How do I keep positive

[Maximus17]

Hiya I think I am feeling the lowest I felt in ages. So one year TTC than miscarried than found out my best friend is 10 weeks pregnant on top of that I am due on my period and feeling sooo soooo hormonal. I think I am having anxiety attacks as I couldn’t breathe last night. I just want my period to start so we can try again and I am soooo stressed which won’t help with TTC I am just so fed up at the moment sorry to just post it like this but not sure what to do. I am causing a lot of arguments at home and getting irritated with people. All I want is to hide from everyone and all of the daily things I have to do I am worried I am getting depressed but hopefully once my period starts I will feel better again

 

[LittleWolf]

Have you tried mindful meditation? I have severe anxiety and it helps me. There's one called detachment from over-thinking by Michael Sealy that i listen to in bed with headphones.

Exercise can help get rid of anger, especially weight training or going for a long walk. I hope you feel better soon. xx

 

[Sunflower1]

It's probably hormones. Yoga is great for emotional support (and fertility). Also meditation could help. You just need to get back into the rhythm of TTC without too much expectation. I know it's hard. I have newly pregnant friends too. Don't get anxious about the anxiety - find things to support yourself physically and emotionally. Big hug...right there with you with most of this. xx

 

[Nikkibiscuit]

My best advice would be to keep living. Find the things that make you happy and do them....plan them....keep thinking forward. I let TTC consume me for a short time and those were the hardest months. When I got back to living my life as it is and appreciating what I have i found the whole thing much more manageable x

 

[Maximus17]

Thank you girls. I had a good cry tonight and feel much better. I also put on weight recently from stress. So like you all said I need to feel like myself again. I love exercise and I am going to get back into it. I am going to start doing some exercises at home and stop thinking about TTC as much. Easily said than done but I have to as otherwise I am only damaging myself. I hate the way I look , my weight is getting me down too so from now on healthier eating and more exercise.

 

[Sunflower1]

It's not just stress - it's hormones. It's totally normal to put weight on after a miscarriage. I have some to lose too. Healthy eating and exercise will boost your fertility anyway and it's good to have something to focus on.

 

[Crumble]

I don't have much to say that isn't been already told, just a big

 

[Maximus17]

hiya yes definitely the hormones, since the miscarriage my hormones are all over the place, bloated than not bloated, than af cramps for the last week but no af yet. This cycle doesn't feel normal at all, not my usual post ovulation symptoms, some are for sure but than I am cramping more also the cravings for sweets and the appetite just over the top. I am trying to control it as much as I can but I put on about 2kg, on top of what I have to lose already I also have insomnia , just lots of other things, I think af will be here today or tomorrow though...

 

[Sunflower1]

hiya yes definitely the hormones, since the miscarriage my hormones are all over the place, bloated than not bloated, than af cramps for the last week but no af yet. This cycle doesn't feel normal at all, not my usual post ovulation symptoms, some are for sure but than I am cramping more also the cravings for sweets and the appetite just over the top. I am trying to control it as much as I can but I put on about 2kg, on top of what I have to lose already I also have insomnia , just lots of other things, I think af will be here today or tomorrow though...

I've put on about the same, plus what I put on in the short time I was pregnant. I've been having nightmares since. With the appetite, see if you can have nutrient rich food. It may be that our bodies are exhausted and looking for help in the wrong places.


We started having smoothies with hemp powder - also berries, bee pollen, nut milk, sometimes raw cacao. Hemp powder is full of magnesium, helps sleep, helps weightloss and controls sugar cravings. I'm sleeping much better since.

 

[Maximus17]

thanks sunflower, I will look in H&B today for hemp powder, I have also started drinking red raspberry leaf tea. Hopefully we both lose a bit of weight and feel better about ourselves. I am determined to get my BFP soon, so I will do whatever it takes, exercise, lose weight, etc... Saying that I am starving already this morning after my breakfast lol sooo used to having so many snacks...