now we dont no why we was so shocked and upset because its the best thing thats ever happend to us both and we wudnt change it. looking at some of these storey's it must be a brilliant feeling to plan your pregnancy and look at the test and it be posotive. cant wait for that day if we do plan to have another to have that lovely feeling of it streight away xx

 

[JayK2387]

Totally unplanned...

Only been with oh 3 months when we got BFP. I hadnt had a period since about march 08 and was being refered to specialist as GP thought i had polycystic overies.

Me and OH used condoms and worked out that we had 3 "accidents". Never done anything about it because we thought my body was broken. I even broke down to him one night saying id understand if he wanted to end it as id never be able to have children with him (little bit niaeve lol).

Then in July before my appointment i done a test so I could tell the specialist straight that there was no way i was pregnant... walking bk to the bedroom i looked at the test and there in all its glory "PREGNANT".

I fell on the best shaking - crying - panicing - called oh who went silent then burst into laughs and said "THATS BRILLIANT"

And I can honestly say its the most amazin thing that could have ever happen xxx

 

[kim83]

It surprises me how many are unplanned on here

But mine was too! I was on the same pill for 10 years... Was always stupid throughout my teens forgetting to take them and panicking for weeks after until AF came to town, and when I do mature and grow up and take it properly it doesn't work!

We got engaged in November and it was around that week that we conceived so I blame the champagne making my egg and his sperm drunk and they accidently collided into each other!! What a wonderful story to tell the grandkids eh?

Although a shock at first I wouldn't change it for the world now!

 

[KittiKim]

Mines yes and no, We tried for 6 months and nothing, then I got really poorly with my leg and couldn't walk, so it was the last thing on our mind, I even thought my missed period was due to stress from my leg and everything so was very shocked when it was a positive!

 

[Jaidy]

Both of mine were planned, although with the first we made the decision to stop preventing without actively trying and conceived first month which was a huge shock!

People always assume because of my age (I'm 24 now) that my babies were unplanned which annoys me

I totally agree hun, both my babies were 100% planned but because im only 23 people assume they were accidents (even though my second was conceived after I got married!!)

 

[MammyHip]

My son was unplanned. I was on the pill and missed a couple, but think it had more to do with the fact we have just bought our first house together 6 weeks earlier so i guess we were making the most of our "freedom"

Then February last year we were ready to try for another baby, by April i was pregnant but sadly miscarried and then again pregnant by July but miscarried again. Then got my BFP with this little bubba in september. So me and hubby agree we both have "SUPER" baby making ingredients

 

[rusks]

planed both.

 

[sarah113]

1st was unplanned, was young and was going out clubbing too much
2nd was unplanned could'nt decide what contraception to go on
3rd and 4th were unplanned as i was on the pill both times and never missed any
5th was planned (after the m/c)